d_marie Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I'm so confused...My friend recently introduced me to this guy she knew, we became friends and now I have a HUGE crush on him, I like him alot. I stupidly made the mistake of sleeping with him, I really don't know why. I guess I just like him so much and have such a connection with him. I asked him where this was going and I told him that if it wasn't going anywhere than I couldn't sleep with him because that wasn't fair to me, so we talked about it and the only things he could say were "Let's see where this goes" and "I haven't been single for a really, really long time and I don't know what I want". But everytime he gets drunk he talks about how much he likes me. One night he even asked if I'd be his girlfriend and I said yes, but the next day when I asked "Are we really together or were you just really drunk"...he was just really drunk. It's really started to hurt me because I feel like I screwed things up by sleeping with him. I'm trying not to bring things up and trying not to pressure him because I don't want to seem clingy but this is getting rediculous. I really like this guy and I want to be with him. Does he like me or is he just playing head games and using me for sex? Could it really be that he just wants to see what happens? It's driving me crazy because I'M crazy about this dude.
loveslife Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 MY best guess based on what you described is he's playing head games with you to use you for sex. He might not know what he wants, but sadly he's too much of an idiot to recognize your value. Ask yourself what it is you really like about him. --------------------------------------------------- "A lot" is two words.
Author d_marie Posted September 15, 2009 Author Posted September 15, 2009 Thanks, I mean did I screw things up because I slept with him? It just...happened. I don't know why I insist on blaming myself because HE'S a typical *******.
boogieboy Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Sleeping with him right away doesnt mean he liked you less because of it. Doesnt always work that way. But....hes not into you, otherwise he wouldnt be playing the head games. He will never want you for a gf, so cut your losses. You can sleep with him if thats what you want, but thats all youre going to get from him.
loveslife Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Thanks, I mean did I screw things up because I slept with him? It just...happened. I don't know why I insist on blaming myself because HE'S a typical *******. OMG, NOOOO, you did not screw anything up. You're a human being who deserves to be treated with respect. It's his issue, not yours! The only thing is next time get to know the guy a little more first. But don't blame yourself for his unacceptable behavior.
Author d_marie Posted September 15, 2009 Author Posted September 15, 2009 Sleeping with him right away doesnt mean he liked you less because of it. Doesnt always work that way. But....hes not into you, otherwise he wouldnt be playing the head games. He will never want you for a gf, so cut your losses. You can sleep with him if thats what you want, but thats all youre going to get from him. I guess I should cut my losses.
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