Oceanflame Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Hi im Daniel, im 19, live just outside of London, England. This is my first post here. Im 5,11, 13 ish stone, green eyes, dark brown hair etc........ Just your friendly average guy. This is how the story goes..... I joined a local charity group a few months ago, we go to nightclubs once a week. I took a liking to a female there, who is 27 years, old. We were sat in a the night club (noisy), when I proceed to start a converstaion with her. I had been out with that group of friends (her included) several times before and everyone was equally friendly towards one and other. I wanted to share my feelings with her, however, I did not want to risk rejection. So I decided to start a light hearted conversation 'about star signs' etc, etc........ (we all had, had a few drinks at the time) She then proceed to tell me, in a light hearted way that she did not like leos, that she had been in a long relationship, which saw her eventually dumped. I really would like to get into a realtionship with this girl. I really like this girl, I am new to 'the game' what would you guys recommend?
Thaddeus Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 If you approach this like a game, someone's going to win and someone's going to lose. Just ask her out. "Hey, I'd like to try this new restaurant/see this move/check out this museum/whatever. Care to join me?" It's that simple. Yes, really. (But she doesn't like Leos? She'd turn down a date with someone because of their asstrological sign?? Is it just me that sees a red flag approaching?)
dunstable Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 I agree with Thaddeus. If she turns you down on astrological sign, she is not the girl for you.
Enema Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Maybe that's her way of not having to say she's not interested in him. "Oh I would but... you know, you're a Leo" nicer than, "Oh I would but... you know, I don't like you".
dunstable Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Maybe that's her way of not having to say she's not interested in him. Quite possible. So if she meant it literally, she's not the right girl. If she said it as a polite excuse, she is not interested. So either way, OP doesn't have much of a chance. Unless, she was just teasing him. Nothing to be lost by calling her and trying to get to know her a bit better.
New Again Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Maybe that's her way of not having to say she's not interested in him. "Oh I would but... you know, you're a Leo" nicer than, "Oh I would but... you know, I don't like you". Ha, that's what I thought too...like he mentioned that he was a Leo and she was trying to avoid him asking her out by saying she didn't like Leos....That's something I would've done when I was younger.
Author Oceanflame Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 It came across as if she was teasing me. ummmmmm, Im really suprised at the negative responses you guys made, all the other dating forums, were encouraging and positive.
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 We could all guess positive or we could all guess negative. At the end of the day, the only way to find out is to ask her out. My take would be negative, since "generally speaking", it's not often a 27 year old woman is interested in a 19 year old guy.
Author Oceanflame Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 Well I'll guess I'll see how things play out, she is a teacher at my adult community college, where I take at few classes. Positve factors increase your chances by a certain percent. Negative factors decrease your chances by a certain percent. Generally. If I can accumalte enough positve factors then she will want to go out with me, thats just logic.
dunstable Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 We could all guess positive or we could all guess negative. At the end of the day, the only way to find out is to ask her out. My take would be negative, since "generally speaking", it's not often a 27 year old woman is interested in a 19 year old guy. Ditto. Ask her out but don't get your hopes up.
Author Oceanflame Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 According to my theroy (the maths of dating) LOL Iam in complete control of my chances, obviously there is a combiation, like that to a safe, If I can find that combiation through logic and persistance then she will be with me. Iam the most powerfull infulence in the situation, If i fail It will be purley due to my human error. I favour my chances. thankyou I was able to answer my own question.
New Again Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 According to my theroy (the maths of dating) LOL Iam in complete control of my chances, obviously there is a combiation, like that to a safe, If I can find that combiation through logic and persistance then she will be with me. Iam the most powerfull infulence in the situation, If i fail It will be purley due to my human error. I favour my chances. thankyou I was able to answer my own question. Well it's your "math" equation, but the 27 yo woman is an unknown variable...you can only control so much. Good luck though, at least you have a good attitude.
Author Oceanflame Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 She is an unknown variable, So therefore the more information I obtain about her thought process, the greater my chances, I see.........goes back the basics, lol
dunstable Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 So therefore the more information I obtain about her thought process, the greater my chances, I see.........goes back the basics, lol You are very analytical (as I am) but my experience has taught me that relationships are based on an unthinking, animal-like chemistry. If it doesn't exist between you, look for someone else. If the chemistry is not there at the beginning, it most likely never will be.
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Well I'll guess I'll see how things play out, she is a teacher at my adult community college, where I take at few classes. Positve factors increase your chances by a certain percent. Negative factors decrease your chances by a certain percent. Generally. If I can accumalte enough positve factors then she will want to go out with me, thats just logic.Okay, then play the odds. Ask her out and see what happens. Keep in mind that if there are any non-frat rules between teachers and students, your odds go down.
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