Chrome Barracuda Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 LOL I love it when people blame the media!!! The media has nothing to do with this. the times are changing that's why. If I meet a women who just happens to be white, asian and indian and she just happens to like me why would the media influence me to date them??? The MEDIA!!!! I date them because it would have been a choice I made.
Island Girl Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 The focus of the media? The American media? Do you honestly have to ask why the emphasis is on black/white? Ever take an American history class? I believe you haven't really followed this thread. If so, I guess you don't recall that the media was brought up several posts back and by somebody else. You seemed to be addressing that point -- hmm guess I was mistaken. I can't speak for the media, as I am not in the media. I spoke for myself, and my own experiences. I think that was pretty much the point I made in my last post, if you would actually read the lines and not what you imagine to be between them. I wasn't asking you to speak FOR the media but your opinion on the previous posts point. I asked you to elaborate. Oh - that means expand your reply further. Your black husband isn't from this country right? That explains a lot of your picture book perfect experiences. Again, it's more of a cultural issue than a racial issue. Are you not reading posts here? Because it seems as if you skim to get just enough information to form a loose reply and then just go altogether wrong at times. This would be one of those times. My husband is not African-American. Yes, he is from another country. How in the world would that dictate any adversity only being cultural?? That is ridiculous. We are still an interracial couple and quite obviously at that. ** Not to be a total ass... Okay. I'm quite ready for a change so let's hear it! but if that prejudice remark was towards me, then go to hell. If that's the argument that you default to, then you are probably one of the apologist boot lickers that the majority of black people have no real respect for, and make fun of when your back is turned. After that, I'm done here. Perhaps you entirely miss the point. That appears to be the case so I'll simplify it for you - Just because the media or people in general bat around interracial problems only while using the example of Caucasian people and African-Americans does not mean that there aren't OTHER races in the country who also have a voice that should be heard or experience that should be counted. There are an array of races out there and they are all intermixing and intermarrying. This is not a "black and white" issue. Your level of language and disrespect speaks volumes about you. When you clearly misunderstand what you read, generalize, and instantly jump to personal attacks it is apparent you must be part of the problem not the solution as you may have one believe. Let's just hope one can take you at your word and that you really are done. I do not feel like explaining anything to you any further.
OpenGL Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 I guess you are correct. 95% of the white community wouldn't want to date a skank like that anyway, so it would work out well. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt, but then people like you continually prove I shouldn't be so naive. I doubt you will come back to this thread and own up to your comments but just in case you do I'll ask you this. Do you believe you are a racist? I'm just seeing if people like you are actually willing to admit to themselves and other that they are, in fact, racist.
BWLoca Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 I guess you are correct. 95% of the white community wouldn't want to date a skank like that anyway, so it would work out well. As an African-American female, I think that mentality comes from the idea that it's cool to have your fun with us, but you aren't supposed to actually marry someone or become connected to someone of another race. I don't agree with it but my ex's father once said something of that nature to him about me. My ex didn't get it but I saw right through the comment.
Star Gazer Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 I think that most people don't care about interracial dating anymore. Maybe they do in a few really backwards parts of the country but it's rare. Ok, well I'm sharing my opinion based on my experience. Where I live you see TONS of interracial marriages. Especially Asian/white couples. It's so common here that I honestly don't think people care. If anyone does then too bad. Our families have no issue with us, which is what matters Thing is, Allina... it IS about where you live. You live in one of the most humanly accepting parts of the country.
silic0ntoad Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 The media has alot to do with this, Chrome. The media PERPETUATES it. I am not saying it encourages it. In fact it's quite the contrary. My family are odalists from Norway. I could never bring a black/asian/whatever girl back to my grandparents there or I would be crucified. I don't take in their belief system, but unlike others here, I don't berate people for believing either way. If you want to mix races, go ahead. If you're against it, then argue on. It really has absolutely nothing to do with my life, because I do what I want, and fu*k anyone who judges otherwise.
NoIDidn't Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 I haven't read beyond the first two pages, so I don't know if anyone has said this already or not. I am Black and married a West Indian. My family members were against it because of their own stereotypes against West Indian men. The friend that said you didn't need those "hassles" with interracial dating didn't have to be a racial statement. It could be one of culture. Both myself and my husband identify to others as Black. But he will always state that he is Jamaican, as if that makes him a different kind of Black. But he's right. It does make him different. Culturally. And we have bumped heads more over cultural differences than anything else. I don't have a problem with interracial couples. Both hubby and I have several family members of other nationalities/ethnicities because of marriage. But they all speak of overcoming the cultural issues. Cultural differences can make or break these relationships. Its not the race that causes the issues.
CaliGuy Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Date whoever you want. To heck with anyone who judges/criticizes you for it. It's not their job to live your life. As long as you are happy and fulfilled, that's all that matters.
silic0ntoad Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Date whoever you want. To heck with anyone who judges/criticizes you for it. It's not their job to live your life. As long as you are happy and fulfilled, that's all that matters. +1 on this. It is what it is.
Shygirl15 Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 Date whoever you want. To heck with anyone who judges/criticizes you for it. It's not their job to live your life. As long as you are happy and fulfilled, that's all that matters. Yep, agreed.
clv0116 Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 My GF is Asian and people do sometimes sort of gawk. I like to think it's due to us being such a fantastic looking couple () but in reality a good part of the time it's probably because I'm white and she's Asian. Maybe this is what the lady is referring to, rather than she herself disapproving she might just be serving up an altruistic heads up that some (other) people will make your shared life harder than it need be. But then there are all sorts of bigots out there, it's not just about race.
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