Broke NC..hated myself for it, but got closure and have moved on

[JLT123]

I didn't call her, but her reaction was, by a good margin, one of the most embarassing moments of my life.. more so for her than me, but it was pretty ugly.

 

I honestly cannot believe how someone I loved for so long could treat me in such a manner, but at least now I know. In essentially a 3 minute exchange she managed to erode 3 years of love I built for someone, and the person I saw that day is all will really remember of her, at least for now.

 

When I went to see her, my feelings were at 110%. When I left, they were somewhere at around 5%, and I think I'm forcing myself to give that 5% only because I feel as though I don't want to be as emotionaly barren as her, and feel like I'm stooping to her level. 3 minutes is all it took.

 

I don't want to sound like a broken record, and trust me, I know it's much easier said than done, but when the folks on here tell you that contacting your ex is the absolute worst possible thing you can do, listen to them because it's really the only thing that works, whether it's towards a reconciliation or getting your head straight.

[bluesky123]

I'm seriously thinking of breaking NC for closure. There are two painful senarios. Sit her and think or call her up and face the news. By her not contacting me is a plain answer. I feel your pain and I truly hope things get better for you !

[JLT123]

Things got 75% better in the span of an hour, and 99% better by today.

 

Thing is, my ex is a completely certafiable.

 

Serious mental issues abound, and while I don't think my case is rare, if your ex reacted towards you in the same manner mine reacted to me then I would be very surprised.

 

I made sure that ALL of the hurt from our last conversation had subsided before trying to talk to her, so if I have any advice, make sure you're not an emotional wreck, begging or pleading before trying to talk to him/her.

 

As long as you can live with whatever it is she has to tell you then go for it. If not, then I would give it some more time.

[john1988]

Hope you are doing ok JLT, hang in there dude

[Beeotch]

I didn't call her, but her reaction was, by a good margin, one of the most embarassing moments of my life.. more so for her than me, but it was pretty ugly.

 

I honestly cannot believe how someone I loved for so long could treat me in such a manner, but at least now I know. In essentially a 3 minute exchange she managed to erode 3 years of love I built for someone, and the person I saw that day is all will really remember of her, at least for now.

 

When I went to see her, my feelings were at 110%. When I left, they were somewhere at around 5%, and I think I'm forcing myself to give that 5% only because I feel as though I don't want to be as emotionaly barren as her, and feel like I'm stooping to her level. 3 minutes is all it took.

 

I don't want to sound like a broken record, and trust me, I know it's much easier said than done, but when the folks on here tell you that contacting your ex is the absolute worst possible thing you can do, listen to them because it's really the only thing that works, whether it's towards a reconciliation or getting your head straight.

 

 

But didn't you not get closure from contacting her....having your love erase to 5% instead of the 110% when you were in NC and sort of removed from the reality of her?

 

You confronted her and saw the real deal now you can do NC knowing for sure what the deal is...and not being secretly hopeful.

 

Breaking NC is not the worst thing you can do....it can be painful..but a little pain never hurt anyone and atleast in some scenarios you realize once and for all WOW I DO NOT WANT HIM/HER. The scales are removed from your eyes and you actually can move on and shake them off.