Smoking & Dating...what's the deal?

[Pyro]

So here are my questions:

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?
  
• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?
  
• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?
  
• If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?
  

 

Not a smoker here

 

Whatever floats their boats. Good chunk of my friends smoke. As long as they don't blow their smoke at me then we're good. I'd like my state to pass the no smoking law in public places, but it hasn't happened yet.

 

If she was a lite smoker then yes, other wise no. I remember making out with smokers and it doesn't taste so great.

 

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[Thornton]

The whole idea of "Id never date a smoker cause its bad for their health" I dont know...I know lots of people who would be offended if someone said I dont date fat people...for instance. Now, I get that there are super health gym people who have strict diets and dont do anything remotely harmful to their bodies...totally understandable anything unhealthy would be incompatible with thier lifestyle as a whole.

 

I have to admit, I wouldn't really want to date a fat person either... too many health risks, obviously not very active and not concerned enough about their own looks. I wouldn't want to date a heavy drinker either... a few social drinks every now and again is acceptable, but getting completely smashed is not. The difference is, you're allowed to say that you don't want to date a smoker/drinker, but it isn't socially acceptable to say you wouldn't want to date a fatty.

[Thornton]

I'd like my state to pass the no smoking law in public places, but it hasn't happened yet.

 

Gosh, you mean there are still places in the western world where you're allowed to smoke indoors, in public places?!? People haven't been allowed to do that in Europe for years!

[Pyro]

Gosh, you mean there are still places in the western world where you're allowed to smoke indoors, in public places?!? People haven't been allowed to do that in Europe for years!

 

Sad but true. At least a majority of the 50 states have outlawed it. Out of the 50 states, I live in the state of discontent.

[Sibyl Vane]

well if you take away the obvious health concerns i think smoking is still cool

 

and it has one added benefit with women....none of them ever put you into the "nice guy" category if they know you smoke.

Alpha, I can say with absolute certainty that any days you ever had of being cool are long behind you.

 

I don't care if people smoke but if they do it because they think it's cool...

[Pyro]

well if you take away the obvious health concerns i think smoking is still cool

 

and it has one added benefit with women....none of them ever put you into the "nice guy" category if they know you smoke.

 

:lmao::lmao:

[sweetjasmine]

just some guys who would have a cigar or cigarello, here and there, when socializing.

 

My SO is like that. He asked me if it bothered me, and I answered honestly, so he agreed to only have cigars when he's hanging out with his father, which doesn't happen very often.

 

I don't want to lecture him, tell him what to do, make him feel guilty, or take away one of the things he does to bond with his dad. But. It still bothers me a bit.

 

What bugs me the most is the laundry list of bad arguments he'll make in defense of it, from "I don't inhale" (studies show that's not true - all cigar smokers inhale even when they don't "inhale" - and you're breathing in your own secondhand smoke anyway) to "it doesn't have the chemicals that cigarettes have" (not true) to "I only have one" (which is equal to a pack of cigarettes) to "how's it any worse than drinking?" (because studies show that moderate alcohol consumption has health benefits, but no level of tobacco use has been found to be safe)... If someone made those arguments to justify smoking cigarettes, he'd be the first to call bullsh-t, so I get frustrated when he says things like that.

[ReturnToSender]

I have to admit, I wouldn't really want to date a fat person either... too many health risks, obviously not very active and not concerned enough about their own looks. I wouldn't want to date a heavy drinker either... a few social drinks every now and again is acceptable, but getting completely smashed is not. The difference is, you're allowed to say that you don't want to date a smoker/drinker, but it isn't socially acceptable to say you wouldn't want to date a fatty.

 

Totally and exactly. We all have our preferences and know what we're attracted to and will put up with. But as a smoker, it sucks how its ok to give me a lecture about my "evil death sticks" but an overweight person with a burger and shake dont get a lecture on nutrition.

 

Personally, I dont go around lecturing anyone abotu anything...if someone wants to eat like that, or drink themselves into a stupor, or jack up their veins or what have you..thats as much their choice as smoking is mine. Just let me be! LoL... and if youre not attracted to me or wouldnt date me cause I smoke...no real need to announce that. I mean..does this person go aroudn walking up to random people saying "I woudl never date you" Probably not.

[loveslife]

I used to smoke when I was young and stupid. It's my biggest regret. What a terrible habit.

 

The only purpose of cigarettes is to deliver nicotine into your system. People sit around trying to figure out ways to keep you addicted so they can make more money.

 

I have dated a smoker since I quit. I'd rather not in general. I don't want all the toxic chemicals getting into my system. That's one of the things with smoking, you share it.

[sweetjasmine]

Totally and exactly. We all have our preferences and know what we're attracted to and will put up with. But as a smoker, it sucks how its ok to give me a lecture about my "evil death sticks" but an overweight person with a burger and shake dont get a lecture on nutrition.

 

I agree about the lecturing part. I don't lecture people, either, and I think it's pretty presumptuous and rude.

 

But at the same time, I can see how people would be more inclined to lecture smokers and not people who are overweight. When someone smokes a cigarette, it affects the people surrounding them to some extent. When someone eats a cheeseburger, it doesn't affect anyone else.

[Jaytb]

I don't mind if someone else smokes so long as they're doing it outside (if it's inside, they'll likely burn the building down and kill me, so that's when it becomes a problem.) I'm a nonsmoker, no interest in even a puff of that stuff. I also wouldn't date a smoker. I don't like the smell, and it just can't be covered up. I suppose if there was good compatibility and I couldn't tell that she's a smoker, then it might be a possibility. But I don't see it happening. If I can tell that she smokes, then it's a complete turn off.

[Ruby Slippers]

Are you or are you not a current smoker?

Never been a smoker.

 

If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?

It's their choice, but I think anyone using toxic chemicals is most likely using them to counteract some kind of mental or life issue they are not dealing with in a healthy way (I have not been innocent of this myself, with weed and alcohol use).

 

If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?

Never. In addition to what I said above, it smells like **** and gets all in your hair and clothes, and smoker's breath is gross.

[alphamale]

Are you or are you not a current smoker?

Never been a smoker.

 

If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?

It's their choice, but I think anyone using toxic chemicals is most likely using them to counteract some kind of mental or life issue they are not dealing with in a healthy way (I have not been innocent of this myself, with weed and alcohol use).

 

If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?

Never. In addition to what I said above, it smells like **** and gets all in your hair and clothes, and smoker's breath is gross.

no, tell me your REAL feelings

[ReturnToSender]

I agree about the lecturing part. I don't lecture people, either, and I think it's pretty presumptuous and rude.

 

But at the same time, I can see how people would be more inclined to lecture smokers and not people who are overweight. When someone smokes a cigarette, it affects the people surrounding them to some extent. When someone eats a cheeseburger, it doesn't affect anyone else.

 

Hah! You know what? I just now realized the irony in that.... they dont want the second hand smoke, so instead of avoiding me, they approach me, enter my personal space, and lecture me. I think next time I will say "Run! Save yourselves!" hehe!

[Lish]

Are you or are you not a current smoker?

I've never even tried it.

 

If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?

I feel sorry for alot of them. Alot of people start smoking when they're young, have a moment of madness and stupidly give into peer pressure, and end up with an addiction that can last a life time.

 

If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?

Ha. This is tricky. I'm a medical student (I'll be a doctor when I finish my degree), so most would assume I would be big on the lectures, but it really is the persons choice. Most people don't need educated about the problems it can cause. Like I said, I don't smoke & it's no way something I'd encourage, but a person goes beyond their nicotine addiction. In Northern Ireland/UK, it's illegal to smoke in bars or enclosed public places, meaning smokers have to go outside. If a guy was a heavy smoker & left me alone to go smoke, I'd be really tiffed off.

[sweetjasmine]

Hah! You know what? I just now realized the irony in that.... they dont want the second hand smoke, so instead of avoiding me, they approach me, enter my personal space, and lecture me. I think next time I will say "Run! Save yourselves!" hehe!

 

"If you hadn't come up to me, you wouldn't have inhaled my secondhand smoke! Run away before you breathe in more!"

 

Or you could try the one a friend of mine pulled when another friend jokingly did the "those things will kill you" line: she pretended to be shocked and said, "Holy sh-t, really?!" and threw the butt on the ground and stepped on it.

[sunshinegirl]

 

So here are my questions:

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?
  
• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?
  
• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?
  
• If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?
  

 

Not a smoker and I don't like being around it (smoke).

 

If I already know and like a person and THEN find out they smoke, it's not like it ruins our friendship. But if I meet someone for the first time and they're smoking, eh. It colors/reduces my interest in hanging out with them.

 

I would not date a smoker. My dad smoked and my mom was allergic; it created fierce arguments in our household and made tobacco a very sensitive issue for me.

[alphamale]

If I already know and like a person and THEN find out they smoke, it's not like it ruins our friendship. But if I meet someone for the first time and they're smoking, eh. It colors/reduces my interest in hanging out with them.

hmm thats interesting

[RedDevil66]

I smoked for over 26 yrs and just quit 15 months ago. My BF smokes and it turns me off. If I were to meet someone else, I would prefer if he didn't smoke

[monkey00]

Hi, i'm Alphamale and I smoke cigarettes.

 

Yes, I am a leper and i'm killing myself while paying $10 for a pack of smokes.

 

I feel you man, it's the same price here in NY. I don't smoke, my friend does so it is a pricey activity to partake.

 

So here are my questions:

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?
  
• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?
  
• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?
  
• If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?
  

 

- not a smoker, never was never will be

- It depends on who's smoking and what situation I'm in. If they're in my vicinity or blowing in my face I'm not interested in partaking in second-hand smoke. Otherwise it doesn't really bother me and I don't think any differently of people who smoke vs who don't.

- I think if there's good compatibility I would consider dating a smoker. Of course I'd expect her to wean off of it at some point. Otherwise I prefer non-smokers.

[JohnP82]

1) Not a smoker and never been one

 

2) Honestly people can do what they want, but I do feel a little repulsed by smokers. My dad got cancer from smoking and since then I don't want to be around it.

 

3) No, I wouldn't date a smoker

[aerogurl87]

thats a new one, i'll have to try that line on the girls

 

woman: so, alpha, you're cute

alpha: you're not so bad yourself (cough cough hack hack)

woman: it's too bad you smoke coz now we can't go out

alpha: well i'm (hack) a "stress smoker"

woman: what's that?

alpha: well its a phenomena where i smoke only when under stress

woman: you must be under a lot of stress coz you just had 4 smokes in the last hour

alpha: *silence*

 

Haha, yeah I didn't know he was a smoker till I got into his car and could smell the faint smell of ciggarettes lingering. I can't even tell when I kiss him that he smokes since his breath is always minty fresh. But if he were one of those crazy chain smokers that smoked 24/7 I would've passed him up. And he is a stress smoker, he only smokes when he gets really stressed which I can deal with.

[alphamale]

I smoked for over 26 yrs and just quit 15 months ago. My BF smokes and it turns me off. If I were to meet someone else, I would prefer if he didn't smoke

so you're sort of de-sensitized to your BF's smoking?

[ReturnToSender]

"If you hadn't come up to me, you wouldn't have inhaled my secondhand smoke! Run away before you breathe in more!"

 

Or you could try the one a friend of mine pulled when another friend jokingly did the "those things will kill you" line: she pretended to be shocked and said, "Holy sh-t, really?!" and threw the butt on the ground and stepped on it.

 

LoL!! Oh now I cant wait..Id actually do that what your friend did..just to see the reaction. hehe! A bit like how people like to tell me "wow, youre tall" I once looked around the room as if Im just noticing and said shocked "omg! youre right!" I was having drinks though, I can be such a shyt when Im feeling giddy

 

You know everyone...the bright side of dating a smoker is...considering the recession and the rising cost of taxes on cigarettes..if you come across a smoker then you know they have a bit of disposable income...or at the least, not flat broke.

 

Forget fancy cars and luxury homes...the car might be a rental and the house might be in forclosure..but if someone can afford cigarattes...you know they've got their finances in order

[alphamale]

Forget fancy cars and luxury homes...the car might be a rental and the house might be in forclosure..but if someone can afford cigarattes...you know they've got their finances in order

indeed....