looking4 green grass Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 So. The sage continues. But in a very positive way. The BF mentions yesterday that he has deleted his myspace account. I knew the only reason he had a myspace account was to talk to the BFF because that is what she primarily used for email and chat. Knowing he got rid of it meant he was serious about scaling back his communication with her. Then, as I click through his pictures on facebook (because I'm soooooo ready for him to come home), I notice he removed all the photos of her. (He had all these pics of just her and her "come hither" face....not sure what's up with that...but all she posts are "sexy" pics of herself...crazy.) Anyway, I also had an ex call me and invite me out to lunch. (He sucks, no interest from my side.) I brought this up to the BF and asked to establish some boundaries about what we were and were not comfortable with in terms of the opposite sex. He finally realizes he's not going to be able to have his cake and eat it too in this relationship. Whatever he wanted to do with the BFF he also had to let me do with other men in terms of hanging out, etc. I have no idea what or why he clued in, but I'm not questioning it. He asked me what I thought about her again and I laid it all out there this time. I told him exactly what I thought she was doing and why. It was weird, he agreed with me. He said he had basically stopped talking to her after that fated evening b/c he saw how upset and hurt I was over how she treated me, and that was why he stopped mentioning her. Because he stopped talking to her. I'm starting to wonder if I finally met a man who doesn't suck?????
Paragon Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 I am wondering if the BFF gave him an ultimatum or made a move on him, which is why he decided to take himself out of the situation...
Author looking4 green grass Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 Good question. He didn't mention that. But whatever it was, she appears to be mostly going away. It's so strange, b/c this kind of good stuff never happens to me in a relationship.
Paragon Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Good question. He didn't mention that. But whatever it was, she appears to be mostly going away. It's so strange, b/c this kind of good stuff never happens to me in a relationship. I am glad it wound up working out for you , as I mentioned in your previous thread, her being out of the picture more/less is best for your relationship.
New Again Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Nice! I hope things continue to work out so positively!
J3ss Posted September 19, 2009 Posted September 19, 2009 Thought I'd chime here a bit... I had a much more subdued(?) situation to yours with my former bf. She was more subtle, but it was very obvious to me. She had never so much as even talked to me and was very standoffish and avoided me on the two occasions where I was graced with her wonderful company. Long story short, my ex b/f did eventually stop talking to her because I flipped out once. To the very end he defended her, and I feel only stopped talking to her so he wouldn't have to hear it from me anymore (though he never deleted her from facebook). Well, I figured that if he never really understood WHY I had a problem with her (I tried) then, something like this would likely happen again in the future. It was one of the main reasons I ended it. I would have acted very differently if the tables were turned, going so far as having a talk with this other person about their disrespect. I'm very protective. I hope it keeps going well for you, I know the emotional drain something like that can have on a person.
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