bebeblondie Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 So about 2 weeks ago I broke it off with a guy I was seeing. We were supposed to get together that Friday, and when by 8:30pm I had not heard from him, I texted him telling him to lose my number and that I'm done playing games with him. I never received a response (I didn't expect one either) So a week ago on Saturday afternoon I get a text message from him saying: "Hey I didn't lose your number yet. I apologize if you think I was playing games with you, listen I am sorry just very busy that's why it took me a year to hang out with you. Also, your town is a bit of a ride, I know that is not an excuse, I know it seems like I am always finding excuses but my work schedule is really tough right now. Anyway in summation you are a really really cool girl and I had a really awesome time but I guess just not where I am at this time" I didn't reply to this cause it seemed to me like he just wanted to get the last word in. I'm not even sure what the point of this text was? Just wanted to get some thoughts on this because it's been haunting me and I feel a bit guilty not responding (although I don't know what he expected me to say) because up until this point he has always responded to my texts and we've known each other over a year.
New Again Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 He blew you off and behaved terribly - no manners at all. I don't care how busy someone is, there is always time to be considerate and send a text or a quick phone call to let you know he has to cancel. He totally disrespected you. Good for you for telling him to get lost. The purpose of sending you that message is most likely just an attempt to string you along and keep you interested in case he needs a backup at some point in the future.
writergal Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 I don't think you should feel guilty or beat yourself up for not responding to his text. Is this a long distance relationship you had? For how long? Rarely do long distant relationships work if one person in the relationship refuses to move to the other person's town. In his text he lists several excuses for the reason he didn't contact you for your date; you live too far away, his work is his first priority, and although he likes you, he's not interested in committing himself to a relationship with you. Why would you need to respond to that text? If he consistently responded to your texts until now, when he hasn't, he most likely has already met another woman he's interested in. If he really cared about your feelings and the relationship you two had, he would have called you to explain why he blew off your date. But he didn't which was really disrespectful of him. Do you really want to chase after a man who doesn't respect you? Also, texting is very impersonal and a convenient way for people to communicate when they feel uncomfortable and don't want to hurt the other person's feelings.
Author bebeblondie Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 We always communicated through text, when I first met him he told me not to take it personally but that he wasn't much of a phone person. He does not live that far from me, he lives about 45 min away from, I wouldn't call it long distance, and he works only 15 min away from me. He did always come to me though, I never went out to him.
stillafool Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 So about 2 weeks ago I broke it off with a guy I was seeing. We were supposed to get together that Friday, and when by 8:30pm I had not heard from him, I texted him telling him to lose my number and that I'm done playing games with him. I never received a response (I didn't expect one either) So a week ago on Saturday afternoon I get a text message from him saying: "Hey I didn't lose your number yet. I apologize if you think I was playing games with you, listen I am sorry just very busy that's why it took me a year to hang out with you. Also, your town is a bit of a ride, I know that is not an excuse, I know it seems like I am always finding excuses but my work schedule is really tough right now. Anyway in summation you are a really really cool girl and I had a really awesome time but I guess just not where I am at this time" I didn't reply to this cause it seemed to me like he just wanted to get the last word in. I'm not even sure what the point of this text was? Just wanted to get some thoughts on this because it's been haunting me and I feel a bit guilty not responding (although I don't know what he expected me to say) because up until this point he has always responded to my texts and we've known each other over a year. I feel like he told you the truth in his text. He really does like you but he's really busy and you are geographically undesireable. He obviously liked you because he probably was going to ignore your text and 'let sleeping dogs lie', but the guilt he felt in hurting you made him contact you to at least give you a reason.
bluewolf17 Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 He sounds like a flake. In all honesty..the busiest person can find time for someone they really like. If he can't even make a effort than it's better you don't waste anymore time with this guy. And he only texted you so that he wasn't the bad buy. He gave you a crappy excuse so you wouldn't be mad at him, and also to leave the window open in case he decides he would like to try sleep with you. Just ignore him, darlin'.
Author bebeblondie Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 I also found it odd that he didn't even mention the fact that he stood me up. He does have a bit of a crazy work schedule, but nothing he couldn't work around, he had the same schedule when we first started seeing each other and he was seeing me pretty often.
New Again Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 "He doesn't call when he's getting what he wants from somebody else."
phineas Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 It doesn't take long to text someone that you can't make it.
stillafool Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 I also found it odd that he didn't even mention the fact that he stood me up. He does have a bit of a crazy work schedule, but nothing he couldn't work around, he had the same schedule when we first started seeing each other and he was seeing me pretty often. Well that says it all right there.
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