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My doctors are getting a call from me first thing in the morning. I suspect they will have me in immediately. I'm feeling the first stirrings of nausea - particularly with smells. :sick:

 

I'm so excited. I hope upon hope upon hope that it will work out ok.

 

I'm glad to hear your getting in right away.:) Oh and those smells well that's all part of it.:laugh: But, it does get better as time goes on through the pregnancy. The first trimester is the prime time for nausea. After about week 12 things should settle down a bit. At least they did for me all 3 times. I'm soooo excited for you.:love:

 

Mea:)

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I swear, there's something in the water here with all these pregnancies! :laugh:

 

LB, this is thrilling news, and I'm so HAPPY for you. This baby's definitely the pilón, or the sweet, after some trying times in your life.

 

*does a little happy dance*

 

we're getting another bay-beee!

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Congrats, hope all goes well! :)

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I talked to my oncologist and my hematologist today. They are both as shocked as I am! The odds of a pregnancy in a situation like mine are very, very, very low. They are setting me up with the high-risk pregnancy clinic but I know from their reputation as a whole (the set of clinics there) that they tend to be on the slack side. I am hoping they will take me right away, and I really hope they don't turn me away because of my insurance (not a lot of people here take my work insurance).

 

If I lose this baby because of damned insurance red tape, there will be some serious hell to pay. It will be just short of me going and physically beating someone's ass. :mad:

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Congratulations on your happy news, LB.

 

It's obviously concerning that the clinic you're dealing with hasn't got the greatest reputation for being on the ball, particularly given your particular set of circumstances. Are there any organisations in your area that could provide an advocacy service for you, to help ensure your pregnancy gets the high level of monitoring it requires?

 

You're probably already more than well versed enough to know everything that's covered in this link - but it gives some additional links at the end that might be helpful, and it could be that contacting some of the groups mentioned at the bottom will help you identify sources of help (ie for advocacy in getting the health care you need) that you haven't yet considered yet.

 

Edit...what is it with these broken links? I got it from the American Cancer Society - a section specifically dealing with breast cancer and pregnancy.

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Yaaaaah!:D:D:D

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I talked to my oncologist and my hematologist today. They are both as shocked as I am! The odds of a pregnancy in a situation like mine are very, very, very low. They are setting me up with the high-risk pregnancy clinic but I know from their reputation as a whole (the set of clinics there) that they tend to be on the slack side. I am hoping they will take me right away, and I really hope they don't turn me away because of my insurance (not a lot of people here take my work insurance).

 

If I lose this baby because of damned insurance red tape, there will be some serious hell to pay. It will be just short of me going and physically beating someone's ass. :mad:

 

Congrats LB!!!

 

My second pregnancy was high risk and it can be a pain when negotiating insurance providers and such. I actually went to get my appointment and was given one after my due date! I found throwing a fit in the Dr. office and crying to work very well. I was pregnant after all!

 

I hope you get in for a check up soon and that all is well.

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Its good to read some good news. I really hope that all goes well for you and the little one.

 

:):):)

 

Take care,

Eve xx

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If I lose this baby because of damned insurance red tape, there will be some serious hell to pay. It will be just short of me going and physically beating someone's ass. :mad:

 

Hot damn, I love your attitude!!! :D:bunny:

 

Congrats, LB. I am so happy for you, and I hope everything comes out perfectly. :):love:

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My doctor was able to get me into the high risk clinic on October 6th. Soon, but I wish it was sooner. So far so good, though.

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congratulations, lucrezia. :)

 

i first read about you being pregnant whilst you were posting in that thread about what to do when you are single--or something like that. i remember reading as the thread kept growing and how you were saying that you were a "couple's person"; that you need someone to give, nurture, and tend to. and then, right after, you said you were pregnant! i remember smiling and thinking what beautiful timing this news was for you! it still makes smile. it was lovely.

 

i am sincerely very happy for you. i know that it is frightening, considering all of the chemotherapy and medication you have gone through, but i have a big, great feeling that this is nothing less than a blessing from the Universe for you.

 

best of thoughts and wishes coming your way. keep us posted! :)

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Wow - missed this! Congratulations!!!

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Sooo..How's mama feeling these days?

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When I say how surprised I am that this happened, it would never encompass the level of surprise that I'm feeling. :eek::eek::eek:

 

First off:

 

I haven't had a period in two years. The chemo stopped my periods, and they never returned. I also have only the slightest rim of cervix left from the cancer surgeries in the early nineties, and most of it I lost when the doctor "broke away the scar tissue" with her bare hands so that I could give birth to my daughter in the mid nineties.

 

Yet... here I am, pregnant! I took two tests yesterday, both very positive. I was given a blood test at the beginning of August before I went into the hospital (routine for DVT patients, or at least for me) and it didn't show up then, so I had to have conceived the week before or even a few days before for it to not show up on the test. No sex since then, so...

 

I didn't notice anything unusual except peeing every five minutes this past week. Even when I hadn't drunk a lot! I don't have breasts, so there is no soreness there. I got tired of peeing all the time and decided to make sure I ruled out pregnancy first before calling my doctor. I was thinking... great, now I have diabetes too. I had spent much of this month gorging myself on stuff - pickles, Doritos, sharp cheeses (in hindsight I don't normally eat a lot of this stuff so I know now it was cravings) and figured I had gorged myself into a blood sugar frenzy.

 

Nope, the first test showed positive within seconds of taking it. I sat there on the john just staring at it. Not sure what to think. Gave it the obligatory couple of minutes. Yep, still positive. An hour or two later I took the second test. Same thing. I'm not taking anything that would give a false positive.

 

Made some calls, slept on it and here I am. Awake, pregnant and THRILLED.

 

Also terrified. I spent the first week of August in the hospital being pumped full of Heparin, Thrombolytics, Warfarin, two surgeries, elephant doses of morphine, etc. So, needless to say I am also terrified that my baby is either not going to make it, or is going to be damaged in some way.

 

I have done some research and found that stuff done before six weeks isn't bound to do much if any harm, but stuff done from the six to twelve mark will. I'm not taking my Warfarin today, and will see my doctor tomorrow.

 

If anyone ever wanted a baby, this one is wanted. I was never happy with the idea that I could not have more children. Granted, this one is a little late in the game and a surprise(!) but damned if I am not going to fight for him (I'm figuring a 'he' - boys run strong on the father's side). Hope so, I want a boy!

 

I spoke to 'father' on the phone yesterday. All good on that front, though it was not a phone call I really wanted to make.

 

So, I'm only a little ways along - conceived six weeks or so ago. Here's hoping I make it the rest of the way.

 

Congrats and good luck. Everything happens for a reason.

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Actually I'm feeling great! I'm not getting as much of the morning sickness now. According to my pregnancy calculator I'm between ten and eleven weeks right now. I am dropping some of the unhealthy pudge on body, but haven't started showing quite yet. Interestingly, what is left of my breasts has softened and grown in some! I had a dream early on that my boobs were growing back. I didn't realize at that time I was pregnant though.

 

I have two appointments coming up on Oct. 5 and 6. The first is with my oncologic surgeon who will no doubt freak out since my breast cancer was hormone positive, and the second is for the ultrasound, etc at the high risk clinic.

 

I have been in touch with 'dad'. I'm not sure where we stand. It is my hope that he will land on my doorstep before too long. He hinted at it already, but we'll see. If he does, great - if not, great. As they say "I got this".

 

It is sticky in my state when stuff like this happens. Legally, any child born while a couple is still legally married (which I am - we have to live separate for a year and a day before we can file) is presumed to be a child of the marriage. If a child is born out of wedlock, he is considered a bastard until the father fills out legal paperwork acknowledging paternity and giving permission to use his last name. I can't put a last name down! As it is, I will use my maiden name as a placeholder and will have to leave the 'father' part blank. This state really takes a hard stand on stuff like this - they make it hard on people who color outside the lines so to speak. I haven't talked to 'dad' about this stuff yet.

 

I don't really see a need to until the baby is confirmed to be healthy and viable. Then we'll go from there.

 

I am not going for child support or anything like that. I gave him his 'out', and I am choosing this. I am ready. Heck, its not like I haven't done it before, and was able to do it on a shoestring. I can manage.

 

Of course, there is always the remote possibility he will come back down here and we can build this life together, but I'm not holding my breath.

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I read this when you first posted but neglected to post my congratulations.

 

Honestly, I was shocked, too, when I read it. And then I was thrilled when I realized that you were serious.

 

I can say that you are one of the posters whose life I feel that I have had the privilege of being a part of. The way you talk about your life draws us in.

 

Keep us updated. I for one look forward to reading of how you are doing. And now with a child on the way, I will be looking for every bit of news. :)

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:love: Best of luck to you! :love:
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Glad to hear things are progressing well ! This truly is some of the most exciting news LS has had in a while !

 

I have NEVER heard of the bastard clause ! It sounds so 19th century for the father to have to give permission to use his last name. So somone can knock up their GF in your state and say " I'm not acknowleding or signing anything," and the child will technically have no father ???? AND the guy is off the hook re child support ?

 

If you file for ANY social services, even a govt sponsored child health plan they will ask the fathers info in an attempt to collect the state minimum in child support.

 

Anyway, enough of that, congrats again, please do keep us updated !!!

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Wow, congrats LB. If anyone deserves this, you do....

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I'm so happy for you that things are progressing/growing well. :):bunny:

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wow, that's amazing news, congratulations.

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Glad to hear that things are going well. Keep us updated! :love:

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