rob73 Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 :confused:I have been dating this lady for about three month's now and she seem's to be getting real close to me but when we talk about getting a relationship going she say's that she don't know what she want's to do .. She got a divorce about seven month's ago. From a guy that she said was a total jerk to her and their two boy's.. We have been having sex from time to time and we see each other every day ( we work the same shift in a hospital ). But the other day she said she need's a few day's by herself to figure thing's out or what she want's.. But she still call's and comes over ( im so confused ) i mean i do love this girl but i don't want to be chasing after something that will never be .. ya know? Any word's of wisdom????
boogieboy Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 First glance I'd say that she isnt interested in anything serious with you. Her saying "i have to figure out what I want" is usually a breakup speech. When you feel that "thing" with someone, you want to dive right in. So either she isnt that into you, using you for company, or a rebound, or she isnt quite over her ex husband. Not your fault. You can hang on, but You never know how long you have to wait for her to see things your way. Gotta turn on the charm more. There is a chance that she will NEVER come around too.
BCCA Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 From my experience, 'I dont know what I want' usually means that she knows, but doesnt want to tell you because she knows its going to hurt your feelings. She either doesnt want to be completely alone and without sex, or she really doesnt want to commit herself to anyone. Either way, that leaves you out in the cold. Dont let yourself believe that because she calls and hangs out, that means she changed her mind and wants to make it work. The two events are disconnected from each other. What you need to do is decide what will work for you, see if she wants to play along, and if not, walk. She knows what she wants, I just dont think its you. Ive heard that line before, and its always meant the same thing.
Author rob73 Posted September 15, 2009 Author Posted September 15, 2009 But i ask her if she want's me to leave her alone and she say's no.. that she is just out of a bad divorce and she is the one confused..??.. May B she just want's sex?? i dunno but whatever i guess i will have to have another talk with her about it and if it stay's the same i'll just keep seeing her and find another woman. that sound's rude cuz i really really do love her .. i think .. ok later..
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