smookie Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Contact her, I do not understand why you will not.... There is nothing at all that you can find out about her through LS... If she is with someone or not. You told her not to contact you and so she is just respecting your wish, now if you want to talk to her then you have to contact her, This lady will not contact you.. I broke up with my ex because there was no other choice. I told him that I wanted him to stay away from me and not to contact me. HIs words were fine be that way. If I want to talk to him I have to call him, He will not call me unless it has to do with anything about computers (he really will not learn them) other then that he will not. He came out to visit me once in 4 months stayed for the weekend and really wants nothing to do with me now. But at least I found out from him and did not try and guess and figure it out on my own. Does it hurt? Not as much as I thought it would? Can I get past it? Oh ya I can. Did I love him? Oh more then anything. Do I want to have a happy life? Of course I do. Seriously contact her, No one could tell me that this would be the way my ex would be only they can.
Beeotch Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 And this is probably the most sad thing of all. I'm sympathetic about your heartbreak, really, but you really have nobody you can talk to? Regarding your ex. Some people often see getting back with someone as the quick fix. The break-up causes the heartbreak and what quicker way to solve it than to not be broken up? People often allow this 'quick fix' to cloud their better judgement. So what I'm asking here is, do you want her back because you believe there's something worth fighting for or are you just lonely without her & because like you said, you have nobody to talk to? Another thing, sometimes it really is just better to move on. You entered this world alone, not with anyone else, therefore you don't need her (or anyone) to make you happy. You can find love again and definitely happiness (in your own life & with someone else). You also really don't wanna be going down the drinking to get to sleep route. That's a downward spiral... it's been three and a half months and if you continue to rely on alcohol to get yourself relaxed to sleep for another three months, you could very well be heading down a dangerous route. It's also not gonna help.. the problems and issues will still be there in the morning. So I think you should move on. Searching for her on FB was a big mistake and look at what you found. Had you contacted her, you might have heard it from her in person or over the phone, and it probably would have hurt a whole lot more. You haven't really been clear about what happened between the two of you, but usually there are faults on both sides. If you're at peace with whatever part (if any) you played in the breakdown, you can start moving on. Keep yourself busy to take your mind off it.. CONSTANTLY thinking about everything all the time can really mess you up. How old are you, by the way? Not that it matters, but no matter how old you are, life is for living...there's obviously ups and downs but you can't let something ruin your life. It appears she has moved on and I think it's time you did too. All the best. Very true. I had to come to that realization with my ex....that he was not the best thing that ever happened to me and that I do believe I can find better. I think now that I miss being in a relationship and that comfort of a partner and not necessarily him. 1
Author bluesky123 Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 I'm goingto fight the urge to contact her, the last email she sent me was vague. I told her not to contact me the day we broke up , I emailed her after. By the looks of of her FB profile she is having the time of her life, she checked out long before, I am really upset of the way she dumped me. She doesnt love me if she did she'd contact me. Exit made a good point I must power through the ruts, I cannot let this girl bring me down. I must improve myself, be independant and learn from my mistakes. If I evert have a realtionship again I'm doing things diffrent.
Exit Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Sounds like you've made a good decision. I'm constantly on the verge of contacting my ex but I'm finally to the point where I can talk myself out of it.
silic0ntoad Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 In all honesty, nothing, save death, is truly final. You can't say that the ex will/will not ever come back. But honestly, why would you want them to?
Author bluesky123 Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 There are things as a look back that I could of done. If she truly felt the need to explore and find herself there was nothing I could do too stop her. Do I want a chance to talk, Yes. I would truly like to know what is is up too. I miss her not the realtionship. She is an amazing person and I truly feel as though she 's the one that got away. At this time right now I dont think I could take her telling me she's already in a new realtionship. The day she left me she was crying histracly. Can you tell me why one day she loves me and is planning to see me the next day. Then all the sudden I get dumped something happend and that perplexes me.
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