Red_S Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Hello all, heres the deal: I was dating this girl for 7 months the 1st of this month, then she turned a little different on me, we had a few small arguments and then she said she need a break, I agreed. I sent her a text once a day to see how she was doing and such and she didnt reply to me, until a few days later she replied and said "i dont want to talk, i dont feel the same about you" i asked her suspiciously if there was a new guy and she said she wasnt saying anything, but yes that was the case. she ended up dumping me for a guy she had only been messaging on facebook for under a week. so after that i didnt talk to her, i felt so hurt and bitter and angry all i did was cry and mope, but i started to realize that if she loved me like she always said she did, she wouldnt have hurt me like that. so i made it my goal to go out and meet new people and party and stuff. i didnt contact her at all, and i made my plans known on my facebook. then yesterday she starts talking to me and asks me a bunch of questions and i told her i made out with a girl at the bar. she seemed verrrry upset about this and said she was hurt i got over her so fast??? she then kept telling me about her new guy and all i could say was i didnt care and im happy for her to be happy(at that time i couldve cared less about ever talking to her again so her talk didnt upset me, and i was acting like an ass too) i ended up putting a pic of me and the girl as my profile picture and she said it hurt her so bad that she said "i guess we're even now" i dont know why but after talking to her my heart hurt and all that i was trying to achieve by forgetting her, was lost. so i told her the next day i was sorry for being an ass and id like to be on good terms atleast. she told me she missed me, but i didnt say it back and she told me to tell her how i feel, but i didnt. honestly it feels like im back at square one, confused again and wanting her in my life again. a bit of detalis about us... im 20 shes 19 she lives 2 hours away and i always went to see her (23 trips total lots of time spent together) her new guy lives in my same city and i doubt he'll be up for visiting her as much as i did(they also never met face to face) also we broke up once before but there was no real reason, like noone wronged the other(she broke up that time too, and i hurt so bad and gave her another chance hoping it wouldnt repeat itself)i feel she regrets what she did and wants me back, but im so hurt she put me in 2nd place after how good ive been to her. i still love her, and i gave my ALL to her, and im afraid i might cave and try to work things out, but if she never talked to me again id be fine with that atleast for a month or 2 so i can maybe meet someone new cuz i rather be in a meaningful relationship than just sleeing around and partying. anyways im sorry this is all jumbled and messy, i just dont know what to think... i thought i was getting over her fine, but then she had to talk to me p.s. i do miss her and having her in my arms made me feel like the king of the world. any advice? also she wasnt a bad person, she just changed on me in a split second.
Angelo_28 Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Hi, You guys are young...being confused about your feelings is only natural...but if she never met this guy, and her being alone got her to missing you, then my friend you know she loves you. Just be honest about your feelings, don't hold nothing back, tell her if she hurt you and be honest with her as well as with yourself. That's the only way you can pursue a serious relationship...if built on honesty, your fondation will be solid...but building on miss-trust and your in for a descructive result in the end. Just be patient and tell her what lies in your heart...then let her make the next move. If you love her, then don't give up!!! Good luck Angelo
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