Jiggy Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 I'm hoping to hear from people who have experience going back to an ex even after they have done really bad things to you. A guy I was dating chose to end things when his ex came back. This was someone who he had been on and off with for many many years. He told me all sorts of horrible things she did to him. She essentially walked all over him, stole money, caused him credit problems, cheated etc etc etc. I'm trying to understand how he could go back to her after all the bad things that have happened. Yes, I already know that he must be very weak and have no self-respect! Just looking for a little insight to try to help me understand! And it's not because she's so pretty. She actually looks like a drag queen. Thanks!
looking4 green grass Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Sounds like co-dependency in action.
jaybird1043 Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Low self esteem is a b*tch, it makes you do all kinds of dumb things. When you are really alone, your mind makes you think someone is better than no one. Kinda the same mentality the abused woman has, she knows the husband is going to her, it better to know than not know whats going to happen to you.
Author Jiggy Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 Yeah maybe it is co-dependency. When we broke up he said "you're so independent. I don't have to take care of you." Like it was a BAD thing! Wouldn't it be a refreshing change to not have to worry about what someone is going to screw up next? Now I feel like I should try to help him get passed it. He's a good person, just making bad decisions. It's really not my place, is it?
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