4givrnt4gtr Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 After my most recent breakup and 2 hour long drive i came out with a solution to my dating problems! i want to share it with you all and see what you guys think. Ok see....Im the type of girl who rushes in. I fall fast and hard and I ALWAYS end up losing...no matter what type of guy. Nice guys, jerk whatever.... So analyzing this....and thinking about work...i decided that relationships should be taken as if your life is a type of company and there is an open position that you want to fill. So thinking it that way, what do companies do? they interview people. First interview is to see if the basic qualifications fit the role you're looking for....but for that you need to know what is the role and the qualifications.... So say candidate A comes in, applies for the job (asks u out) and u call for an interview (say yes). In the interview candidate A meets the basic qualifications so you're open to have a second interview with him (date 2). So like many companies do, you ask for as many interviews as needed to offer the position knowing that at any time u can say "thanks but we decided to go on a different path" In any case, just like companies, after you offer the position, say after 3 or 4 interviews the candidate is hired but must go through a time of probation before they get full benefits. Once they pass this period then they get all the perks.... I am so very excited about this new approach i cant hardly contain myself. I think it would allow me to really objectively get to know someone before getting too attached so that when I see red waving flags I can abort mission without the pesky emotional thing. Let alone that it will keep sexual partners to a minimum....so very excited. What do you guys think??? Id love some feedback about my idea
bluewolf17 Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Make sure you ask if the job includes any traveling/working weekends. Best to know that upfront. :laugh:
Phateless Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 I've always said that first dates are like job interviews. And online dating is like shopping for a used car.
thegreatmoose Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 After my most recent breakup and 2 hour long drive i came out with a solution to my dating problems! i want to share it with you all and see what you guys think. Ok see....Im the type of girl who rushes in. I fall fast and hard and I ALWAYS end up losing...no matter what type of guy. Nice guys, jerk whatever.... So analyzing this....and thinking about work...i decided that relationships should be taken as if your life is a type of company and there is an open position that you want to fill. So thinking it that way, what do companies do? they interview people. First interview is to see if the basic qualifications fit the role you're looking for....but for that you need to know what is the role and the qualifications.... So say candidate A comes in, applies for the job (asks u out) and u call for an interview (say yes). In the interview candidate A meets the basic qualifications so you're open to have a second interview with him (date 2). So like many companies do, you ask for as many interviews as needed to offer the position knowing that at any time u can say "thanks but we decided to go on a different path" In any case, just like companies, after you offer the position, say after 3 or 4 interviews the candidate is hired but must go through a time of probation before they get full benefits. Once they pass this period then they get all the perks.... I am so very excited about this new approach i cant hardly contain myself. I think it would allow me to really objectively get to know someone before getting too attached so that when I see red waving flags I can abort mission without the pesky emotional thing. Let alone that it will keep sexual partners to a minimum....so very excited. What do you guys think??? Id love some feedback about my idea Be careful. If the dates come across too much like a job interview, he may want to look elsewhere. I want to have a good time on a date while learning more about her. That said, you do make some good points about not falling too fast for someone.
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 Be careful. If the dates come across too much like a job interview, he may want to look elsewhere. I want to have a good time on a date while learning more about her. That said, you do make some good points about not falling too fast for someone. Oh ofcourse not, I mean thats more for me than for the other person. Thats so I dont put people on a pedestal before I even know them and what they are about (which is what I tend to do because I give everyone way too much benefit of the doubt and then I ignore all those blaring red flags). I guess its bassically me being much more objective and much less emotional in the first few months of dating someone instead of imagining our wedding and honeymoon. Seriously, I think what I realized that hurts the most is all those plans my ex made with me which came tumbling down because we weren't objective enough to realize that there was no way given what was going on in our lives, that we could build a strong relationship. I mean, a company wouldnt hire an employee that told them he was going to leave in 8 months or that he was still having issues with his past employer and couldnt perform his duties well because of this. Im telling you, if you think of it that way, its crystal clear! Any redflags that come up that you may be confused about, think of them as if you were a company and an employee was doing the work-equivalent of that. What would the company do???
thegreatmoose Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Oh ofcourse not, I mean thats more for me than for the other person. Thats so I dont put people on a pedestal before I even know them and what they are about (which is what I tend to do because I give everyone way too much benefit of the doubt and then I ignore all those blaring red flags). I guess its bassically me being much more objective and much less emotional in the first few months of dating someone instead of imagining our wedding and honeymoon. Seriously, I think what I realized that hurts the most is all those plans my ex made with me which came tumbling down because we weren't objective enough to realize that there was no way given what was going on in our lives, that we could build a strong relationship. I mean, a company wouldnt hire an employee that told them he was going to leave in 8 months or that he was still having issues with his past employee and couldnt perform his duties well because of this. Im telling you, if you think of it that way, its crystal clear! Just make sure the job interview thoughts do not subconsciously get through to him. I'd also not set an exact timeline for events, rather an approximate timeline or you could set minimum timeframes before you do certain things. You have to see what works, but remember each man is different. Overall, it does sound like a good plan and may weed out undesirable men.
Sam Spade Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 I've always said that first dates are like job interviews. And online dating is like shopping for a used car. haha, best summary ever . other than that, relationships are above all a partnerships, and I see nothing wrong in approaching them with a sensible checklist in hand. However, the key is to be subtle and not think too much about it.
Hkizzle Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Errr yeah, I've thought for many years now dating = job interview. The person you're dating probably has other prospects, and a company will have other candidates for a position. They will be assessing you on the date, and you have to show your positive qualities. You want to get as many offers as possible, so you pick the best one. The main difference of course is that the key to good dating is to have fun.
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