We finally meet and went out tonight!!!

[Angelo_28]

Hello Everyone,

 

Good news today, after 3 months of not giving up, my patients paid-off!!! I decided to buy tickets to WWE Breaking point in Montreal. I told her that I got the tickets before we split up and I couldn't get rid of them. I asked her if she'd like to come with me and I mentioned it would be good to start over as friends and take it from there. SHE AGREED!!! We had so much fun, she loves wrestlin and we sat in the front row...yes...ringside (I have connections here in Montreal)!!! She was very hesitant to accept, but once we sat in our seats, she looked over at me, grabbed my arm and with a smile that can only mean one thing, she said "thank you, I'm having a great time tonight..." So, we laughed, cheered on our favorite wrestlers and booed the ones we didn't like lol...we smiled at each other the whole night! We shared pop-corn, drinks and a couple of hot dogs. It was the perfect outing. After the event, we went for a coffee at Tim Hortons in the drive thru and then I showed her the Douglas Hospital grounds because she got the job and starts tomorrow. (for those of you whom haven't read my posts, my mom helped get her hired) So we drive around the hospital, showed her where she needed to go...it was fun. Then as I drove her home, she started to speak about us. I told her the following..."Look, I didn't ask you to come with me tonight to discuss what happend...I just wanted to see you again and have lots of fun, besides, I don't want to ruin a great night by getting all emotional on you...you know how I feel about you, you know how sorry I am for what I've done to you...but lets just get this first night out of the way and have fun..." She looked over at me, smiled and said "Thank you...I really did have fun tonight...maybe we can go out for supper this week and then we could talk..." "Sounds great Diana, you know my number ;)" she gave me two kisses on the cheek, when she pulled back we looked at each other and began to laugh and said..."ok that was akward lol" Then as she opened the door, I grabbed her arm and pulled her into my arms and gave her a huge hug...I said "It was really nice to see you again..." "You too Ang...and you still smell great :)" She walked out, went up the stairs and in she went. She texted me, "Im in, thanks again and good night." And I went home.

 

I never gave up, I never stopped loving her and I know she still loves me...its obvious! But I won't rush things, let things progress naturally. But I can say this to all of you...there is not one sole system to get someone back into your life, you all know your lover and everyone is different, but when you love someone truely, damit never give up and they'll feel that love for milles away.

 

NEVER GIVE UP HOPE!!! The power of love + determination = happiness in the end, for me that is...but as I said, one day at a time

 

Thanks

-Angelo

[mimiminx]

Wow, I'm so happy for you Angelo!! That is really wonderful, sounds very promising too!! Reading your last sentence made me cry my eyes out. I believe that too...

When you love someone truly, dammit never give up and they'll feel that love from miles away. Love+determination= happiness.

This is so nice to hear. I believe you! True love conquers all, right?

Very happy ending

[Angelo_28]

Mimi,

Your right, true love is the most powerful emotion in the world...she knows how I feel, and she could of said no, but she didn't! I believe strongly that one day very soon, I'll be kissing those sweet tender lips that I've been dreaming about every single night! I cried driving home, I look up out my windsheild and thanked God for giving me the chance to see her again...I wanted to hold her all night and kiss her the second I saw her...but I remained cool...patients is what got me to seeing her again and patients will soon allow my love for her to come out with her arms opened wide to recieve it.

 

Never give up your love for someone...no matter how hopeless you may feel...love has a way, just let love decided and follow your heart. Therin lies true happiness...all we need is time.

[smartGXL]

Hi Angelo,

 

CONGRADS! Glad to see that sometimes, people are able to try again. Best of luck to you!!

[mimiminx]

I know true love... it is what I am feeling now. Loving someone and letting them go is the hardest thing in the entire world, that's what I'm trying to do. No bargaining, begging, or pleading can change that. If you put your heart on the table and ALWAYS be true to yourself and your feelings with the one you love, you can never regret it. I read your previous posts, the poem you wrote her, and what you posted... and I feel the same way. I love him just as much now as I did before and it's been over a month since we saw each other. True love is painful sometimes, isn't it? As you know... I think that's how you realize the depth of your love sometimes. I am crying right now. I told myself the same thing, that I will never let go of the love even if I let him 'go'. More than anything I want him to come back to me, as she did to you.

I am very happy for you and I wish you the very best.

[Angelo_28]

I STONGLY believe, that people should never give up.

 

I want everyone here to remember one thing...if love and hate are that of the same, then love. Love that someone with all your heart can offer, cherish that person and hold them to your soul forever...because one day, that someone's heart will speak to them. It will speak to them in a tone that will deafen all other thoughts, and then, they'll hear your heart...impossible to ignore, with time, they'll return to you. Be patients and let love takes it's coarse.

 

I'll keep you all posted on when we have our supper date.

 

Thanks.

Angelo

[mimiminx]

Just wanted to post a quote that I found about a month ago that has given me such great strength through this, the most heartbreaking time of my life...

"Absence is to love as wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and kindles the great"

I believe your love has proven to be great and that is a beautiful thing. Let things flow naturally from here, also "love is a stream that runs it's course".

I'm a hopeless romantic as well...

[Notsogood]

Congratz Angelo, happy for you. If only I was so lucky. 3.5 months since split, 6 weeks NC, my heart is still shattered into a million pieces. Think about calling her every single day but promised myself that I will never put myself in the same position I was during the first month again (I was basically a total wreck, pleading, begging etc). Good luck with the second date - glad to see that there are some happy endings out there.

[Angelo_28]

"Time heals all wounds, yet absence makes the heart grow fonder..." You will heal from the break-up...but if when you do, and you find yourself still in love with that special someone, then don't give up. Thier absence will remind you just how special they are to you...and in time, when you decided to speak your heart out, it will be pure and true...they will see that. So put your pride aside, diginity has no purpose in revealing what lies in one's heart...so set it aside and show that special someone that your heart beats for them...in time, there heart shall speak to yours aswell.

 

Never give up, be patient and let love take it's coarse.

 

Thanks

Angelo.

[Notsogood]

"Time heals all wounds, yet absence makes the heart grow fonder..." You will heal from the break-up...but if when you do, and you find yourself still in love with that special someone, then don't give up. Thier absence will remind you just how special they are to you...and in time, when you decided to speak your heart out, it will be pure and true...they will see that. So put your pride aside, diginity has no purpose in revealing what lies in one's heart...so set it aside and show that special someone that your heart beats for them...in time, there heart shall speak to yours aswell.

 

Never give up, be patient and let love take it's coarse.

 

Thanks

Angelo.

 

I've already said everything I can pretty much say to my ex, saying anymore will likely do more damage than harm which is why I'm NC now. I really hope this is the best course of action for me, the pain is still as fresh and strong as ever. However, NC is the only option I have.

[Exit]

Congrats. I'd love to think that never giving up is the way to go, but I've suffered for four and a half months. I still have feelings for her but there's no real "active" way for me to pursue her, just have to wait I guess.

 

I'm glad you got your chance. I would be the same way, I would cry and thank god that I finally got another chance. Don't know that I will though.

[Notsogood]

There are times when I wished I could just forget all my memories of her just because it hurts so much everytime something reminds me of her, and pretty much everything does given the length of my relationship. I am 24 now, and a 5.5 year relationships is a massive chunk of my life I have spent with her (pretty much my whole adult life). However, on retrospect, I don't think I would trade those memories for anything even though simple memories still bring a tear to my eyes. I guess you just have to take the good with the bad and hope there are better times ahead.

[Angelo_28]

Dear Notsogood.

Don't worry to much, like SmartGXL said, 3.5 years is a big chuck of your life...but for her's aswell...she won't forget that. When you do talk to her, be casual, cool and just play catch-up. Then when she asks you "and what's new with you?"...just tell her "oh, not too much, working and hangin with some friends and stuff...I still miss ya though..." and then gauge her response. You'll be able to tell if you should continue the conversation with the focus on your past relationship...or simply just casually change the subject to something fun. But in any case...remember, patients and time are your friends... If you truely love her, my friend, don't give up

 

 

As for me...I can't sleep lol I'm still too excited about last night!!! I mean, after 3 months, I've always emailed, called, texted and never gave up on telling her how I felt. She knew how I feel about her and she still came with me...and asked me out to supper this week!!! But baby steps is the way, time is my friend in all this...got to be patient. God...I felt like a new-born taking his first breath when I saw her...so beautiful...it was very hard to control my urges to display my emotions, but I guess it all came out with the great time we shared last night...the laughing, the smiling...etc...sometime, we have to be inderect to directly convey a message...its our human way. But I know one things is certain, her eyes last night spoke of a women still in love...the way she smiled at me, no other truth could be told from her eyes. So...like she said, I guess I'll wait till this week's supper...we'll let our hearts do the talking and see where it goes...but I feel really confidant. As I said before, only time will tell.

 

Thanks.

Angelo

[john1988]

First off congratulations man, absolutely delighted for you one of the few success stories I have witnessed on this site and it's down to your incredible personality my friend, been following your posts and marveling at your positive never give up attitude. Some one as loving and caring as yourself deserves this moment, your whole demeanor is infectious and fun just oozes out your posts, I tip my hat to you she is the lucky one my friend.

[hellothar]

I think you took a really great approach here, and you telling her you didn't want to get too emotional was a great step. You showed a ton of maturity and inner strength that so many of us could benefit from. I hope for great things for you, and wish you the best of luck!

[sara82]

WOW! Congrats!!! I wish you the best of luck. Wish I was that lucky. I've seen my ex twice...and both times he ended up backing away the next day, saying he wasn't ready for a relationship. It sucks, cause I definately still have a HUGE amount of feelings for the guy. Even though its now been over a year.

 

Good Luck!

Keep us posted!

[Angelo_28]

Hello Everyone,

 

Please...someone pinch me now!!! After my last post this morning at around 8AM, I went to bed. With a smile on my face, I texted her "Hey, stop being nervous for tomorrow!! I can feel your nervousness from here lol you'll do fine on your first day...I know you will!! Bye xx" Not even two minutes after, my cell rang...it was her! "Hello?" "I'M SO NERVOUS" she shouted in a laughing tone. "Don't worry you'll be fine sweetie!" "Thanks Ang...what's your schedule like today" she asked. "Well, I plan on passing out after you hang up lol and then I only work at 11PM tonight...why?" I asked. "Would you like to get together when I finish?" I dropped my cell, rolled off the bed trying to catch it..."Yeah sure, sorry I dropped ya there for a second. lol" "Ok well I'll call ya when I finish." she said. I wished her a good day and passed out with the biggest smile my face can make! Now...I thought she was gonna call me at 4PM when she finishes, but instead, at 12:30PM my cell rings again! It's her!!! She woke me up!! I was like "...hey anything wrong?" "No, just bored, I'm on break and I wanted to talk with ya for a bit..." So we spoke and she asked me to pick her up at 4PM from her work! At this point I said to myself no freakin way this is happening...I must be dreaming!!! Sure enough, at 4PM I got there and there she was...sun hitting that beautiful face standing there waiting for ME! I openned the door for her and we said hello...she said to me "I know I said sometime this week...but can we have supper now?" "Ok sure that sounds nice." So we went to an Italian restaurant, our favorite one, and we ate...we spoke a bit about ourselves and she admitted that she's fed-up of her familly telling her what she SHOULD do and that the decission is ultimately hers. I let her talk...I just listenned and then she said it..."...if were gonna get back one day, let start with baby steps and to tell you the truth, even my mom says I look miserable since I left..." I thought my food was gonna come out of my stomach I was so excited...but I remained cool. I excused myself for a second, went to the washroom, called my boss and said "Hey!...I'm sick today!" "Ang you don't sound sick man, you sound excited about something...whats up?" "Trust me Im sick! lol you'll understand tomorrow! lol" I sat back down and we spoke for another two hours. Then we drove to a cafe and had coffee, she showed me the work she was doing on her laptop from work for her first day...It was perfect day!

 

I knew she wanted to see me again for supper and talk...but I never would of thought she'd call me THE VERY NEXT DAY...I mean not even 12 hours later!!!! I stayed cool the whole time, I simply told her that I agree, that my feelings for her only got stronger since she left, that her leaving was the only way I would of learned what I was doing wrong, and I thanked her...she was shocked! lol she laughed and said what!?! I said "yeah! as twisted as it may sound Diana, thank you! If you never left, things would of gotten worse instead of better, frankly, I'm glad that now I see and understand my wrong doings...and I'm really sorry for hurting you the way I did." She smiled, but a gentile smile like she was relieved..."Baby steps Angelo...baby steps" And she smiled the same way she did last night! OMG im freaking out...everyday I can feel us getting closer! Baby steps it is!!! I drove her home at 10PM...I got home and my cell rang again...and yes you guessed it! "Did you get home ok?" I couldn't believe it! we spoke again for an hour on the phone and she asked to make plans for Wednesday cause she's taking her mom out to the movies tomorrow night...she's gonna talk to her I think. She always takes her mom out to the movies on Tuesdays cause that when they have movies for the hearing impeared and her mom unfortunately cant hear to well. So then just as I'm about to hang up...she says to me "can I call you tomorrow after I finish, or how about I give you a wake-up call...is that ok?" "Diana, nothing would start my day better than to hear your voice..." she giggled and said ok good night.

 

Now tell me...how do I fall asleep now??? lol First I couldn't fall asleep cause I lost her and missed her so much and now I can't sleep cause I'm too dam excited lol Ahhh love, a silly yet very powerful emotions...and I'm addicted! lol

 

I'll keep all of you posted...NEVER GIVE UP YOUR DREAMS, AND IF YOUR DREAM IS TO BE WITH YOUR LOVER...AS THE NIKE COMMERCIAL SAYS...JUST DO IT!!!

 

Thanks.

Angelo

[mimiminx]

That's great Angelo,

I can only imagine how you must feel!! Congratulations! Sounds like she is really taking active steps to show you that she's reaching out to you and has trust in the relationship. Especially calling you on her own initiative and frequently, that's great. Be patient with the baby steps!

 

Something you wrote struck a chord with me. You said to her if she didn't leave then it would have gotten worse, not better. Her leaving forced you to look at your behaviors that were making her unhappy. It's like she gave up almost all hope on you, but still had it there all along.. until she couldn't ignore it anymore. This I think may be similar to my situation,.. it's interesting.

I wish you the very best with Diana... there's no doubt you truly love her! She's very very lucky.

[Angelo_28]

Thanks MIMIMINX,

As I've said before, real change comes from great loss. But it's never too late to reach out to your lover and show them yourself. When love has filled a person's heart, to ignore those feelings are impossible. Once they've tasted your love, even if they walked away, once they've seen the effort you put into yourself...they cannot ignore thier own feelings...and in time, they'll return to that...to you.

 

Just have faith.

 

Thanks.

Angelo

[Limbo21]

Shouldn't this thread be moved to second chances?

 

I'm pleased for you man. Thing is though unless you marry the person you fall in love with then break ups are part & parcel of life. I got my ex back by doing the complete opposite to you & went no contact. We lasted another 4 mnths then split.

 

I just hope your advice doesn't screw someone's healing up with false hope & ideas. That said congrats & revel in your happiness .. I know I did

[ATR]

I'm happy for you and this looks like it may be a rare case of reconciliation:)

 

However not everyone is in your situation. Doing what you did to your ex was pretty pathetic to be honest. How do you know she isn't just going out with you over pity? Many of our ex's would have already got with someone else by now and want nothing to do with us. So telling people to not give up is somewhat advice for rare circumstances.

 

NC is the only way to go. If she broke up with you then why should she deserve you?

[Angelo_28]

ATR,

 

Can you explain what was pathetic? And no, she is not seeing me out of pitty. She left because I was being an ASS! I've changed since then, being away from her maybe me see myself and how I was...that's how I realized that the break-up was indeed my own doing. It was I that didn't deserve her, but she saw the efforts I've made, she feels reassured of my true love for her and that is why we are seeing each other again. A break-up is the result of someone's actions or lack of. Getting dumped because you behaved like a fool is every reason to stay in contact and changed yourself for the better, not only for your lover, but for you aswell. Then, if that person see's how you've changed and really love them, then your home free...cause they did not dump you for another person, they did not dump you for a lack of love...but because I acted stupid and she just had enough...it was that simple. But I agree that if you got dumped for another guy...then by all means my friend NC all the way cause she betrayed your trust.

[Angelo_28]

Limbo,

As I've said before my friend, I'm not telling my story to "screw up healing processes", but rather telling people about my story to bring another fresh look on the common path people take. NC is an option, but it's not the only one...I didn't believe it applied to my particular situation, and people need to judge that for themselves. People need to actually stop, put the breaks on durring the break-up and look are thier own lives with thier dignity and pride aside. Look at where the relaitonship turned and twisted...evaluate your own actions, and see for themselves if contacting or not contacting is the way to go. No single humain is perfect and it is humain nature to make mistakes...if you made some, be a man and admit it...I know I did and that's the reason I'm where I am now. I'm not perfect, but goddamit I love her and I'll be dammed if my own ignorance will rob me of my one true love. That is why I faught to stay in contact...that is why I faught with MYSELF to change...that is why I'm happier now.

 

But thanks you all for the support...believe me that I'm praying for all of you aswell...this world would be better filled with lovers than the obvious opposite. Happiness to you all...

 

I'll keep you all posted on Wednesday's date!!!!

 

Thanks.

Angelo

[PuertoRican]

I just read your amazing post and i was wondering if you could read what i wrote yesterday and give me some advice. Here is the link to my post http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t202218/....

 

basically i've tried everything to get a second chance and it sucks because my ex got a new girl in the same week we broke up but still tells me he wants to be with me..just now now =/....i dont know weather to be his friend or just let him go (NC)....i'd really like to hear from you because you seem to have success so any advice you have for me is appreciated! thanks in advance....

[jqb05443]

Hey Angelo,

 

I did the same thing you did actually. My bf broke up with me in April and we actually got back together officially at the end of August. I never thought it would happen but it only happened because I never gave up. I bought Broadway tix at the end of June for the middle of July and told him the same thing that I bought them a week before we broke up. I texted him (as he wasn't really talking to me) if he would like to go with me otherwise I would sell them. He agreed to go and being NC and not seeing eachother for a month and the day we went to the show we had such an amazing time and we were pretty much continued to hang out for a month and a half and we finally became official again at the end of August. So I hope that things end up good for you too. Good luck