espec10001 Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I'm starting to wonder if maybe I am just too eccentric to be in a relationship. I'm weird I know it, and I have difficulty relating to a lot of people because I'm weird. I'm not speaking about anything sexual, just sort of "different", like I don't seem to follow what other people are doing around me, like their thoughts or their feelings and mine aren't the same. Anyone else just think they are too "out there" to be in a relationship?
Woggle Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Weirdos fall in love all the time. Try to find someone as odd as you are.
lino Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I don't know but something definitely isn't right and I don't know what it is. I don't think that I am but maybe in others eyes I am too weird
caramel c Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Yes, sometimes I feel the same way. I embrace my weirdness though, and wish to find someone who will find it to be charming lol
bluewolf17 Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Ha. Funny post, OP. Yes! Sometimes I really do feel that way. I just have to find someone as weird as me.
ReturnToSender Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 No matter how "weird" you are...theres always going to be someone just as weird...or weirder. I like to call it quirks..they are all part of my charm
bluewolf17 Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 No matter how "weird" you are...theres always going to be someone just as weird...or weirder. I like to call it quirks..they are all part of my charm Couldn't have said it better myself!
GorillaTheater Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I just have to find someone as weird as me. Worked out okay for me. Of course, now I'm trying to figure out what "normal" is.
Author espec10001 Posted September 15, 2009 Author Posted September 15, 2009 Hmm. I used to consider myself like Kermit the Frog. Now I might be turning into Gonzo
bhweller Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I have felt this way many times, basically just figured I was a nerd. However, I have taken a further step that you might consider. Figure out exactly how and why you are weird. You may discover that you really are not weird, or you may get to the nitty gritty of why you have the personality that you have. In my case I have had a form of adhd that was never treated and this has effected every aspect of my life. I always knew I was different, but now I know why and I am both adjusting my life style and also getting some medication to make social/work situations better. Its not so much being weird as being totally clueless about your own internal workings that is the big issue. Most differences can be dealt with but first you must know that you have them.
bluewolf17 Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I have felt this way many times, basically just figured I was a nerd. I'm proud of my nerdiness. It suits me.
looking4 green grass Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Yes, all the time. But I find equally weird guys to date. My sense of humor is waaaaaaaaaaay out there.
Jersey Shortie Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Sometimes I feel like that. I am a little quarky. I don't feel like I fit into most perceptions of the type of idealistic woman a man wants.
stepka Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I have felt this way many times, basically just figured I was a nerd. However, I have taken a further step that you might consider. Figure out exactly how and why you are weird. You may discover that you really are not weird, or you may get to the nitty gritty of why you have the personality that you have. In my case I have had a form of adhd that was never treated and this has effected every aspect of my life. I always knew I was different, but now I know why and I am both adjusting my life style and also getting some medication to make social/work situations better. Its not so much being weird as being totally clueless about your own internal workings that is the big issue. Most differences can be dealt with but first you must know that you have them. Oh lord, that is my life story. Yes, me too, and once I discovered that in myself, I realized that all the people who are the most interesting to me also have ADD. There really are a lot of us interesting people out there, but it's difficult for us to meet b/c we tend to be shy--we've been shot down so many times. The best thing for us is to go find people who share our interests b/c we tend to drive "normal people" crazy--as if there really was such a thing as normal people. I think sometimes they're crazier than we are, or at least more repressed, but there are more of them so they get to make the rules.
Sam Spade Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I'm starting to wonder if maybe I am just too eccentric to be in a relationship. I'm weird I know it, and I have difficulty relating to a lot of people because I'm weird. I'm not speaking about anything sexual, just sort of "different", like I don't seem to follow what other people are doing around me, like their thoughts or their feelings and mine aren't the same. Anyone else just think they are too "out there" to be in a relationship? Yes, I completely relate, and that's okay - I found a similarly goofy girlfriend, so it's all good. The point being that if others think that they have trouble relating to you, you probably wouldn't have much fun relating to them either. (A conventional "perfect" girl with all the 'right' degrees, milestones and aspirations could actually be a but scary/or boring to death to me.) Conversely, nobody is too goofy for a relationship. While mediocrity, by definition, is the norm, there are plenty of goofy people out there.
westernxer Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Yes, I'm too weird for a relationship. It's so below me. LOL
deux ex machina Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Yes, I completely relate, and that's okay - I found a similarly goofy girlfriend, so it's all good. The point being that if others think that they have trouble relating to you, you probably wouldn't have much fun relating to them either. (A conventional "perfect" girl with all the 'right' degrees, milestones and aspirations could actually be a but scary/or boring to death to me.) Conversely, nobody is too goofy for a relationship. While mediocrity, by definition, is the norm, there are plenty of goofy people out there. Where does one find these mythical "goofy people"? I want one of my very own.
D-Lish Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 I worry that I won't find someone that will completely understand me, and if they do, they'll be turned off by my dark side. Weird is cool with me though.
sumdude Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 I worry that I won't find someone that will completely understand me, and if they do, they'll be turned off by my dark side. Weird is cool with me though. I've let go of the hoping someone will understand me because I barely understand myself most of the time. Just someone who will accept me and vice versa. I like 'weird' if you really mean unique. The way i look at it? Most people aren't unique enough for me. The rare ones ... they're something cool. i surrond myself with characters and enjoy it being a bit of one myself.
Ruby Slippers Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Right now, I feel like I will never have another relationship again, so yeah, pretty much.
Cora Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Yes, a lot of the time I feel this way. I am just to weird to love.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 LOL...yeah, I feel out of sync with the human race much of the time. It seems, though - that the guys that have fallen in love with me, they adore my weird quirks. Like the fact that I have terrible ADD and can switch from talking about one topic to something completely off-the-wall and unrelated. I have weird thoughts and observations and I ask people very pointed and personal questions. I've had more than one guy say, "Gees, usually women just ask my favorite color or how my day is." I laugh way too freaking much (and at times, too loud). And I can have a very dark/dry/sarcastic sense of humor. Am I a weirdo? Sure. But I like it. "Normal" people bore me.
splintered thing Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Right now, I feel like I will never have another relationship again, so yeah, pretty much. Same here, but not because of weirdness...plenty of people are weird *and* romantically appealing. Me, I make a good friend, just not anything beyond that...the secret weirdness sauce is just a bonus. Weirdness usually doesn't eliminate your chances...but mere weirdness alone isn't enough to get you into a relationship either.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Yes, a lot of the time I feel this way. I am just to weird to love. TO love? Or to BE loved? I can't agree, Cora. Learn to embrace and love your own weirdness and people will, too. Trust me.
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