NSW768 Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 so i was doing really good after breaking up about 10 days ago. she deleted me from fb and i deleted all her friends and any pics of us. then yesterday i get the email youve been tagged in pic by one of my good friends. so i go and look and its a pic of us (me and the ex) and my buddy and his girl taken the weekend b4 the breakup. we're both smiling and she looks great. it really ****ed me up, even though i deleted it.... sucks
caramel c Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 You know what, I have no interest in joining facebook. I don't think I'll change my mind, either. It just seems like a great way to exploit your life. No matter how private you want to be, it just never is. There is always somebody looking over somebody else's shoulder, or the random pictures being tagged, and the stupid constant commentary. I don't see why it's so exciting for people. The way I feel about it is if I know you, I know you. If you're in my life then you already know what I've been up to. If you weren't with me last night, then chances are you don't need to know where I went or what I did or who I was with last night.
Author NSW768 Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 i agree. i would like to shut mine down , but it is a way to stay in contact with friends that have moved away long distances. that being said, when i first started having trouble on with my girl and posted here i was embarrased to be so hurt when she shut hers down. but reading a lot of posts on here and other forums, a lot of people seem to have problems with myspace/fbook and other things like aim when dealing with there relationship. i think we were all better off without these things
itsyehboy Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 yup, i hate facebook too. when u have it, u cant help but to wander onto your ex page and when you see who they been talking to her hanging out with youre like...."FML!" LOL
caramel c Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 i agree. i would like to shut mine down , but it is a way to stay in contact with friends that have moved away long distances. that being said, when i first started having trouble on with my girl and posted here i was embarrased to be so hurt when she shut hers down. but reading a lot of posts on here and other forums, a lot of people seem to have problems with myspace/fbook and other things like aim when dealing with there relationship. i think we were all better off without these things Don't these people have cell phones? Email addresses? There are other ways to keep in contact. You can even communicate via Instant Messages - like with MSN or AIM. If they are really your friends and not just on your list of friends then believe me, they aren't going anywhere from your life just because you got rid of FB. Give me a break. FB is only a few years old! People kept in touch back then before FB, and they still can now. I think ESPECIALLY during a breakup, FB makes it SO much harder. I am so glad I never started it, because I have nothing to delete. All I did was delete his number from my phone. I didn't have to go and delete some FB account and have all my friends ask me whats up with that, or then wonder what he's wondering about ME because I deleted it. Also lucky for me, he doesn't do FB either. Well, maybe he does now, but I don't know about it because I'm not there looking. This is good!
silic0ntoad Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Don't these people have cell phones? Email addresses? There are other ways to keep in contact. You can even communicate via Instant Messages - like with MSN or AIM. If they are really your friends and not just on your list of friends then believe me, they aren't going anywhere from your life just because you got rid of FB. Give me a break. FB is only a few years old! People kept in touch back then before FB, and they still can now. I think ESPECIALLY during a breakup, FB makes it SO much harder. I am so glad I never started it, because I have nothing to delete. All I did was delete his number from my phone. I didn't have to go and delete some FB account and have all my friends ask me whats up with that, or then wonder what he's wondering about ME because I deleted it. Also lucky for me, he doesn't do FB either. Well, maybe he does now, but I don't know about it because I'm not there looking. This is good! Caramel- It's been a while, how are you feeling hun? Hope all is well! I agree. FB, Myspace, all for social parasites. It BREEDS infidelity. Seriously. Anyone with a semblance of a conscience would stay off these sites. They're for teenagers and morons.
Exit Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 For what it's worth I believe you can control what type of email alerts the FB system sends you, try turning those off if you don't want to cancel your account completely. I recentely deactivated mine. Facebook is where I found the pictures of her with her new bf a few months ago. Nothing much has happened through FB since then but I didn't like the idea that we had a few mutual friends and maybe she'd be able to check up on me or know what I'm doing through FB, when she misses me and wants to know how I'm doing I want her to get hit with the fact that I'm impossible to find. And yeah even aside from my breakup I think it's a pretty pathetic thing to be a part of, I have one friend who is so addicted, I went over to help her move out of her apartment, we walk inside and first she has to plop down in her chair and check facebook while I sit there wasting my time. I don't keep quiet about it either, I always ask her "what exactly do you think you're going to miss if you aren't on it for 5 minutes?".
silic0ntoad Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Yup. See? Waste of time. And, like I said, it BREEDS Infidelity. It makes cheating so much easier. And I've seen COUNTLESS relationships end because people meet someone from FB/MS. I don't understand why people can't just go primitive- you know, make a phone call.
adamt Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Facebook can be terrible sometimes. i unfriended my ex as i was constantly checking to see her status get updated. Then she would pop up commenting in mutual friends status's. Your imagine runs wild and you dream up wondering what they are doing. So then i blocked her too(hard thing to do at the time). 2 months later i unblocked her and not bothered now. Although i check to see what photo she has. But i dont feel as weak emotionally. But today she put up a photo of mine (with her in the background) i sent her when we were on holiday 18 months. Now i can see how some people who are still emotionally struggling would read into that far too much and think it is a message. But way i see it its just a photo she likes. She is starting to be just part of my distant memories now. Although not sure how i will react if i see her in person. but last few weeks i seem to have let go a little bit more. I'm still tagged on a couple of her photos but again i dont read anything into it. She has moved on and has no special or bad feelings so no reason to untag me. It is just a photo to her. In the end, what keeps me in NC is that there are so many ways she can contact me or send me a big hint she wants to get intouch. such as appear on msn or get a friend to test the water.
caramel c Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Caramel- It's been a while, how are you feeling hun? Hope all is well! I agree. FB, Myspace, all for social parasites. It BREEDS infidelity. Seriously. Anyone with a semblance of a conscience would stay off these sites. They're for teenagers and morons. Hey you, I wish I could say I was better but I've been very sad the past couple of days. I'd start a thread about how I was feeling but it would probably be the 3,849th thread on the topic here. I'm trying and trying and trying though... Best wishes to you too though, and I hope you're doing better than I am.
jv032889 Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Yup. See? Waste of time. And, like I said, it BREEDS Infidelity. It makes cheating so much easier. And I've seen COUNTLESS relationships end because people meet someone from FB/MS. I don't understand why people can't just go primitive- you know, make a phone call. This is true.I refuse to use myspace/facebook. I no longer surf my exs webpage. It only causes more pain. I'm not looking back.
DustySaltus Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I deactivated my account and soon got an email from my ex asking me if I really did that because of her. Well, it had a lot to do with her and wanting to just keep things out of my head. But it also had to do with the fact that like everyone here says, it lets people into your life a little faster than you may like. People knew I was engaged, then saw me as single. One of my "friends" I haven't even seen in 10 years and was never even close to now has me +1 in the broken engagement category. It just got too close for comfort.
silic0ntoad Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Hey you, I wish I could say I was better but I've been very sad the past couple of days. I'd start a thread about how I was feeling but it would probably be the 3,849th thread on the topic here. I'm trying and trying and trying though... Best wishes to you too though, and I hope you're doing better than I am. I am doing ok, Caramel. Can't say I am excellent. Moving along. I have alot of fun on weekends going out with friends/family, meeting new people, but you know how it goes hun. Keep pushin, you'll get thru it! So Dusty, you deactivated that ****? Good move bro.
BeSteady Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 FB/MS is a tool of the devil. It offers non-intimate relationships where you puit out minimal effort to feel connected. A way of feeling close with out being close, much like a one night stand. It encourages surface dwelling lifestyle rather then making deep connection.
trueblue72ny Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 i dont have a facebook account. i BRIEFLY had myspace and you know what? i wasnt that interested in that for very long either!! i havent been on it for months. and have no interest in it. do i feel like i am missing anything? NOPE!
Author NSW768 Posted September 16, 2009 Author Posted September 16, 2009 closed my FB today. dont know if it did much
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