t0ri Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Tonight I was studying with a group of friends, one of which was brought along by another friend, and I don't know him well, but he's friends with my ex. Out of the blue, the guy I'll call "A," tells me he and my ex are talking about me on facebook. I hesitantly asked what they were saying and he turns his laptop to me so I could see for myself. "A" asked my ex, "J," if he was still dating me, and J said, "hell to the F NO!" A then asked why, and J said that I "turned out crazy" and I flipped out on him the last time we hung out because his friend was inviting girls over. J then asked what happened with A and his ex, and A said that it just ran it's course... "you know when you date for so long and it's just over." My ex then said, "ya that's where we were at too." A said he thought that was funny because he thought for sure my ex and I would get married and my ex said, "thank God that's not happening." O U C H. I love how guys seem to always claim their ex's are nuts. I did not flip out on him because his friend was inviting girls over! I got irritated because he was MAKING ME LEAVE so that other girls could come over. Yet, he thinks I'm crazy because of that?? Am I? Well, needless to say, you guys were right and he only text me twice this week to stroke his ego. A few people thought he was easing his way back into my life to get back with me...but clearly that is NOT the case. I don't know why he'd ever bother to contact me if he thinks I'm crazy, and talk about pointless crap for hours. Get your ego boost elsewhere, why don't you? I will NEVER break NC again. He'll never get a response from me again
Exit Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Well for one thing, if he didn't know that you were reading these comments, who knows what his intentions were. Guys don't admit their true feelings to other guys most of the time. He's not gunna sit there and say he misses you to his buddy. Not that I'm trying to get your hopes up. After months of being social and trying to heal myself by distracting myself with other people, I've kinda decided to isolate myself a little bit because I fear stuff like that happening through mutual friends. I don't want to find out anything about my ex and I don't want her finding out how I'm doing by talking to other people. I don't want any sort of connection. Sorry that had to happen to you. Just continue on with your healing as best you can. You don't have to go so far as to not hang out with people, but next time someone says they're talking about you with your ex, say "that's nice" and look away.
playlislay Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 What exit said is true. Men will veeeery rarely sit there and say that they miss you etc. My ex was a common offender if this. He would slag off exes and girls that he knows. Funny enough, it turned out that the girls that he was slagging off, he actually liked! Once again, dont hold onto any hope at all!!!! I dont see why your "friends" would say this in front of you anyway? Unless it was them giving you the gossip? I think that you need to hold your head up high young lady. If you havent slagged him off in the slightest, then you should feel proud. At least you still have respect for him as a person and havent gone down to his level. I have never slagged my ex off since we have split up, despite all of the pain and hurt he caused me. Be the better person and ignore what he has to say. It is obviously his loss and your gain. Chin up!
mickleb Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 I did not flip out on him because his friend was inviting girls over! I got irritated because he was MAKING ME LEAVE so that other girls could come over. Yet, he thinks I'm crazy because of that?? Am I? Er, no love. That shows you've got a bit of self-respect. I don't care how men may behave to each other. This guy's an ars*hole and I hope this helps to paint any nice memories of him black and KNOW how much better you deserve. You know my feeling, though? I reckon 'A' might quite like you and wanted you to see what a d*ck 'J' is.. C'est possible? Anyhoo, take care of yourself, poppet. You are worth a trillion times more. xxxx
NopeNah Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Exit is correct in the way most guys act towards other guys. We don't want to seem weak. Even though I broke it off with my ex this time. I do still miss her to a point. Do I tell my friends that? hell no! There's a running joke about when I'll go back to her..haha. Still a prick move on "A's" part to show you their convo.
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