CaliGuy Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Maybe if you read this board from a woman's eyes you would undestand what its like to hear alot of you guys just rip us to shreds. I am sure if alot of women had the options they wouldn't age because that is clearly something men find unacceptable in women. THIS is really the crux of your issue, JS. Sorry that you take offense to that. When a woman my age says she prefers younger guys, it doesn't bother me. There are many others who will date me based on who I am and how hard I work to stay in shape. Look, we all are going to age -- and there's no way around that. You can, however, increase your odds of keeping your S/O happy and, should you be single at an older age, increase your dating pool by taking care of yourself. You're complaining about something that may or may not happen to you. If you want to avoid it, keep yourself in shape and be a LOVING person and many men will find you irresistible.
northstar1 Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Because for some women 25 is too old at 22. And for others 40 is too old. And for some, it isn't. But wait another 10 years when that guy hits 50 and it might be a different experience for her then what she was expecting. Or perhaps it's a matter of finacial security. Already at 40 he is aging faster then her in her 20s though. That's nature. The older you get, the faster you age. No, not at all. If a man can enjoy both younger, older and women his age, I think that's great. If you can enjoy all ages and types of women I think that says a level of appreciation for what a woman is rather then being interested in her because she is younger then you first. It's the men that only can enjoy women younger that send a very clear message. I mean, even the girl he is dating is going to get older. What happens then? Does he keep living his life as a revolving door for women to come in and check out when their time is up? Does he get to revel in his masculinty and revealing in the fact that his partner gets older and apparently in quite a few men's eyes, less feminine and worthy of love, sex and respect? Do you think any woman on the face of this planet wants to live her life that way or wants to live her life with a man that is her age, younger or even older then her that has that mentality? What weasel words?? Because I said I was disheartened? That's a weasel word? Alot of men are tooting their own horns about how fabulous they are well old-age and about how completely crappy women are after 30. What do you expect women to take from that? If anything, it's men putting women down here. Not women putting men down. At least we look at you with respect even when you do age. I don't think enough men can say the same. We're kind of screwed no matter what we do. Sure, you might date us when we are younger but heck, no one stays young forever so I guess alot of guys are just on a constant revolving door for the next new generation of legal ladies. But good for you, that's how it should be right? It seems to me that there the worth of a man is apparently more then that of a woman. That seems to be the viewpoint of many men here. CaliGuy, I never personally question your personal motive and desires. I don't think you liked the honesty I used in talking about older men. I am not asking you to defend anything. I was just confused because you said you would date a woman your age if you found one then you said you prefered younger women. It doesn't bother me. I was trying to figure out what you were trying to say because you said two conflicting things. To me, it seems like you partied when you were younger (your own words), now you expect someone younger to settle down with you. Maybe if you read this board from a woman's eyes you would undestand what its like to hear alot of you guys just rip us to shreds. I am sure if alot of women had the options they wouldn't age because that is clearly something men find unacceptable in women. No one ever told you who you should or shouldn't like. JS you admit that you are disillusioned by men, and that is evident on a regular basis in your posts. Nearly all your posts end up making mention of how the majority of men on this board think poorly of women - employing sweeping generalizations which end up being nested in nearly all your posts. I think that this viewpoint is so entrenched in your psyche you don't even realize you are applying it so liberally. It appears you are so jaded and disillusioned by men that it results in a skewed perception of how most men think. From your views on here, it appears that you honestly believe this is the status quo amongst men - which makes it hard to believe your arguments come a place of unbias. Certainly there are some men on here who post offensive and demeaning views about women, but do you really think it is fair to paint the rest of us with such a broad brush?
Jaytb Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 No, not at all. If a man can enjoy both younger, older and women his age, I think that's great. If you can enjoy all ages and types of women I think that says a level of appreciation for what a woman is rather then being interested in her because she is younger then you first. It's the men that only can enjoy women younger that send a very clear message. I mean, even the girl he is dating is going to get older. What happens then? Does he keep living his life as a revolving door for women to come in and check out when their time is up? Does he get to revel in his masculinty and revealing in the fact that his partner gets older and apparently in quite a few men's eyes, less feminine and worthy of love, sex and respect? Do you think any woman on the face of this planet wants to live her life that way or wants to live her life with a man that is her age, younger or even older then her that has that mentality? Let me just put it to you this way: there are extremely shallow men out there. They are not worth your time or anyone else's. They should be ignored. End of story. There's plenty of good men out there. If you can focus on the good instead of the bad, then we would get somewhere with you! What weasel words?? Because I said I was disheartened? That's a weasel word? Alot of men are tooting their own horns about how fabulous they are well old-age and about how completely crappy women are after 30. What do you expect women to take from that? If anything, it's men putting women down here. Not women putting men down. At least we look at you with respect even when you do age. I don't think enough men can say the same. We're kind of screwed no matter what we do. Sure, you might date us when we are younger but heck, no one stays young forever so I guess alot of guys are just on a constant revolving door for the next new generation of legal ladies. But good for you, that's how it should be right? It seems to me that there the worth of a man is apparently more then that of a woman. That seems to be the viewpoint of many men here.a weasel word is saying "a lot", or "many", or "most", or anything that makes a qualification without any sort of substance to back that up. And you even continue to use weasel words in your post! "Many men here" for instance. You're not in the heads of "many men" or "most men", and you aren't even a man. The only authority with which you can base your argument is with your experience with men. I'm guessing you've had some sh*tty experiences with men, and you use that to extrapolate to all men. It'd be like if I dated a few gold diggers, and from those experiences my philosophy will essentially be "many women think men are worth what their bank account is worth" or something like that. Extrapolating how bad people are goes both ways for men and women, and it is equally wrong in both cases.
CaliGuy Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Jersey does tend to generalize a lot. I'm pretty sure most/all of it is based on HER experiences with men and not men in general.
nyc25 Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 my ex dated a 50 yrd old while she was 24. Although it started as an affair with me. She saw no issues with it. She thought he was very handsome and had a nice body and he was sincere because he told her that hes scared she'll make him leave his wife. He also would buy her many things. So i guess with love crazy things can happen.
kiss_andmakeup Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 Wow OP, I am pretty much the opposite of your friends. I am rarely attracted to anyone under 25 (I am 22) and am most attracted to men in their late 20's or early 30's. Current bf is 33 and mmmm I find him so sexy! Don't worry about what your friends think...who cares? Once both people are adults and have reached a certain plateau maturity-wise, age, especially a piddly 5 years, is nothing! ;]
Gold Pile Posted October 14, 2009 Posted October 14, 2009 The younger you are, the longer the years seem. 2 or 3 years is "forever" to 12 year old and "just around the corner' to a 50 year old. When I was 25 I told "older' women I was 30 and told 20 year olds I was 21. Now-a-days I can't really pull off claiming I'm younger, but I still add years when I'm after an older (than me) woman. After age 35 or so, most start seeing 5-10 year older as dating possibilities.
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