wizardof7 Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Recently my old friends ex wife stopped by to do a bid at a house across the street from my house { She got the job from the real estate company handling the house } She remembered I lived there and left her card . I called her and we went out . At first we were just catching up , we have known each other for a while . She told me she was now divorced for about three months now . They were in a transitional period living together and paying off some bills taking care of the kids . She arrived home one night after a long day at work to find the door locked by the chain . She called him , a fight insued and she ripped his shirt ,and he called the cops and had her put in jail for D V . She moved out and now they each take the kids for a week . { One night a few years ago I had met her and her husband at a bar and at this point we had joked about going to Amsterdam and having sex in the streets . lol .It really was just drunk talk . But I had always fantasized about doing it . There was no way I would engage in cheating with a friends wife .I coudn't stand it if it happened to me . Now her husband is a guy I've known for years . We used to hang out all summer . Tripping acid in the mountains ,going to parties , playing guitar together . Basic teenage stuff . Over the years we just kinda grew apart . Not for any bad reason . I've talked to him very few times in the last ten years . Now , she and I are talking on the phone daily , and have spent a few nights together . She hasn't been this happy in a long time . I can see it in her face . Her family can see it as well .{ she complains about her cheeks hurting because she smiles so much lol } I feel pretty good about it as well . The only problem is he found out and is now trying to cause drama in her life . Now claming I one of his best friends . As well there are mutual friends that know mostly because of his blabbing . Now most of my close friends say that if we are happy together we should be together . And he has his own girlfriend as well . I'm just would like to hear a neutral voice on this matter . I know about the bros before hos thing { I think its kinda silly } . But I don't see him as one of my bros . My bros call me at least once a month . We go bowling and , record music together . I help them with their cars , We actually do things together . He's called me once in 10 years for a ride to get his car . He signed the divorce papers , and he couldn't wait to get her out of his life . But now that he doesn't control her he can't stand it .He wants her to be miserable . Am I wrong for following what my heart says is good for me . I can't really speak for her .But her actions say the same .
andy.macca Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 I think you should just stay with her. Sounds like you are both happy and eventually he will get over it. I see no problem with it, I can understand how he could be feeling but he will get over it and look back at how he was silly to feel that way.
mark982 Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 while i do follow the bros before hos thing.hell he's barely a friend,he's called you once in 10 yrs? now he's just someone from your distance past. i'd say enjoy yourself.
Chrome Barracuda Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Out of all the women why her??? Why date her? your making yourself look bad by doing so. but maybe he'll forgive you and he could move on. If your his friend, friends' shouldnt do that. No matter how freaky their friends' ex os or how tight the woman's a-hole is. Some lines shouldnt be crossed. Would you like your friend to be hooking up with your ex?? Why her???
mark982 Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 come on chrome, he hasen't spoke to this guy but once in 10 yrs. can't call him a friend,hell he's just somone he used to know.
Author wizardof7 Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 Out of all the women why her??? Why date her? your making yourself look bad by doing so. but maybe he'll forgive you and he could move on. If your his friend, friends' shouldnt do that. No matter how freaky their friends' ex os or how tight the woman's a-hole is. Some lines shouldnt be crossed. Would you like your friend to be hooking up with your ex?? Why her??? Because we feel great together . And life is not about sobbing in your beer and living in the past . Its not about her being freaky , or tight . Its a connection that we both feel . And the only interaction I have with her kids is the occastional hello . I don't go to their house the week she has the kids . And at some point if it gets more serious then we will present them with the truth. But for now we just hang out every other week . I really don't see her ex at all . We don't hang out together . Now him and his wife used to come to our shows when I was in a band . And I would always hang out with them . But that was over 5 years ago . So I would not call him my buddy and very few people in my circle of friends think theres any problem with it . But I was looking for some perspective and I did appreciate your comment . I think I found it . Three for and one against .
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