Vivid_29 Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 In the past, I've been called callous and insensitive, because when I'm upset or my heart gets broken, I don't shed a tear (when in reality, I'm dying inside). Now, I've been told by some women that not being afraid to show my emotions, is very masculine and signifies strength and hiding my emotions is weak. I just don't get it. I always felt that a man crying is embarrasing and sappy and signifies weakness. Please help me understand... Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 Showing emotion is considered a 'feminine' trait. Women have traditionally been considered 'weak'. Therefore, to act 'like a woman' is to be 'weak'. If people buy into these archaic notions, then they will believe that you are 'weak' to be emotional. I have nothing but respect for a man who shows his sadness. It means he is secure enough in himself to express his true feeling without worrying about what others think. It means he has the courage to embrace all the aspects of his own humanity. To me, the 'weak' man is the man who cannot be himself because he is fearful about what others might think of him. Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted November 24, 2003 Share Posted November 24, 2003 I admire any man who shows his emotions and isn't afraid to cry. It is traditionally seen as a feminine quality, but it certainly is not weak! Link to post Share on other sites
ThisGirlNameKD Posted November 24, 2003 Share Posted November 24, 2003 Since women are usually more emotional, they can relate better to people that are the same way. That's why women can have great relationships with each other. If a man was in touched with his emotions, a woman can relate to him more. Besides, no where is it written that physiologically or biologically that men do not have the ability to express the same emotions that women do. We all have the capacity to express the same kind of emotions. If you have the physiological ability to shed tears, then you were meant to shed tears. All of that macho stuff is a warp social rule..pits men and women against one another instead of bringing them together. Link to post Share on other sites
AnGeLic_gAL Posted December 10, 2003 Share Posted December 10, 2003 Originally posted by Thinkalot I admire any man who shows his emotions and isn't afraid to cry. It is traditionally seen as a feminine quality, but it certainly is not weak! i agree Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted December 10, 2003 Share Posted December 10, 2003 Originally posted by Vivid_29 I just don't get it. I always felt that a man crying is embarrasing and sappy and signifies weakness. Please help me understand... I think there is a big difference in a man being 'sensitive' and one who is just 'whiney'. There are many times it's totaly appropriate to cry...like when your heart is broken....or there is a sad good-bye at the airport....or while getting married, etc. However, that's showing true emotions which women love and appreciate. It's not the same as some pathetic guy who begs while blubbering in his tears. The way I see it is.....a real man certainly feels and shows the emotion.....but the emotion will NOT sway him from his mission. He is still in control and will override the emotion if he senses it is affecting him in a negative way. He refuses to wallow in it. Again...this is just MY personal opinion. I'm sure many women would beg to differ....... Link to post Share on other sites
Skittles Posted December 10, 2003 Share Posted December 10, 2003 Ditto to what all the ladies said Vivman. IMO when a man shows his feelings, especially tears when real, it tends to have a very positive effect on this woman ...ooh yeah...ring the bell and rock the clown! Soft can exist with hard and ooh boy is that attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
Frodo Posted December 11, 2003 Share Posted December 11, 2003 Vivid, Don't worry too much about what women think about men and emotions. They can't get inside our heads so they run around with these crazy ideas that we have none, or that we have some absolute control of them. Neither is true. Women naturally think that if they cry, we'll cry at the same things. I personally can say I haven't cried since puberty. Something different happens and I believe it's physiological; something changes so that it doesn't happen anymore, because inside the feelings are the same. So if they get on you trying to make you be more like them, say, "This is me," and let them deal with it. See, this is what I was talking about on that other thread "why do women ignore me?" Women, especially young women still believe in the Terminator. Don't women define how you're supposed to be, or you'll end up confused and uncertain. Link to post Share on other sites
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