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LB, I'm so happy to hear that all is going well for you. This is very exciting. I wish you all the best.:love:

 

Mea:)

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So somone can knock up their GF in your state and say " I'm not acknowleding or signing anything," and the child will technically have no father ???? AND the guy is off the hook re child support ?

 

If you file for ANY social services, even a govt sponsored child health plan they will ask the fathers info in an attempt to collect the state minimum in child support.

 

They are off the hook in terms of allowing a child to have his last name, but definitely not in terms of child support. I'm not sure what happens if DNA establishes paternity. I guess at that point the mother can put the father's last name on the birth certificate. Not really sure though about that.

 

Yes, for social services of any sort here the father has to be established and he has to be paying support before they will help you.

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Congratulations LB, what lovely news!

 

I remember being told that the first six weeks are when the embryo is in its own little sac and the risk of harm is lower then than the second six weeks.

 

Many women don't know they are pregnant until around six weeks, and do things that could be potentially harmful at later stages (ie drink alcohol).

 

Would be good to get reassurance from your ob-gyn though.

 

Congratulations again! I have 4 weeks to go, and will follow your progress with interest. All the best.

 

Exactly. Embryo is fully self contained until implantation which occurs about the same time as your would have been "next period". Sometimes a little sooner, sometimes a little later. The next six weeks are very vital though. The most crucial if I remember correctly.

 

Congratulations!

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Thanks! I have mixed emotions. I am incredibly happy about being pregnant, but incredibly sad that I will be going it alone.

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I just got home from the hospital. I spent the night in the ER. I was bleeding, or at least there was some discharge. When all the tests were done, they found two things:

 

1. The baby had died and had been apparently reabsorbed except for a small 3mm bit.

 

2. A large mass on my right ovary.

 

The blessings never seem to stop for me.

 

I am numb, and don't feel anything.

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:eek: So sorry to hear that (((hug))).
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Lucrezia, words cannot express my feelings. I am deeply sorry to learn of the loss of your baby.

 

My prayers go out to you.

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I am so so very sorry, LB. :(

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Lucrezia

 

I'm so sorry to hear that (((hug))). Please take care of yourself

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So sorry for your loss and continued difficulties. I can't express the sinking feeling when I read this.

 

Hugs from me, and I do hope that things get better again.

 

I will be thinking of you. This is one of those times that my words will not tell you how much I wish that I could comfort you.

 

James

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Oh LB. :(

 

I am so, so sorry to hear about this. There is nothing I can say that would even scratch the surface of how you must be feeling, but please know I am thinking of you.

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Oh Lb, how truly devastating. I'm so sorry for your loss. :(

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I am so sorry LB.

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I'm very, very sorry Lucrezia.

 

My wife and I lost a baby at almost 4 months. It helped our grief a little to plant a magnolia tree in the yard to honor the daughter we never had the chance to meet.

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((((((Lucrezia))))))

 

:(

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Oh dear - this was the first time I had even chanced upon this thread, and I was so thrilled for you. There really is no other sort of pain like losing a baby, and I think that you will be amazed at the enormous sisterhood that will draw around you during this time. Every woman's dread, and so many women's experience.

 

Best wishes for rapid healing, heartfelt prayers for a good conclusion to the ovary issue, and comfort and love for your wounded heart and soul.

 

(((((Lucrezia)))))

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:( I am so sorry LB. Hugs to you sweetie.
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LB, I am beyond sorry about everything that has taken place.

It is difficult to find the words.

 

Please know there are so many of us pulling for you -- please know that.

 

((((((((((LB))))))))))

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I'm so sorry LB.

 

Hope you get back to health soon and many hugs to you.

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Thank you all. I still haven't been able to process it - my mind just seems to bend around it without thinking about it. I went in yesterday for what was supposed to be my first prenatal visit. They talked to me about a few things, and said to come back in ten days to see if my hormone levels are steady or dropping. If they are steady they will consider a surgical or medical way to (I can't even put words to it), 'deliver' what is left of baby. If the levels are dropping, they will let (as they say) nature take its course. Either way is horrifying to me. The only good thing about the appointment was that they were not concerned about the ovary thing (apparently it is only a cyst), and they told me about a clotting disorder I have that I didn't know about: factor five leiden. It doesn't surprise me. My mother had problems with blood clots and so did my grandmother. Makes sense that I would have that genetic 'thing' as well.

 

I have to take shots for it (two a day) but it will only be temporary until the current situation is resolved and then I'll go back on the pills rather than the shots. I hate the idea of giving myself shots, but I have to suck it up this time and just do it.

 

I don't know if things are getting easier or if my mind is simply in denial but I have to say that it does seem a little less oppressive now. Today is the first day I didn't come home from work and crash for a few hours (though the afternoon is young, I still may).

 

I really appreciate the kind words. I never even got to tell my family about it, and only a few of my friends knew. I doubt I will tell my family at this point. There wouldn't really be any reason to. I'm closer to my exH's family (who do know) than my own, anyway.

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My heart hurts for you LB.. ((hugs))

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hugs LB... big hugs to you.

 

rest well and take it easy for a while... you deserve a little down time to heal honey.

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LB, I am so glad to hear that the mass on your ovary is a cyst. You have to look at the bright side. I am so sorry to hear about the baby, but when I read about it first - medically you were always unlikely to carry a full term pregnancy. I am just trying to be a realist here - odds were always pretty strongly in favor of losing the baby.

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LB, thinking of you today as it's Thanksgiving here in Canada.. I'm thankful that you are a survivor, a strong woman who gives me inspiration and I feel blessed that our paths have crossed here on LS. Hope you're doing okay..Hugs.

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I'm so sorry LB. I've been through this type of loss myself. Hang in there.

 

Mea:)

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