kizik Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Were you talking to moi? I wasn't- I'm on your side. Yeah I was, I just couldn't tell what you meant about narcissists. I will always be on D's side!
aerogurl87 Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 True...but I'm still surprised and disappointed...I guess I just have a more open minded approach to dating than she (and attractive women?) do. Not all attractive women have horrendous attitudes. I've been told lots of times that I'm hot and I've dated at least 2 guys that my friends looked at me and said "what the f*ck is wrong with this picture". One guy my best friend said looked good as long as he had a paper bag on his head (he had a nice body) and the other was this extremely geeky guy that no one would've guessed I would have ever dated. But I dated them both because when we first met they seemed to have great personalities and that's what I've learned. Looks only get a guy so far with me, because if the personality doesn't match the hotness on the outside then I would rather have the plain, not so hot guy with the awesome personality any day.
vanilla87 Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Me me me me me me me me I only skimmed this post and still felt disgusted. I love how i can make a huge supporting evidence to what is being said in each post with a a bunch of details, but you just type the most plain and least effect postings that are suppose to get a rise out of me just cause you disagree with what I'm saying. I've known 4 year olds that can hold a better argument with words that are considered a 4th grade level of intelligence. Anyway, enough of that irrelevant bull for the thread... (FYI - IF anything is misspelled its due to a lack of electrical wiring in the base of my keyboarding that has been short circuiting on and off for the last 6-8 months. Procrastination on my end, sorry folks!) So whom has been on both sides of this argument? being attractive who has rejected and been rejected as well?
D-Lish Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Yeah I was, I just couldn't tell what you meant about narcissists. I will always be on D's side! I was supporting your notion that humility is more enriching than being a self centered jack-azz:p Because most jack-azzes don't have the depth or capability to recognize how ridiculous they are.
kizik Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 I love how i can make a huge supporting evidence to what is being said in each post with a a bunch of details, but you just type the most plain and least effect postings that are suppose to get a rise out of me just cause you disagree with what I'm saying. I've known 4 year olds that can hold a better argument with words that are considered a 4th grade level of intelligence. Anyway, enough of that irrelevant bull for the thread... (FYI - IF anything is misspelled its due to a lack of electrical wiring in the base of my keyboarding that has been short circuiting on and off for the last 6-8 months. Procrastination on my end, sorry folks!) So whom has been on both sides of this argument? being attractive who has rejected and been rejected as well? Massive fail.
caramel c Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 I am laughing so hard rice crackers are coming out of my nose
BCCA Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 being attractive who has rejected and been rejected as well? Thats just it, everyone is a hypocrit in that regard. People CERTAINLY wouldnt date someone they werent attracted to, but then get upset when they themselves are rejected; we've all done it, myself included. But its just one more of the dating worlds many contradictions
D-Lish Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 IF anything is misspelled its due to a lack of electrical wiring in the base of my keyboarding that has been short circuiting on and off for the last 6-8 months. Procrastination on my end, sorry folks!) So whom has been on both sides of this argument? being attractive who has rejected and been rejected as well? It's alright, my keyboard mixes up then/than and who/whom all the time as well. Carry on sista with the bad keyboard.
BCCA Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Massive fail. failblog is the greatest thing ever lol
vanilla87 Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 It's alright, my keyboard mixes up then/than and who/whom all the time as well. Carry on sista with the bad keyboard. thanks Its annoying that I was getting picked on by my grammatical error of something that I couldn't fix! Sometimes my entire keyboard freezes (I have a laptop) and I can't do anything. I can plugin a mouse and do stuff, but I can't type so its not fun when I'm in the middle of posting on a page here on LS. Right now its being nice, I say give it two minutes and a key will get stuck in the middle of a sentence and the letter "R" will just repeatedly go across the page...
aerogurl87 Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 So whom has been on both sides of this argument? being attractive who has rejected and been rejected as well? I have. I got rejected by this guy I had a pseudo fling with for a weekend. He was rich, drove a nice car, took me out to eat at the nicest restaurants when we were together, and flew me out of town for the weekend. Chemistry was ok with him, not mind blowing, although most of my friends said to pursue him like he was god due to his physical and financial attractiveness. So I did, because the more we talked the more I started to like him. Well to make a long story short, he basically led me on for about two weeks before completely disappearing. Second guy I met in a club one night. The lights were dim and I couldn't see much, so a not so sober me, gave him my number. He texted me the next day asking to take me out on a date and I politely declined him. I didn't want to be mean but after having to hide out in the back of the club in fear that he'd see me and keep harrassing me all night, I had to finally put my foot down. I called him one day and told him straight out that I was not interested in him in any way, shape, or form. Yes we had had fun dancing the night away, but that was only one night. I didn't want to try and date him, let alone be in a relationship with him. After about 2 months, he finally got the point and stopped texting me constantly and half stalking me at the club I went to.
vanilla87 Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Massive fail. 1. You sound like a very angry middle aged man who has a stick up his butt about this topic big time. 2. Give advice or argue about what the topic is and stop picking a fight with anyone that responds to your post just cause its about grammar or something similar. 3. I looked at your page of posts/threads and notice you post way too much and seem very angry in general on here. Maybe you need to take a breather and come back with a fresh perspective before coming back to this specific thread on LS. 4. You really do seem like you have been rejected by a lot of women in the past with the way you respond to any post on here. I'm not defending anyone, just being honest and stating that fact that you are too analytic in this whole approach. 5. I'm gtting bored with your lame tactics as trying to manipulate the situation to your needs. I've been trying to ask you to stick on topic because you are taking over the thread with rants and raves about NOTHING that has to do with the topic at hand! I'm trying to speak for everyone that actually wants to have a healthy debate of the issue at hand. Lastly... I'm getting annoyed in general and was on her as a way to mentally clear my head before I start my paper on PTSD but thank you Kizik for being a time waster in arguing with me about nothing in general... I'll be back when it starts to get less grade school and having me sink down to levels that are childish for someone that is my age... See everyone later and have fun with this topic!
Hkizzle Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 lol, no that is a movie quote Still has meaning
dreamergrl Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Thats just it, everyone is a hypocrit in that regard. People CERTAINLY wouldnt date someone they werent attracted to, but then get upset when they themselves are rejected; we've all done it, myself included. But its just one more of the dating worlds many contradictions Agreed. I doubt anyone here has dated someone they found no attraction in. There has to be something to start a spark.
Tayla Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 I've seen and heard this debate time and again. Its in perception and personal taste. A study was done at one of the ivy leagues on this very topic. They placed five average joes in a room with five HOT chicks. The key to this experiment was just what was being discussed. If you dont allow them to see one another, Meaning room dark and blind folds on, the Ladies were more apt to listen to the voice , the subtle movement the men would make . At the end of the experiment they asked the women which one they were attracted to and perhaps what in particular caught there interest. Most said, the smell ( if he wore cologne, or his natural aroma ( just clean cut), Or his charming interest during discussion. When they were re-introduced to the guys 3 of the 5 women still said they would go out with their choice of guy . Two of the women reacted with the typical Ohh yuck! The study proved two things, we are apt by given time to find that IT factor in another person and secondly there will often be those who are superficial and go strictly on looks despite how with blindfolds on they had no problem being polite or intrigued by the opposing partner. Let it also be noted that each subject wore monitors for breathing, heart rate, and measured the level of sweat, ( yes folks its true! We tend to perspire more when interested in a prospect, its our body releasing the natural hormones that attract others). Anyhoos, aside from the experiment I can honestly say that AGE plays a huge factor in how attractiveness is perceived. Not the age of the subject but the age of the person checking them out. It can boil down to how a person was raised too. There really are ways for both genders to be polite in how they handle an offer or a rejection. I prefer to use humor, it breaks the tension and keeps folks comfortable about themselves. On an off note- Thaddeus and Kizik seemed to carry some interesting perspectives and really do deserve to be heard out. I got what they were saying....
shadowplay Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Massive fail. shall we summon keyboard cat?
vanilla87 Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 I've read that from the Ivy Gate Blog about it Tayla. Its a very interesting thing that they decided to do and makes a huge point about how people are attracted to one another. Then again when people are locked in a room in the dark and only have to rely on their other four senses, it makes things very interesting trying to connect with someone....
gypsy_nicky Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Anyhoos, aside from the experiment I can honestly say that AGE plays a huge factor in how attractiveness is perceived. Not the age of the subject but the age of the person checking them out. . can you elaborate on this please
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