dt311unity Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I have been dating this girl for about a month and a half now. She is a kind, trustworthy, and caring girl. We have some common interests and get along great together. I have one problem that I can't seem to figure out though. I am 25 yrs old and she is 21 yrs old. I have a full time career making decent money and live on my own. She lives at home and is currently working at burger king. I don't know why it bothers me, but for some reason this is a turn off for me about her. I know she is trying to find a new job and is considering going to college for something. This is good, but at the same time she isn't trying too hard with either one of those things. She is a hard worker though and tries to make the best of it, which makes me believe she is a strong person. I don't know why I can't look past that and just enjoy the kind of person she is. She is a great girl, I just feel we are at two seperate places in our lives and can't fully connect on that level. I think part of it is that my ex whom I was with for 5 yrs. always had a good career and I was used to that I think. I don't know, maybe just a guess. I mean, am I being too critical?
bluewolf17 Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Uh. I went through this same thing but with the roles reversed. Here's the thing. When you first meet someone you tend to look the other way when it comes to finances/job stability etc. All those things that are important long run, but maybe not when your first getting to know someone. It sounds like you are a more responsible person..financially..yes? It really just depends on how you feel then. If she is the type of person that you would have to care for, someone that doesn't have much passion ( at least in the work ethic dept) then this may pose a problem for you. Maybe not right now, but down the road. For example, I was with someone for a few years. When we met we were more on the same page (students, not making much money, etc). But people change. I got a great paying job, have always been financially reliable and independant, and had goals for myself. He didn't. Afterwhile you start to see that finances are a big issue. It's not about how much money, but how you view money. If you both don't meet eye to eye, it could definetly pose some challenges.
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