itsyehboy Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 summary: i've dated this girl for 4 months. I'm 21 and she's 22. she loved me dearly. we argue almost every week about little things and my anger issues always made me say "i want to break up" over and over. 6 times now. i want her back but she doesnt want to get back because constantly breaking up with her has lead to the conclusion that i dont take her seriously. the last time we got back she told me the next time we break up, it would be for real...i dont know what to do now. she insists on being just friends. she knows i love her and genuinely care for her. Just the other night, she knew i was out in the town and i was texting a friend who happened to be at the same bar as her. i guess they talked about me but i never showed up, so SHE texts me "why didnt you come?" what does this mean? Then last night, i told her if she wants to be friends she has to allow me time to get over her. and by her trying to contact me is kind of a way to draw me back into her. so i told her "is this what you want? us never getting back together?" she paused and didnt really answer the question, she just said..."i wont bother you anymore." she picks up whenever i call or text her when before she never did after we broke up. im committed to getting over her. but until then she has me...im going to NC and going out more to make her jealous. question: does she still want to be with me? if you have or had a similar situation let me know how it went. thanks! Ladies, what are your opinions with what i did? Link to post Share on other sites
adamt Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 if you were arguing every week after only 4 months then there is not much hope over a longer term. She is messing with your head, leave her alone and dont return any calls and see if she sorts herself out. Personally i think you are not compatible with each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Road To Joy Posted September 15, 2009 Share Posted September 15, 2009 I hope you don't take offense in this, but four months is not very long. I'm not saying your feelings weren't/aren't real or any of that nonsense, but leaving four month relationship is not as hard as leaving a four year relationship. To be completely honest, I envy you right now. If I had known at four months how my relationship, self-esteem, sanity, etc. was going to turn out, I would've fled right there and then. This is your warning! Run while you still can. It'll be hard but you'll have support. Don't let this stretch out longer than it should. Sooo many people wish they were in your shoes right now, instead of where they ended up, believe me. Link to post Share on other sites
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