Smoking & Dating...what's the deal?

[alphamale]

Hi, i'm Alphamale and I smoke cigarettes.

 

Yes, I am a leper and i'm killing myself while paying $10 for a pack of smokes. Finding women to date is harder once they see me puffing away or smell smoke on me. Strangers give me dirty looks and tell me i'm killing myself (which i am). Sometimes i think paedophiles get treated better than smokers...

 

So here are my questions:

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?
  
• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?
  
• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?
  
• If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?
  

[JamesM]

Hi, i'm Alphamale and I smoke cigarettes.

 

Yes, I am a leper and i'm killing myself while paying $10 for a pack of smokes. Finding women to date is harder once they see me puffing away or smell smoke on me. Strangers give me dirty looks and tell me i'm killing myself (which i am). Sometimes i think paedophiles get treated better than smokers...

 

Are you really paying $10 a pack!?!

 

So here are my questions:

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?
  
• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?
  
• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?
  
• If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?
  

 

Never been a smoker. Tried it once or twice and actually liked it. That scared me enough to quit trying it. My dad was a big smoker, and I did not like the smell.

 

I think that they are killing themselves for alot of money. Seriously, with as much data as we have today, I cannot understand why someone would start smoking. As for those that do it, I can understand why it would be difficult to quit. I do not think less of smokers, but I do not like being around them while they smoke. I don't plan on going down with them. I have had friends that smoked and I did hang around with them, but I did it in spite of the smoke...not because I was okay with the smoke. It is hard to tell a smoker how bad the stuff smells.

 

If I were single, I don't think so. When I was single, then I was attracted to a girl who smoked. I made the comment before we dated that I couldn't imagine kissing a smoker. She quit for as long as we dated.

 

Last question does not apply to me.

[Phateless]

Hi, i'm Alphamale and I smoke cigarettes.

 

Yes, I am a leper and i'm killing myself while paying $10 for a pack of smokes. Finding women to date is harder once they see me puffing away or smell smoke on me. Strangers give me dirty looks and tell me i'm killing myself (which i am). Sometimes i think paedophiles get treated better than smokers...

 

So here are my questions:

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?
  
• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?
  
• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?
  
• If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?
  

 

Honestly?

 

I think you're a freaking idiot for paying $10 per pack. What a waste of money!

 

It's your choice, but defining yourself by such a disgusting habit just makes you look stupid, imo.

 

No offense intended. You asked.

 

Now that being said, even I love a good clove every now and then, especially when drinking! In general, I like being healthy and in shape, and cigarettes are counterproductive to that goal. On top of that, I'm frugal, and cigarettes are just a waste of money.

[Thaddeus]

Are you or are you not a current smoker?

Not any more, though I did when I was younger.

If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?

Don't really give it much thought.

If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?

Hmmm... hasn't really been an issue yet. Probably not, though. Kissing someone that tastes like an ashtray isn't high on my list of "to-do's."

If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?

n/a

[alphamale]

Honestly?

 

I think you're a freaking idiot for paying $10 per pack. What a waste of money!

well in the actual city of chicago (cook county) yes they are around $9/pack due to taxes. but i'm smart and i buy my coffin nails out in the suburbs where they are more reasonably priced at around $5/pack

[Trialbyfire]

Are you or are you not a current smoker?

Non-smoker, never smoked.

If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?

I don't care if people want to smoke. It's their life and as long as they don't smoke around me, especially indoors, it's moot.

If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?

I've never dated a regular smoker, just some guys who would have a cigar or cigarello, here and there, when socializing. But no, I won't date a smoker since he's not living a healthy lifestyle, one that's important to me in a partner. My fiance won't even touch a cigar and has never had a smoke in his life.

[BCCA]

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?
  

I quite 3 months ago after 10 years.

• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?
  

I feel for them on one hand. The tax money from ciggarettes pays for a LOT, but people act like youre polluting their air, and you should be banished to a dark cave. I think smokers in general are no different than me, except the light up a smoke from time to time.

• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?
  

Sure, provided they arent on the extreme side of smoking. If you smoke constantly all day, no thanks. A few here and there, every couple hours, when youre drinking, no problem.

• If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?
  

I used to, but then i was unhappy because I wanted a cigarrette, so when I still smoked, I let them know pretty quickly. IMO, a lot of people smoke when they drink and dont consider themselves smokers, so there is a bit of a double standard, but for the most part, people who dont smoke tend to seek out others in the same boat.

 

You can deal with it or just quit. Like I said, I quit after 10 years, and Im sure you could, too. I got tired of $10/pack for my clothes to smell like death.

[alphamale]

But no, I won't date a smoker since he's not living a healthy lifestyle, ...

now see this is what i don't understand. everyone has at least one bad habit that is not healthy.

 

and when exactly did smoking stop being "cool"?

[batinhell66]

Not a smoker anymore, but used to smoke half a pack a day in two relationships. I can relate to being treated on par with a serial rapist. Even when I tried my hardest to avoid people (always threw away cigarettes, smoked only when people were at least 10 feet from me, etc.) angry moms with baby strollers would deliberately propel straight towards me even if it meant cutting through a park just to glare at me and say something snarky.

 

It's really hard in a relationship when you're trying to please someone and they hate the fact that you smoke. I ended up quitting six months ago for my boyfriend and partially, I guess, for me.

 

I didn't have to hide the fact that I smoked because he really, really liked me. Therefore he waited until after to get me to quit. I find that's usually the case with non-smokers.

 

Now I'm on the Njoy e-cigarette. Took some time, but eh. Saves a bit of money in the long run.

[Phateless]

now see this is what i don't understand. everyone has at least one bad habit that is not healthy.

 

and when exactly did smoking stop being "cool"?

 

Smoking is a lot more than "one bad habit that isn't healthy."

 

Smoking is actively harmful. Personally, I want someone who can go hiking, mtn biking, climbing, running, to the gym, etc, all without being winded.

[Trialbyfire]

now see this is what i don't understand. everyone has at least one bad habit that is not healthy.

 

and when exactly did smoking stop being "cool"?

Not necessarily. Smoking isn't just detrimental to the smoker's health, it's also detrimental to their partners and families. I'm not interested in giving anyone the lecture about health. It's their life and they can do whatever they want with it. It's just not something I want brought into my life. I have friends who have smoked sometime in their lives and even some who still smoke. As long as they keep it away from me, it's their life. But...if they ask for my opinion about it, I will state what I think.

 

Smoking was never cool in my books.

[The Collector]

I'm a proud smoker and it doesn't seem to put anyone off. I switched to roll-ups (with liquorice rizlas) a few years ago, partly to save money as the cost of a pack sky-rocketted, but I soon began to prefer them to ordinary cigarettes. Smoking is big and clever and makes you look cool and sophisticated. Also I am hooked now and would prefer to die early from cancer than give up.

[caramel c]

Hi, i'm Alphamale and I smoke cigarettes.

 

Yes, I am a leper and i'm killing myself while paying $10 for a pack of smokes. Finding women to date is harder once they see me puffing away or smell smoke on me. Strangers give me dirty looks and tell me i'm killing myself (which i am). Sometimes i think paedophiles get treated better than smokers...

 

 

So here are my questions:

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?
  
• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?
  
• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?
  
• If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?
  

 

I quit smoking completely 2 1/2 years ago.

 

I feel bad for them, because they really aren't happy being smokers and they don't know that they really can quit.

 

No, I wouldn't date a daily smoker. I would date a guy who had an occasional cigarette maybe but that's about it.

[alphamale]

Not a smoker anymore, but used to smoke half a pack a day in two relationships. I can relate to being treated on par with a serial rapist.

now a days many women won't even consider a man "dating material" if he smokes...unless he's bon jovi or rich AND good looking.

 

Now I'm on the Njoy e-cigarette.

what is that like a website you look at?

[BCCA]

now see this is what i don't understand. everyone has at least one bad habit that is not healthy.

 

and when exactly did smoking stop being "cool"?

 

Honestly, most of the people Ive had say the 'health' bit to me weighed more than me and ate exclusively from drive thru windows. Youre right, everyone has one bad habbit at least, but smoking gets ZERO free pass. Its been made to be the scapegoat of unhealthy living.

 

Personally, I want someone who can go hiking, mtn biking, climbing, running, to the gym, etc, all without being winded.

 

Even when I smoked half a pack a day, I would run circles around the people who didnt. I work out everyday and watch what I eat, quitting smoking just helped a little bit more. Smoking, in and of itself, is not the problem, it just adds to it.

[BCCA]

now a days many women won't even consider a man "dating material" if he smokes...unless he's bon jovi or rich AND good looking.

 

Its equally hard for women in the same boat from what Im told.

 

 

what is that like a website you look at?

 

http://www.njoythefreedom.com/

[allina]

[*]Are you or are you not a current smoker?

[*]If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?

[*]If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?

[*]If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?

 

*I smoke about 5 cigarettes a year now. I used to smoke as much as a pack a month but never more. I haven't had a cigarette in a few months, probably will stop for good one day.

 

*I don't have an opinion about smokers, they can smoke if they want just not in my house/car.

 

*I probably would not date a smoker. A very very rare smoker like myself yes, but not a regular smoker.

[Thornton]

Hi, i'm Alphamale and I smoke cigarettes.

 

Yes, I am a leper and i'm killing myself while paying $10 for a pack of smokes. Finding women to date is harder once they see me puffing away or smell smoke on me. Strangers give me dirty looks and tell me i'm killing myself (which i am). Sometimes i think paedophiles get treated better than smokers...

 

So here are my questions:

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?
  
• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?
  
• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?
  
• If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?
  

 

I think if you choose to smoke that's up to you, and strangers who make uninvited comments are extremely rude and should keep their opinions to themselves. As long as nobody else is being affected by your smoke then you're entitled to do whatever you want without other people sticking their noses in.

 

To answer your questions:

 

Are you or are you not a current smoker?

I am not a smoker and never have been.

 

If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?

I don't mind other people smoking as long as they aren't affecting anyone else, i.e. not smoking around kids or puffing smoke in my direction. I do however tend to think that smoking isn't a very intelligent thing to do, given that smokers know they're doing something that will kill them, and it can sometimes be a little selfish if it affects others around the smoker. I would never be rude enough to say that to a smoker though; as long as they're not affecting anyone else, what they choose to do is their business.

 

If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?

No, I would never date a smoker; I couldn't stand the smell and it would be like kissing an ashtray. Also I'm very keen on health and fitness and staying youthful, and smoking isn't compatible with that mindset. I once dated a smoker and I insisted he had to quit for the duration of our relationship. But I would be disinclined to date another smoker, even an ex-smoker, because I think that in order to smoke in the first place, smokers must have a certain addictive mindset and a disregard for the facts, as well as a disregard for their own health; not qualities I want in a partner.

 

If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?

Not relevant to me, but my ex told me he wasn't a smoker even though he was, because he knew I wouldn't date him otherwise. When I found out I insisted that he had to quit, but I think he still smoked on the side occasionally and hid it from me.

[reservoirdog1]

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?
  
• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?
  
• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?
  
• If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?
  

 

1. I'm not a smoker, and never have been.

 

2. I think smokers are people caught in the grip of a crummy addiction that slowly poisons them and sucks their money away, that they should be actively trying to quit at all times, and that tobacco companies are basically evil.

 

3. I'm currently dating a smoker. The fact that she smokes is the only thing I'd like to change about her, and we have great compatibility otherwise. I would really like her to quit -- I've fallen for her, and I don't want to lose her to cancer or emphysema down the road. That would be horrible.

 

4. N/A

[aerogurl87]

Hi, i'm Alphamale and I smoke cigarettes.

 

Yes, I am a leper and i'm killing myself while paying $10 for a pack of smokes. Finding women to date is harder once they see me puffing away or smell smoke on me. Strangers give me dirty looks and tell me i'm killing myself (which i am). Sometimes i think paedophiles get treated better than smokers...

 

So here are my questions:

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?
  
• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?
  
• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?
  
• If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?
  

 

I have never smoked a thing in my life.

 

I think smokers in general are cool people as long as they smoke far far away from me.

 

I'm dating a smoker now and I'm a nonsmoker, but it works because he never smokes around me and tries his best to not smell like he does when he's around me. Plus he's a stress smoker so it's not as bad. Not going to try and make him quit though, since it has to be his decision, but I would love if he did.

[alphamale]

Plus he's a stress smoker ...

thats a new one, i'll have to try that line on the girls

 

woman: so, alpha, you're cute

alpha: you're not so bad yourself (cough cough hack hack)

woman: it's too bad you smoke coz now we can't go out

alpha: well i'm (hack) a "stress smoker"

woman: what's that?

alpha: well its a phenomena where i smoke only when under stress

woman: you must be under a lot of stress coz you just had 4 smokes in the last hour

alpha: *silence*

[ReturnToSender]

Hi, i'm Alphamale and I smoke cigarettes.

 

Yes, I am a leper and i'm killing myself while paying $10 for a pack of smokes. Finding women to date is harder once they see me puffing away or smell smoke on me. Strangers give me dirty looks and tell me i'm killing myself (which i am). Sometimes i think paedophiles get treated better than smokers...

 

So here are my questions:

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?
  
• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?
  
• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?
  
• If you do smoke do you find it harder to find people to date and do you ever try to hide the fact that you smoke?
  

 

Im a smoker..started socially at 16, by 18 it was a habit. All the same, I dont * fiend* for a cigaratte... Like I can go a full day or even a few days without one..I dont like standing outside to smoke, I dont like being the only one to light up, I dont like being around family and such with a cig in my hand. But when Im working or in my car...if Im especially upset or stressed, and when Im out having drinks its pretty automatic.

 

All the same, Im sort of anal about it in that..I wash my hands a lot, carry mints, travel oral cleansers and body spritzers... I want to smell fresh and clean when I go out and wont smoke beforehand. When Ive been with smokers, it actually grosses me out, the taste and smell of stale smoke all arond them...so Im pretty strict on myself...I hear it a lot that I dont smell like a smoker. Yeah, I take that as a compliment!

 

I guess cause of all of that, its been easier on guys who dont smoke to date me.... Every once in a blue moon, my bf will complain he can smell the cigarettes on me, but for the most part, its the least of everything. Its not "cool" though...never has been. I have a horrible habit, but until I decide Im ready to give it up, if Im ever ready, that I do it not for anyone to talk about.

 

The whole idea of "Id never date a smoker cause its bad for their health" I dont know...I know lots of people who would be offended if someone said I dont date fat people...for instance. Now, I get that there are super health gym people who have strict diets and dont do anything remotely harmful to their bodies...totally understandable anything unhealthy would be incompatible with thier lifestyle as a whole.

 

But...I will never forget the day an extremely overweight woman told me "that will kill you" when I was outside lit up one night... I just smiled and thanked her for her observation. Im sure she wouldnt date a smoker...but yannow.

[westernxer]

and when exactly did smoking stop being "cool"?

 

When the world finally woke up. LOL

[alphamale]

When the world finally woke up. LOL

well if you take away the obvious health concerns i think smoking is still cool

 

and it has one added benefit with women....none of them ever put you into the "nice guy" category if they know you smoke.

[sweetjasmine]

So here are my questions:

• Are you or are you not a current smoker?

I'm not. I've smoked some cigarettes before, but casually/socially. I completely swore off them a while ago and don't plan on ever having another again.

 

 

• If you don't smoke what do you think of smokers in general?

Depends. As long as they're not rude to me, I don't mind. It does get on my nerves when smokers try to justify things or reduce the cognitive dissonance involved in smoking while knowing it's terrible for you - I mean things like saying, "I don't inhale!" or "These natural ones are healthier than normal cigarettes."

 

 

• If you don't smoke would you date a smoker assuming good compatibility otherwise?

No.