qwerty9000 Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 First off, sorry if this is in the wrong forum, I'm new here. So, my story is a little long, I'll try and condense it and get to the point. I'm a senior in high school now (18 years old), and I've fallen in love. I met her at school two years ago, as we were both part of a school sports team. For some odd reason, I didn't really notice her until last year. It started as a crush, something I figured would go away. She was one year older than me, and during her senior year, my junior year, a kid I was friendly with asked her out. I didn't want to get in the way or be an ass, so I decided to just suppress my feelings and move on with life. She broke up with him at the end of the year. She told me she didn't want a long distance relationship with someone halfway across the country. Towards the end of the summer, when I discovered she was leaving soon, my feelings returned. I didn't really know what I was going to do, but I wanted to at least spend some time with her before she left. I invited her over to my house to watch a movie. Afterwards, we walked around town and ended up seeing another movie with a couple of other kids going away to college soon. At the end of the night, we decided that we weren't going to say goodbye yet, and we'd see each other one last time before she went away later that week. Well, our schedules got hectic and that never happened. She left, though we stayed in touch frequently via texting, phone calls, IMing, facebook, etc. I would talk with her everyday. A few weeks later, while I was on vacation, she told me she was coming back to visit for a weekend. Oh yes, she goes to school one state over from me, only a 2 hour train ride/90 minute car ride away. We agreed that we needed to hang out. We decided to walk around the town at night for a while. Afterwards we got coffee and talked for hours. I wanted to say something, but I got extremely choked up. I had never felt that way before. She ended up leaving that night, and I felt like **** for the next few days, although we still kept talking to each other frequently. About a week later, she began texting me about plans we were making for me to come stay with her and visit for a weekend. She told me she wanted to go meet this guy a friend was trying to hook her up with. I tried shaking it off, but she kept on mentioning this guy and how she thinks he's cute. She then told me she's just lonely and horny and really needed someone. At this point I couldn't take it anymore. It was like in one fell swoop she conjured every feeling inside of me I didn't want to feel. I called her and said I wanted to talk, but she said she was with friends and I should text her. I told her I'd rather not, but she insisted I text whatever I had to say. I texted her that I had feelings before, feelings I haven't felt in a long time. I told her that I wanted to be that guy she was needing right now. She texted me back saying she was going to call as soon as she got back. She called me an hour later, and we talked for two hours. She told me she adores me, but not like that, and that she doesn't think she could have a relationship with a high school boy 2 hours away right now. But she said she appreciated my honesty. And that brings us to today. We still talk as frequently as before, and there's no awkwardness between us. But my feelings are still there, and now I know that what I feel is love. I want her to be happy, and I want to protect her. Basically, I'm a bit confused right now. Should I pursue her? Should I give it time and see what happens when I visit her? Do I have a shot? I'm not too concerned about this guy she wants to meet, since he's 22 and she's 17, though I suppose anything is possible. I just know that what I feel for her is real. The only time I can be myself is when I'm around her. I can spend hours talking with her, and I have, without feeling slightly bored. I don't need to try around her, everything just flows naturally. When I think about her, I can't think of a single thing I'd change; she's perfect as she is. She's the first image and thought in my head when I wake up, and the last thing I think about before going to sleep. I'm just confused, I suppose. I've been told to never give up on these kinds of feelings, but I'm not sure I have a chance. Should I wait until I'm in college, too? Chances are we will both end up going to school in the same state (all my top schools are in the same state she goes to school in). I've tried moving on. I tried going on a date with another girl, but I just couldn't do it and be honest with her. All I could think about was how I shouldn't be here with this person. Any and all help here is appreciated. Thanks for your time.
SoulSearch_CO Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Ah, the very definition of unrequited love. She already told you "no" when she told you she doesn't see you like that. If you really care for her, you'd respect her wishes. Or you can push her - and lose a good friendship. It's up to you. If you choose to push it, that sounds like you're only going after what YOU want, which is selfish and is not what "love" does. No, I don't think you have "a shot." She already said "no." And yes - there's definitely a chance with the 22 y/o. Is he in college, too? They are in the same life stage - college. While you are in HS. Believe it or not, it's worlds of difference.
aerogurl87 Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Ah, the very definition of unrequited love. She already told you "no" when she told you she doesn't see you like that. If you really care for her, you'd respect her wishes. Or you can push her - and lose a good friendship. It's up to you. If you choose to push it, that sounds like you're only going after what YOU want, which is selfish and is not what "love" does. No, I don't think you have "a shot." She already said "no." And yes - there's definitely a chance with the 22 y/o. Is he in college, too? They are in the same life stage - college. While you are in HS. Believe it or not, it's worlds of difference. I agree completely with SoulSearch. Give up pursuing her and focus on graduating and then maybe meeting some nice girls when you go off to college. You'll save yourself both lots of time and heartache.
Author qwerty9000 Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 Thanks for the replies! Thanks for the advice. And my plan was never to ruin our friendship. As for the 22 yr old, I don't know much about him, but he never went to college. I suppose it will be hard for a while, but I guess I'll get over this eventually. Thanks for the helps.
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