AlektraClementine Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I dont know..I guess its situational. If my bf were to give me a detailed list of all the people he had a drink or a meal or spent any time with, Id be bored out of my gore. hahaha. Good point. You're so right to...it's entirely situational. My fiance is a flirty-McFlirtypants and has gotten caught in a few lies here and there. So I expect reports. He knows this. If this is a first for the couple in the OP, it could just be an isolated incident and could blow over. IMO though, a guy picking up the tab for a girl should be reserved for dates. Especially if he's in a R.
AlektraClementine Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 This portion is not a problem. What is a problem is that in not telling her about, it creates the illusion of hiding something. It gives her a reason to feel suspicious, and she had to hear about it second hand. Exactly. And if she's not the type who would normally act jealous or possessive, it would even further the suspicious nature of his intentions. NewAgain raised a good point to. The girl at first, declined the invitation as "not a good idea". Perhaps she sensed his intentions? Or had intentions of her own?
smookie Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Harmless, I travel all the time and this happens all the time, Some people hate to sit alone, some people when they are on the plane have alot of laughs with a delay in flight i would ask the person I was chatting with to have a drink with me or if I was hungry and wanted to eat then I would also ask them if they wanted to eat something. Nothing wrong, alot of people fail to mention things to there S/O because it was infact nothing!
AlektraClementine Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Harmless, Nothing wrong, alot of people fail to mention things to there S/O because it was infact nothing! Ah, but in the OP, he mentions his friend's boyfriend looking visibly irritated that he mentioned it. And really (at least IMO), it's not about having company while traveling. It's more about the type of company, the paying for her drinks, and omitting it all from his girlfriend. And at the end of the day, it's the OP's friend who has the opinion that matters. If this whole incident made her feel uneasy, then it wasn't in fact, harmless.
ReturnToSender Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Ah, but in the OP, he mentions his friend's boyfriend looking visibly irritated that he mentioned it. And really (at least IMO), it's not about having company while traveling. It's more about the type of company, the paying for her drinks, and omitting it all from his girlfriend. And at the end of the day, it's the OP's friend who has the opinion that matters. If this whole incident made her feel uneasy, then it wasn't in fact, harmless. You know..that got me to thinking. Who knows what the dynamics are between them that it made her feel uneasy. Lke i know for me, if the exact same conversation had come up, I couldnt care less one way or the other. But if I had some concerns or doubts about him, then it would strike me in a totally different way. I really do think it was harmless..else the friend woudlnt have brought it up iin the first place...but her feelings..for whatever reason they exist, are valid.
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