To all the broken hearts...

[Angelo_28]

To my friends with a broken heart

To the people whom are now apart

To the ones still in pain

To the person going insane

This is a message for all of you

Time to listen to what is true

Love is in your soul

A story that was told

Told by you and the one you loved

But you feel hopeless and shoved

Tossed aside without hope

Wondering how to cope

Coping with the pain

Blood thickins in your vains

You feel like seeking advise

To fix this painful vice

But trust me when I say

Only your heart can make it go away

If in your heart you truely desire

To feel your lover's fire

To get back that "first kiss"

To hold the one you miss

Then put your pride aside

Open your heart and look inside

Do you see your lover's name?

Do you see it there engraved?

If so, you know what to do

Show your lover your heart so blue

Speak your heart out and speak it true

Let your lover see the real you

So never give up the chase

And yes, everyone has a different case

But speak the truth and you shall find

Patients and time will be kind

Then let love take it's coarse

With some humility and remorse

Let your lover see what's in store

And apart you'll be no more.

 

Tell your lover how you truely feel and never give up hope. Speak the truth and bare your heart...

 

To me, that's the only way...

 

Thanks.

Angelo

[mimiminx]

Thank you Angelo,

For all of us who feel this way (including me)... I completely agree that we have to be honest. To deny our feelings is the most painful thing to do. I tried that and I just felt horrible about it. I've had over a month of feeling that true love, and even if he doesn't feel the same way for me, (which I hope isn't true), then the best thing is for me to lay my cards on the table.

I tried NC and ignoring him, but I felt like I was being dishonest with myself. It's about boundaries, though. I'm not going to keep pouring my heart out to him and nothing changes, he doesn't come back. But I feel better knowing that I told him how I feel. You really have nothing to lose I think if you do that...

[Exit]

Sorry bro but I think you only believe that because it worked out for you lol. There is no point continuing to chase someone who doesn't want to be chased. I'm thrilled that it worked out for you but it's not going to work for all of us.

 

Many of us only suffered longer than necessary by being "hopeful" and "patient". Eventually you draw the line and stop torturing yourself over a lost love.

 

I'm glad chasing and pursuing worked for you, but in a majority of cases, the only thing to do is let go.

[bluesky123]

Very well written. I agree with Exit why chase someone who does not want to be chased.

[DSM2709]

I can understand what is being discussed here, I had lunch with my ex on Sunday afternoon at her house, while her new "friend" was away. I actually still had some stuff there to pick up, so I went there after she called me and invited me over. It was very nice to be there again with her even though I know she's with someone else. She even made me lunch, and we ate together. She's not sure what her future is with this guy because he's got some "issues", and he's been practically living there everyday since they met (2 weeks ago). She tells me he's very "handy" around the house which I did see some of the stuff he's done which I guess is nice, certainly not things I would have done, or knew how to do, but whatever. Anyway, I did ask her if she would reconsider us being together again if things didn't work out with this guy, and she said maybe...which to me is a good sign, but I'm going at this with caution. I'm not gonna stop seeing other people or wait for her, while she's in limbo with this guy. I still miss her dearly, and I think about what we had together everyday, and I told her that. I also told her that if we did get back together, that there would be no more BS, lies, etc etc.., and that we would start from scratch, to which she really didn't say anything. In the 2 months or so that we have not been together I have changed and I know what I need to do in order to make things work between us (if it in fact does happen). Honestly, I think she still misses me, and she's not talking to any other guys except me, which is nice to know too.

[Angelo_28]

As I said in my poem " And yes, every one has a different case..." Only you can determine the proper actions to take. But by not being honest to the one you love about how you feel, then ultimately your not being honest with yourself. At least thats what I believe...and yes most women like to be chased lol but not all. Just show him/her how you truely feel, what your heart has to offer is beyond any logic she/he instills in thier mind...trust me, she has a master's degree in psychology and she more than anyone else can control emotions vs. logic...but when in love, no degree in the world can ingore the heart...you just have to believe in yourself and let it out ther for him/her to see.

 

I wish you all good fortune...

 

"A man can have all the money in the world, but without the women he loves, he is nothing..." - My Dad.

 

Thanks.

Angelo

[Angelo_28]

And yes, I did write it. as I've written all the other poems in my posts.

 

Thanks.

Angelo

[Angelo_28]

Letting go letting go

Same old story getting old

Let me ask you this

Is it your lover you truely miss

And the feeling of real bliss

Is it her smell

Her looks aswell

Her mind and soul

The will to grow old

With her by your side

Till you roll over and die

Her smiling eyes

And sexy thighs

The way she walks

And how she talks

How she makes you feel

How she kept it real

Or is it her laughter

Made you feel like an actor

In a romantic movie

Where every scene gets smootchie

Is it her sweetness

Or her tenderness

The way she'd kiss

With her magical lips

Could it be the love making

The foreplaying

The chasing

Or even the sleeping

Together held closely

Do you feel empty

Do you feel alone

Talking on the phone

With her on the line

Her voice so fine

Can't say good night

Don't feel right

Nothing compares

The way she stairs

Into your soul

So let the truth be told

Why in hell would you let go

Of something you miss so

Are you out of your mind

Get out there and find

Your true love is waiting

All yours for the taking

So don't give up hope

Love ain't no joke

Go be true to her

And she'll love you forever!

 

Thanks.

Angelo

[Exit]

Write all the poems you want, I still think this is dangerous advice for many people around here. Your ex clearly still had feelings for you, and it probably has little to do with how you chose to spend your time, pursuing her or not during these last 3 months, her feelings brought her back. A lot of people here do need to let go for their own good. You're floating on cloud 9 right now and we're all happy for you but it doesn't mean this is the right method for everyone. I wrote letters and professed my feelings for my ex for 4 months and didn't get anywhere.

[Angelo_28]

Exit,

I know that you doubt my words...and you think I'm on cloud 9. And you're right, I am...but that doesn't mean I should be the only one. I'm just giving my advise, my opinion based on my experience to better help someone make thier OWN decission. My friend, I hope to God you find what you're looking for...everyone in this world deserves to be happy...and you as well. Maybe letters are not what she's waiting for...show up, confront her...put her heart on the spot and let her see your determination.

Remember this, do not out rule all options, unless one has explored and exgusted all possibilities. If one does not do so, one's heart will remain in question...and the question is "what if?"...

 

Exit, don give up, if you love her, show her...make her see your heart...only then will you know for sure if letting go is the right path for you.

 

I wish you happiness...

Thanks.

Angelo

[dianna]

I was /still im so sad today that I gave up fighting....

I read your post and my hope came back..grrrrrrrrrrrr...give me your luck

[logitech]

Heh, it's funny coz I thought about the way I had acted through my relationship and thought about how I was a douche even though I didn't think I was at the time. It actually made me laugh. We often on here end up dwelling on the negatives. I started not thinking about the relationship so much but just silly things in general. Here's to staying happy and positive. To forget about the specifics of relationships for a while and to just enjoy the moment. Nothing like being able to drive alone in a car and crack an ear to ear grin.

[northstar1]

Exit,

I know that you doubt my words...and you think I'm on cloud 9. And you're right, I am...but that doesn't mean I should be the only one. I'm just giving my advise, my opinion based on my experience to better help someone make thier OWN decission. My friend, I hope to God you find what you're looking for...everyone in this world deserves to be happy...and you as well. Maybe letters are not what she's waiting for...show up, confront her...put her heart on the spot and let her see your determination.

Remember this, do not out rule all options, unless one has explored and exgusted all possibilities. If one does not do so, one's heart will remain in question...and the question is "what if?"...

 

Exit, don give up, if you love her, show her...make her see your heart...only then will you know for sure if letting go is the right path for you.

 

I wish you happiness...

Thanks.

Angelo

 

Angelo, it's nice to see that things have worked out for you.

 

That being said, many people do hang in limbo for too long with false hope when the writing is clearly on the wall.

 

Telling everyone to 'not give up' is precisely what keeps people stuck in neutral for a long time.

 

Exit has gone through a pretty rough patch the last few months (as many of us did during our 'coping' period), and he is finally getting to the point where he is accepting that he has done what he can do, and that he needs to grasp his own happiness now and stop chasing the past.

[Angelo_28]

Hello Northstar,

 

I do not disagree, nor agree...I'm just (as I said before) letting people know that the possibilities are endless. Yes, I agree that there is a time that we all must let go and pursue our own happiness alone. But every sistuation has it's variables and circumstances that in my opinion, following a general plan of action is ludacris. My advise to anyone is simple...follow your heart...it's that simple.

When I came on this site for advise, everyone immediately told me to "go NC...Forget her...Move on..." and so on. But no one took the time to ask me if I've look at all the variable in an objective way...but I did, and I realized my own faults and bettered myself.

When you truely love a person with all your heart, giving up is giving up on yourself. Instead, I would focus on what I could do to better myself and then present my case to the other. Then if things works out...great...if not, atleast I can say that I've done everything I could...took every possible action to be taken...and even if I'm not with my lover now, I can be happy that I'm now a better person for it.

Keeping your emotions bottled-up is not healthy, so let it out. Communicate your feelings to that person...if you don't, you'll always be in limbo!! The only way out of limbo, in my opinion, is to let all your cards on the table and display your heart to that person...then the obvious will happen, either they return and your happy, or your happy to see that you've tried and now you can move on without the "what if" in your mind.

 

Just follow your heart people...that's what its there for

 

Thanks.

Angelo

[northstar1]

Hello Northstar,

 

I do not disagree, nor agree...I'm just (as I said before) letting people know that the possibilities are endless. Yes, I agree that there is a time that we all must let go and pursue our own happiness alone. But every sistuation has it's variables and circumstances that in my opinion, following a general plan of action is ludacris. My advise to anyone is simple...follow your heart...it's that simple.

When I came on this site for advise, everyone immediately told me to "go NC...Forget her...Move on..." and so on. But no one took the time to ask me if I've look at all the variable in an objective way...but I did, and I realized my own faults and bettered myself.

When you truely love a person with all your heart, giving up is giving up on yourself. Instead, I would focus on what I could do to better myself and then present my case to the other. Then if things works out...great...if not, atleast I can say that I've done everything I could...took every possible action to be taken...and even if I'm not with my lover now, I can be happy that I'm now a better person for it.

Keeping your emotions bottled-up is not healthy, so let it out. Communicate your feelings to that person...if you don't, you'll always be in limbo!! The only way out of limbo, in my opinion, is to let all your cards on the table and display your heart to that person...then the obvious will happen, either they return and your happy, or your happy to see that you've tried and now you can move on without the "what if" in your mind.

 

Just follow your heart people...that's what its there for

 

Thanks.

Angelo

 

Well, based on what you wrote, you obviously disagree. Which is fine

 

However, for those people who have sat around suffering for months, while their ex's either ignore them, or feed them crumbs, or use them, pouring their hearts out to them is redundant.

 

And there is at time, when loving someone isn't enough to keep trying. When it becomes unrequeited or being used to merely keep you on the backburner.

 

And yes, everyone has different variables, that is very true. There is no blanket advice.

What I am saying is telling people to never give up if you love them, is dangerous. That is why we have people on here who are still pining for someone who left them 2 years ago.

[sheithappens]

angelo, i feel the same, when i read your poem , i felt like it was my situation..... i have not done anything this past month to contact her or anything but in about two weeks i am just going to go balls to the wall and send her flowers for finishing her lsat even though i do not know the results, although our 4 and half year relationship ended because of the stress i would cause her and she couldnt handle it before her test.... i do hope that we end up together again but , i also have slightly accepted the terms that she may never come back.... the way she is acting right now makes me think that she doesnt love me or she never did... keep in mind im the one that broke it off with out thinking about what would happen, she does not bring me up at all to mutual friends, she hangs out with a new a group of friends..... thanks for posting up the poem, it just makes me believe that if you feel you truly love someone, then you will try to show them how you feel, and if they love you then they will come back and be with you until the next problem arises.........

 

good luck everybody, we all need it

[kizik]

You can chase a person to the far ends of the Earth, but all you're doing is disrespecting yourself.

 

I would agree with northstar1 in saying that Angelo, I am glad you got your girl back.

 

That is the exception to the rule.

 

I dated a girl in high school for a few years. She dumped me.

 

I dated her again when I was 21. For three years.

 

She dumped me, again.

 

Second chances DO NOT work, because the reasons for incompatibility DO NOT go away. I was a big enough idiot to give this mean, selfish, cruel bitch another chance with me, and she hurt me, again.

 

Fool me once... you know how it goes.

 

Don't start spreading false hope on this board. You will encourage desperate minds to act with desperation.

 

For all who are suffering and longing for your ex:

 

F*ck them! They're not that great. Look what they did to you. Do you REALLY want that kind of person, who is capable of crushing you on a dime, in your life?

 

If so, I have no words for you. You are doomed to a life of misery, because you have placed your happiness in the fickle hands of others.

[Angelo_28]

Hey Northestar,

Is there a "love clock" that no one has told me about...a time limit on emotions, just hit the snooze button huh. Well life isn't a snooze button, you snooze you lose! lol 2 days, 2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years...time is not an issue when it comes to happiness of the heart. Follow your dreams, listen to what your heart tells you...the answers will reveal themselves naturally. And your right, loving is never enough...to simply say "I love you..." is easy, but love is like a new-born child...you have to feed it, care for it...work dam hard to secure its future...if not, it will surely die.

 

Sheithappens,

Go for it my friend, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If she comes back and begins to talk again and takes things slow...great! If she doesn't, then you've gainned pride in knowing to tried my friend...just follow your heart

 

Thanks

Angelo

[sheithappens]

thanks dude, wish me luck, like i say i am not full of false hope, but i figure might as well try cos she had a big impact in my life, although, i am the one who broke things off.... i hope she finds in herself to forgive me, we have broken up before and she would be the one to do it..... i really want to just try and if god allows for us to fix it.....

[Angelo_28]

You can chase a person to the far ends of the Earth, but all you're doing is disrespecting yourself.

 

I would agree with northstar1 in saying that Angelo, I am glad you got your girl back.

 

That is the exception to the rule.

 

I dated a girl in high school for a few years. She dumped me.

 

I dated her again when I was 21. For three years.

 

She dumped me, again.

 

Second chances DO NOT work, because the reasons for incompatibility DO NOT go away. I was a big enough idiot to give this mean, selfish, cruel bitch another chance with me, and she hurt me, again.

 

Fool me once... you know how it goes.

 

Don't start spreading false hope on this board. You will encourage desperate minds to act with desperation.

 

For all who are suffering and longing for your ex:

 

F*ck them! They're not that great. Look what they did to you. Do you REALLY want that kind of person, who is capable of crushing you on a dime, in your life?

 

If so, I have no words for you. You are doomed to a life of misery, because you have placed your happiness in the fickle hands of others.

 

Have you not listen to a word I said in my other post...she dumped me cause I ACTED LIKE AN ASS!!! I woke-up, I changed...got help, and never gave up on showing her my efforts. She didn't leave cause she didn't love me anymore, she left cause she had enough of my behavior. In my case, I followed my heart, I changed cause I truely love HER and want HER...and to have HER i needed to change MY ways. And I must say...to post "doomed to a life of misery..." is spoken that of inmaturtity. And this is my Thread, and I'll tell people what I want...if they don't like it, then don't read it...but I'll be dammed if I'm gonna censor my opinions because some people don't have the scense to look at thier own lives and behaviors and not willing to make changes. ITS A TWO WAY STREET!

 

When all else fades away in life...hope is all we got! So never give up hope on anything in life...especially if your heart tells you too!!!

 

Thanks.

Angelo

[northstar1]

Hey Northestar,

Is there a "love clock" that no one has told me about...a time limit on emotions, just hit the snooze button huh. Well life isn't a snooze button, you snooze you lose! lol 2 days, 2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years...time is not an issue when it comes to happiness of the heart. Follow your dreams, listen to what your heart tells you...the answers will reveal themselves naturally. And your right, loving is never enough...to simply say "I love you..." is easy, but love is like a new-born child...you have to feed it, care for it...work dam hard to secure its future...if not, it will surely die.

 

Sheithappens,

Go for it my friend, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. If she comes back and begins to talk again and takes things slow...great! If she doesn't, then you've gainned pride in knowing to tried my friend...just follow your heart

 

Thanks

Angelo

 

Look Angelo, Im glad it worked out for you. However...

 

Reciting a handful of Hallmark cliches is not going to help people get their ex's back.

 

"Time is not an issue when it comes to matters of the heart"

 

So someone should pine and wait for an ex for how long? 6 months? 10 years? Forever? Put their lives on hold because of "love"?

 

Live in misery because true love will bring them back? Forget their own happiness and dignity in the miniscule chance that someone will take them back and they might just find that second chance?

 

Your advice is both naive and dangerous to those who are suffering. Have a look around the Coping boards for a while and see some people who have been hiding under false hope for way too long.

[Angelo_28]

Sheithappens,

 

You wrote this

 

"thanks dude, wish me luck, like i say i am not full of false hope, but i figure might as well try cos she had a big impact in my life, although, i am the one who broke things off.... i hope she finds in herself to forgive me, we have broken up before and she would be the one to do it..... i really want to just try and if god allows for us to fix it..... "

 

Good luck to you my friend...you deserve it. God willing, and if you show her how true you are, she'll listen...and that's the first step my friend. Just speak from the heart, be true to yourself and show her how much of an impact she had and how much of an even bigger impact she could have now that you've realized this...tell her what you feel when you look at her...speak your heart my friend and good luck to you

 

thanks.

Angelo

[Angelo_28]

Northstar...On that point I agree...I cannot argue that in some cases, people DO have to move forward with thier lives. All I'm saying is do what YOU can to be able to move forward...with or without that person in your life. In either case, having explored all options makes the moving on with or without much easier. Again, this is just my opinion based on my experiences. People just need to chose the right path for themselves and to be onjective in doing so. Living with that dreedfull question "what if?" is not to pleasant.

 

Good luck to all of you.

 

Thanks.

Angelo

[Angelo_28]

Live your life, live it free

Live your life as it was meant to be

Up and downs

And turn-arounds

All part of a big game

If you loose, have no shame

Start over, no need for blame

Pursue your dreams

Extend your means

Possibilities are endless

So don't feel hopeless

Speak from your heart

That's a great start

Whatever the case be

Between you and me

Truth sets us free

Dumper or Dumpee

So love if you must

In yourself have trust

One day you'll be happy

Instead of all sappy

So be true to your lover

Herein lies your power

To be together forever

On a beautiful endeavor

 

Thanks.

Angelo