PandaStillLovesBunny Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 I just can't understand it. I've been talking to my ex for the past couple of weeks - she's away in another province - and things have been pretty good. Whenever I ask her what she's doing on a sunday, she tells me that she's going to church -- once she even said that she didn't have time to talk because she was heading to mass. Now, this was at 2 in the afternoon, but I didn't think anything of it because I don't know churches too well - they might have services at all hours of the day for all I know. I mean, when I was younger, I would go to church with my mom, and our mass was always around 10:30/11:00 AM. I assumed that churches, Catholic/Christian alike has mass/service in the morning, so I thought 2PM was a little strange. So yesterday - a Sunday, for the slower kids in the audience -I ask her what she's doing , and I get the "going to church" thing again. Right on, I think. Nothing wrong with that, EXCEPT -- we were still talking when she should have already been at church, if it was the same as it was last week. I eventually log off, but I know a friend who talks to my ex as well, and she said that they were talking for the entire afternoon, pretty much. So's I gets suspicious. And I look up the churches in the town where she's staying -- turns out that NONE of them, of any denomination, have services in the afternoon. It's either in the morning, or the occasional night. So she's been lying to me about going to church. I just wanted to know if any of you guys would have any insight as to WHY? I'm not in the same town as she is, so I don't care what she does when I'm not around, because I'm ALWAYS not around. It's not like the "washing my hair" excuse. And it isn't like she's saying that just to avoid talking to me. There are days when I have to say something to stop talking to her because she's so eager to get in touch that she won't let me go. The final piece of info you need is that I'm an ATHEIST, and she knows this, so I don't care if she goes to church or not. It really doesn't matter to me either way; I am indifferent to people's faiths, so long as they do not foist them upon me. So why is she lying about going to church? This is something so trivial, and so innocuous, but so mind-boggling that I can't understand it.
westernxer Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Well, she is your ex and long distance, so she can say whatever she wants, but chances are she's probably with another guy.
bluewolf17 Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 She's lying to you. There is no way she isn't lying. Admitting that she is lying/has lied, is the first step. Secondly..she doesn't have the guts to tell you the truth. So she lies. Your better off without someone like that. Really.
D-Lish Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Who knows what is going on. If she has been raised Catholic, she will feel guilty everyday all day. Maybe she gets up Sunday morning and feels the pressure to go to church~ so she lies about it. If she is usually anxious to talk to you and Sunday is the one day she signs off to "go to church".... Maybe she thinks she "should" be there and has some residual guilt about it. If she had other guys on the go- she wouldn't be so predictable.
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