How to cheer myself up?

[jameskusham]

Hello Everybody. I am an international student who came from China and study in college in America. Now I am a sophomore. I started dating an American girl from last Valentine's Day. Everything was going on good. We were happy and loved each other so much. She is my first girlfriend. Everything were going on good. However, bad thing happened. I went back to China for the summer. I remembered it was June 26 when I logged in to my facebook, I saw an inbox message from her. She said she had no more romantic feeling towards me and broke up with me. She did say she wanted to be friend with me since I were the best guy friend of her. We did hang out a lot before we dated each other. I was so shocked and I had the worst summer in my life. Now I come back to America and continue my study. Since we are not living in the same dorm and we have different majors, we don't see each other as much as last year. We did hang out a bit with other friends. However, she did not talk to me as much as before. I have no idea if it is true that we can still be good friends as before. Even I had some private time with her, we could not talk like before. Our talking topics were just dump and stupid. I did not feel like we were friends. I could not believe the girl who stood in front of me was my girlfriend and I had nothing to talk to her now. I felt like I did not know her. I felt that I was nothing to her.

A lot of people told me that I should not miss her because she broke up with me through facebook and she was naive that she did not treasure me at all. And I realize she does not care about me as much as before. Tons of people say there are plenty of girls in the world and I should not worry. There will be a better one for me. I understand what they say logically. Some of my friends think I am annoying because I keep on mentioning about her. They think I should stop and just move on. I tried to force myself study really hard and go back to normal. The problem is, I do miss her. I don't know why I miss her. Everything I do just remind me about her. And it hurts every time I think about her because I know she does not think about me anymore. I want to stop this stupid thought of me. I want to be strong but I cannot deny that I do miss her and I want her back. Could anyone tell me what to do to cheer myself up from this bad mood?

 

I apologize that my grammar is terrible. If you do not understand what I say, i can type it over again.

[jaybird1043]

welcome to boat james, just talking it out here helps...alot! I know exactly how you feel, I feel just about the same way. I got dumped by voicemail and then she would not accept any of my calls or texts, it hurts alot. I found that writing about her until I got sick of writing helped. Unfortunately I do think of her everyday and way too much of the day. They say time heals everything, so I like you am bust just wasting time trying to get through it.