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to what extent have you humiliated yourself with someone who dumped you?

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Charmaine_Champagne Established Member

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my ex treated me like a piece of crap and still i continued to chase him and beg, even though he broke up with me and i did no wrong. i have detailed how pathetic i appeared to him in my other post "our last ever conversation"

 

i ended up allowing him to use and abuse me, to tell me things like "i no longer want a relationship but i'll meet you to empty my balls now and then" (!!) i actually tolerated this as if it was normal because my self esteem was so low and i wanted this guy back, thought he could change. now this was a guy i went out with for 6 years. he was, believe it or not, a very nice guy then he just started hanging with new friends and he flipped and changed on me. i'll never know why. i think he has issues to be honest, it isn't normal behavior

 

i was NC for 5 months doing ok, then we got back in touch and i lost all my dignity and self respect. i told him i loved him even after he'd told me 'go away' He told me he had a threesome after we broke up and went into details of it while i cried begging him to stop telling me. i allowed him to use me for sex in the hope we would get back together, the condom broke and he laughed. last week he told me to never contact him again, that he has a g/f who is so much better than me (i assume he meant sexually)

 

i really hit my rock bottom before finally seeing this guy for what he is. deep down i knew his behavior was wrong but i tolerated it hoping he would change thinking having him around was better than not having him at all even though his behavior was foul towards me.

 

i guess the point of this thread is asking you guys how far have you humiliated yourself with an ex? begged, pleaded, etc. or how many of you reached rock bottom like i did? if you'd like to share your experiences go ahead...

alphamale Established Member

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i have never humiliated myself when i was dumped by a woman. i just went and found another one.

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Charmaine_Champagne Established Member

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lucky for you!

joseffrost Established Member

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Flying from London to Ireland to try and put things right, only for her to tell me all the things I had done wrong while I cried my eyes out was pretty demeaning.

 

Then we spent the day together and she acted as though I was just an old friend - not someone she apparently in love with and planning for the future with just days before - which was also pretty humiliating.

 

In hindsight, the entire month after she left me was pretty humiliating. But I was weak. Never again, and certainly not for her.

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I think my lowest moment was right before I took HER dog to the vet that she left with me. I told her to come and see him, since it would do him some good. She told me she was going to a Phillies Game, and couldn't go. I tried being nice and telling her she had obligations. The next day I told her he had cardiomyopathy and she basically told me I was a liar. That was the last time we've spoken. Me being nice, trying to be understanding, trying to reason with her... Never again. I should have known when she said to me "I'll tell you what happened on my end when I figure it out, if we are talking."

 

I'll never be warm, and comforting again. It's proven to be my downfall. I shall remain, cold, calculated, and unforgiving. It's the only way to guard oneself.

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my ex had a affair for 6 months with my best friend from childhood as well at the time my room mate. After all was said and done and I found out, the fight happened and we broke up. I then met him after work and I said let's try again, his responce to the exact word was " Why not I can't have the one I really want so I might just as well be with you"... At the time I was happy but when I think back to it...IT SUCKS!!! Stayed together for 7 years after and then ran...

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my ex had a affair for 6 months with my best friend from childhood as well at the time my room mate. After all was said and done and I found out, the fight happened and we broke up. I then met him after work and I said let's try again, his responce to the exact word was " Why not I can't have the one I really want so I might just as well be with you"... At the time I was happy but when I think back to it...IT SUCKS!!! Stayed together for 7 years after and then ran...

 

 

Listen to your mind. The heart lies.

Ilovecake Established Member

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The most humiliating thing I did was let him walk all over me, make excuses for his bad behavior and much like you gobble up the crumbs he threw at me while being a completely emotionally abusive to me. I'll never forgive him for the way he treated me but I'm working on forgiving myself for letting him demean me like that.

silic0ntoad Established Member

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my ex treated me like a piece of crap and still i continued to chase him and beg, even though he broke up with me and i did no wrong. i have detailed how pathetic i appeared to him in my other post "our last ever conversation"

 

i ended up allowing him to use and abuse me, to tell me things like "i no longer want a relationship but i'll meet you to empty my balls now and then" (!!) i actually tolerated this as if it was normal because my self esteem was so low and i wanted this guy back, thought he could change. now this was a guy i went out with for 6 years. he was, believe it or not, a very nice guy then he just started hanging with new friends and he flipped and changed on me. i'll never know why. i think he has issues to be honest, it isn't normal behavior

 

i was NC for 5 months doing ok, then we got back in touch and i lost all my dignity and self respect. i told him i loved him even after he'd told me 'go away' He told me he had a threesome after we broke up and went into details of it while i cried begging him to stop telling me. i allowed him to use me for sex in the hope we would get back together, the condom broke and he laughed. last week he told me to never contact him again, that he has a g/f who is so much better than me (i assume he meant sexually)

 

i really hit my rock bottom before finally seeing this guy for what he is. deep down i knew his behavior was wrong but i tolerated it hoping he would change thinking having him around was better than not having him at all even though his behavior was foul towards me.

 

i guess the point of this thread is asking you guys how far have you humiliated yourself with an ex? begged, pleaded, etc. or how many of you reached rock bottom like i did? if you'd like to share your experiences go ahead...

 

 

Hey CC- you still need someone to drive out there and take care of this guy for you? I promise I'll be nice! :)

 

But I've read your story hun- I hope you realise how much more you're worth. No one, save maybe mr donald trump, deserves to take in the punishment you have taken.

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Listen to your mind. The heart lies.

 

No kidding... it hurts still to think that I allowed this all. I have also recently stopped talking to the best friend as well... To much to deal with at once.

silic0ntoad Established Member

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Always is, Hun. Always is. Everything crumbles to the ground eventually. We just kind of ignore it until it's all the way there. But I'll never stick around to watch it crumble to dust again.

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