Haruka Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 My boyfriend's family is very close to this woman, whom I am also mutual friends with. I actually meet my boyfriend at a community event that she orgainised and I participated in. Anyways it's been four years since I met my boyfriend and we have been dating for three years. Friends for one year. This woman has been hinting to my boyfriend to date her daughter. This has happened for many years. On Saturday night my boyfriend and I went to a birthday party held for his parents' friends and the woman was there she sat beside my boyfriend as we were having dinner the converstations we had with the woman changed from everyday things to her starting to tell us what venture her daughter was doing. I could see that my boyfriend was getting uncomfortable and the woman asked if he had facebook, which I had told her a few times before that he and I share my account (he has my password and he plays games on it). He said that he doesn't use one but if he does he uses mine. She looked at us a moment and her expression was a "I don't believe it" and she said "Well if you don't post comments etc, then that means you don't share it." then she turned to me and more or less said I should add her daughter as my friend. (I don't want to add her daughter as I barely know of her and have only met her once). She then turned to my boyfriend and asked is there anyway that anyone can contact him on the internet and he said that he rarely uses MSN but he has an MSN account. When she went my boyfriend told me that for years the woman has been trying to set him up with her daughter and he said one christmas when the daughter came over and his parents and him were sharing dinner, he tried talking with the daughter but she obviously showed no interest in him as she palmed him off to her gay brother and left the room. As for me, I noticed that she seemed annoyed with me when it came to my boyfriend. I went to a town fair and lost my boyfriend and I saw her with a close friend of mine. I asked my friend if he had seen my boyfriend, the woman looked away and gave me a dismissive glare. (One that showed she didn't approve that I was with my boyfriend). A month ago when I was chatting with her on facebook about my boyfriend spending to much time on-line poker. She dismissed and said "Oh friends can be like that". I typed back that he is my boyfriend not a friend. She went quiet after that. So how do we approach the woman and tell her that we are an item and that he isn't interested in her daughter?
D-Lish Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 It's obvious she has a problem with you. If I were you I wouldn't engage her in conversation or make any attempt to be civil. She's what, twice your age? She may be connected to your bf's family, but that doesn't mean you have to be her friend. Your bf isn't interested in her daughter, whatever her issue is- just don't engage her. Why bother to facebook chat with her if she's being such a bitch? Just ignore her.
Ronni_W Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 If she is a family friend, it may be difficult for you to completely ignore her. Next time she mentions her daughter and adding her to Facebook, inviting her out, whatever about her daughter...adopt a very caring expression and ask in a hushed but serious tone, "Is it a, er, ah, a mental condition, that your daughter needs you to develop her social and romantic life for her?" Or go, "I know what you mean...wouldn't it be great if we could clone him...I am so freakin' lucky...I totally agree with you on that! And even better, he feels the same way about me...don't you, Honey?" The woman sounds dim-witted. As far as you can, don't let her stress you out.
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