How different is 'heartbreak' as a teenager and adult?

[Maoky]

I'm still a teenager, and sometimes I wonder how much worse the pain can get when relationships start to get more serious as an adult?

 

Can anyone share their experiences? Does it really get worse? I'm finding it hard already to cope, and I haven't been faced with infidelity or anything, just broke up because I'm graduating and she's not, yet.

 

So imagining that others are facing divorce, 2+ year breaks, family losses, and all that, are going through probably 10 times more pain than I am, really really scares me. When you look back on it, is teenage heartbreak almost nothing compared to what you face now?

 

Just curious

[logitech]

Sorry to break it to you but yeah. For me the breaks that occurred in my teenage years were nothing compared to what I've experienced now. For me it was mainly that I lived with this girl for so long that I felt we were becoming one person in a way, and then that was torn away. So much history lost in an instant.

[quankanne]

your perspective changes as you mature ... in the sense that you realize you *will* survive heartbreak. And that some kinds of heartbreak hurt more than others, i.e., loss of a child compared to break-up with a lover.

[Ilovecake]

The issues change, what you have invested in a relationship changes, your needs change but at the end it hurts just as bad no matter what age you are.

[Butterflying]

My first heartbreak was the worse I've ever had. Perhaps I've never loved anyone as much as the first. But I know I handled it better the second, third, and fourth times around.

 

Maybe I love less and less each time. I don't know. But I also know that the love has been different each time. Better each time. And easier to get over.

[ReturnToSender]

Im with butterfly...my first breakup was wretched... I alwys hoped as I got older Id realize I was just a kid and it didnt mean anything, but nope. Not true. But then, it wsnt a couple months and I didnt date a bunch of guys...my first bf and I dated for 2 years and we planned to marry.

 

Anyway, I guess it depends on the people and how intense the relationship was. What matters is that your feelings are totally justified... No one can blow it off caus there wasnt a marriage and kids involved. Ive seen people walk away from marriages without a second thought to be with someone else right away and its like they dont feel anything for the person they vowed to spend the rest of their lives with.

[trueblue72ny]

i personally do not find any difference between my teenage years and now (37). it sucked then, and it sucks now. depending on how deeply i was involved, or emotionally invested, depends on how deeply i will hurt.

 

if i wasnt that into someone than it wont be as bad as if i was head over heels.

 

it doesnt matter what your status is to the world, if you are married or not. it just depends on how deeply you feel about someone.

[silic0ntoad]

It's worse now. Sucked then. But now, you feel the deceit of time alot more acutely. As you get older, the harder it gets, they say. Completely true.