DustySaltus Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 I met a girl that I probably am not going to date anymore due to her annoying habit of wanting to have entire conversations by text messaging. I can understand if you are in a situation where you can't pick up a phone but who is in that situation 15 hours a day? We went out, she texts me afterwards saying she had a good time. I reply that I did as well. A couple of days go by and I get the random smiley face text. Naturally, I send one back not knowing how to reply. Well, she sends back two smiley faces. I'm ruuning out the door, don't answer. She proceeds to tell me she had a great time on the date, what's she's eating for breakfast, her career plans and how much she drank last night all via text. I call her latter in the day, voicemail, leave a message. Next day, same story a bunch of random texts. Nothing about the phonecall. I call her later in the day to say hello and she seems surprised that I called. We speak for a few minutes then she had to run. It was like we had nothing to talk about it. I don't know nothing really bad happened it was just a weird situation. Are people afraid to actually hear someone's voice these days? What's this girl's issue?
torranceshipman Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 I don't think the text thing is such an issue - people just communicate in different ways. But I'd say a reason to move on is the fact that you couldn't really find anything to speak about when you were on the phone. One other possibility though is that she is shy, hence the preference for texting and wanting to avoid long phone conversations. If you like her, maybe stick with it a while as when she's relaxed with you a bit more after a few dates, I think you guys will naturally fall into a much better patter of communication.
Author DustySaltus Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 I don't think the text thing is such an issue - people just communicate in different ways. But I'd say a reason to move on is the fact that you couldn't really find anything to speak about when you were on the phone. One other possibility though is that she is shy, hence the preference for texting and wanting to avoid long phone conversations. If you like her, maybe stick with it a while as when she's relaxed with you a bit more after a few dates, I think you guys will naturally fall into a much better patter of communication. The thing is she was VERY talkative and interested via text that's why its so confusing.
torranceshipman Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 That'd maybe point to her being shy, as she feels she can communicate as herself and be all talkative via text, but when she needs to be put on the spot, as she would be in a phone call, she probably clams up. If you guys date a bit more I think she'll relax a lot and you'll get that level of talkative-ness via phone too.
New Again Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 The thing is she was VERY talkative and interested via text that's why its so confusing. I think what torrance was getting at is that it was easier for her to talk via text (more impersonal).
Recommended Posts