Sledgerick Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Hey everyone, I'm new here but I'm having some relationship issues that I need to talk about that has been causing me some major depressive episodes. I'll give a quick re-cap. I'm in medical school in the Carribean island. It's not what you think, it's long hours and lack of sleep. I failed my third semester and had to repeat, and this was the same time that I fell in love with a girl in my class. We studied together, hung out, even kissed a few times, and were practically dating. But towards the end it came down to her being scared that this was just an island fling and didn't want her heart broken when things eventually didn't work out. So it ended at that, but I've been chasing after her ever since, trying to prove that I'm in it for the long haul. I repeated the semester, and things between us were good even though we've had the same conversation about our relationship to the point where we both get annoyed when it gets brought up. So I basically decided that I won't ask her anymore until we're both back in the states, and still trying to prove to her, that I'm in it for the long haul. She's still on the island with me, and at times we get along great. When I'm away, she texts me with how much she misses me, and we're inseperable when I get back and then things die down again. She's moving to a city that is an hour away to do her hospital rotations for the semester before moving back to the states in 4 months. I'm trapped between the point of where I want to keep showing her that if she gave me a chance, I'd be great to her, but also beginning to lead my own life until she figures out exactly what I want. Because whenever we have those conversations about relationships, she never says no so I'm grasping at hope and out of that hope, I get depressed from imagining the life that I don't have with her. I'd appreciate any advice or help out there. I'm crazy about this girl, and it's not a first love type of thing. I feel like it could be the real thing, but happiness shouldn't be this difficult. It should be, you like me, I like you, and that's all you need. Everything else is just small stuff. Thank you to anyone that bothered to read this and offer advice.
EricaH329 Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 It should be, you like me, I like you, and that's all you need. Yes, it should be like that. But, unfortunatly, it never is. It seems like at this point, all there is left for you to do is to just continue to show her how much you are dedicated to her (without going over the top, of course). The decision is in her hands. It all comes down to whether or not she feels like you are worth taking a chance with. And, if she decides you aren't... then as much as it hurts, you are better off. You need someone that is willing to take just as much of a risk as you are.
Author Sledgerick Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 Thanks Erica, I know everything you're saying is true...it's just very frustrating. Some things I forgot to mention is that she had been in a 5-6 year relationship with a boyfriend from high school till now that ended about 6 months ago so I completely understand that she needs some time to deal with that whole situation. Lately, I hear her and her friends talk about never getting married, and growing old with a dog which, even though it's just talk, it still kind of hurts a little bit. Thanks for the advice.
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