spookie Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 That's what it looks like it's gonna be... What's wrong with me?
jerbear Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 That's what it looks like it's gonna be... What's wrong with me? Did you not relocate and get a new job? That can happen. I've lived in the boondocks for my 1st job and it was one of those places where one moves to when they have a family. Are you near single people now? or families?
CARL45 Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 May I ask a question? and If I can, Do you even talk to women or are intimidated by them? I ask this because the more aggressive you are about going after women the more you would probably find one that likes you. I mean what I am saying is what I basically had to do is look at ever women around my age that I come in contact with as a potential romantic interest! You can't sit back and say " you went on Zero dates" because you have to viciously pursue every possible avenue in order to get a woman. You can never rest, you must be all ways caculating, never relenting!!! You can only say you didn't get something when your on your death bed only then!!! My friend you must buck Up!!! Stop this Zero dates crap!!! Even Quasimodo could go after a woman!!!!
start-fresh Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 May I ask a question? and If I can, Do you even talk to women or are intimidated by them? I ask this because the more aggressive you are about going after women the more you would probably find one that likes you. I mean what I am saying is what I basically had to do is look at ever women around my age that I come in contact with as a potential romantic interest! You can't sit back and say " you went on Zero dates" because you have to viciously pursue every possible avenue in order to get a woman. You can never rest, you must be all ways caculating, never relenting!!! You can only say you didn't get something when your on your death bed only then!!! My friend you must buck Up!!! Stop this Zero dates crap!!! Even Quasimodo could go after a woman!!!! This post would have sounded slightly less ridiculous if spookie was a guy, but not much less.
Author spookie Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 May I ask a question? and If I can, Do you even talk to women or are intimidated by them? I ask this because the more aggressive you are about going after women the more you would probably find one that likes you. I mean what I am saying is what I basically had to do is look at ever women around my age that I come in contact with as a potential romantic interest! You can't sit back and say " you went on Zero dates" because you have to viciously pursue every possible avenue in order to get a woman. You can never rest, you must be all ways caculating, never relenting!!! You can only say you didn't get something when your on your death bed only then!!! My friend you must buck Up!!! Stop this Zero dates crap!!! Even Quasimodo could go after a woman!!!! Yes but I'm not a man. Although last night I had a dream where I'd met a lesbian who totally knocked whom I would have done anything to be friends with. She was REALLLLLY cute, too. So maybe your advice does apply.
Author spookie Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 Do you ask anyone on a date...? No, I'm of the belief that if the man does not make the first move he likely does not have enough balls to be worth it. Plus I don't know anyone I'd want to ask.
Author spookie Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 Did you not relocate and get a new job? That can happen. I've lived in the boondocks for my 1st job and it was one of those places where one moves to when they have a family. Are you near single people now? or families? Yah... I lived in the boondocks. Now I'm in the city and somehow th move has made me depressed and I'm so far gone into my shell that I wouldn't be surprised if a year went by wherein I didn't even speak to anyone.
CARL45 Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 I really don't care because the guy is saying get Zero dates sounds silly. The only reason a man does not get dates is because he is either not trying or is Wolf man F--cking ugly I am talking major burn victim and I bet even those guys could get dates!!!!!( no insult to burn victims).
start-fresh Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 spookie, does this have anything to do with Jack or is it just an unrelated dry spell? I hear you though, if I wasn't dating someone around my birthday last year, I would have went my whole 22nd year single too. Now it was most of the year. We've got to change something because we're in the prime of our lives right now. Kind of depressing, really.
jerbear Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Yah... I lived in the boondocks. Now I'm in the city and somehow th move has made me depressed and I'm so far gone into my shell that I wouldn't be surprised if a year went by wherein I didn't even speak to anyone. Have you considered joining an social group? meetup, alumni association, etc... This will get you out of your shell and in the process network with your peers. One way to get out of your shell, ditch the coffee / tea maker so you leave the apartment.
Sibyl Vane Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 No, I'm of the belief that if the man does not make the first move he likely does not have enough balls to be worth it. Plus I don't know anyone I'd want to ask. Yeah good luck with that. Clearly it's working for you.
Author spookie Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 I go to coffee shops but I don't talk to anyone. There is not usually anyone I'd want to talk to. Maybe I don't go to the right coffeeshops. The issue isn't really that I'm looking for ways to get a social life. I know the ways. I live in a city now so if I wanted one, I'd get one. Maybe later I will. I don't really feel like it right now. I've never been someone who enjoyed socializing very much, anyway. But I want to be in a relationship: with someone who stimulates me, whom I could be myself around, who doesn't annoy or exhaust me. And it's been a few years since I've met someone like that who wasn't my boss. Lately, I've been missing my ex really badly.
Author spookie Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 For some reason I'm depressed as fcvk, but I really don't know why, so I don't know how to snap out of it.
BeSteady Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 For some reason I'm depressed as fcvk, but I really don't know why, so I don't know how to snap out of it. One word: Meds
Author spookie Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 One word: Meds I just don't believe in medication.
jerbear Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 For some reason I'm depressed as fcvk, but I really don't know why, so I don't know how to snap out of it. I feel that way right now but I know it is related to the seasons changing and other thigns. Have you changed your exercise routine? Those endorphins can make or break some feelings.
Land Shark Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 For some reason I'm depressed as fcvk, but I really don't know why, so I don't know how to snap out of it. I know the feeling. Hang in there, Spook. Try not to be too hard on yourself. It's not unusual for really great, attractive people to go long periods without dating. People worth being with don't come around often.
Isolde Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Well I find socializing takes the edge off for me but it may not work for everyone. I really have to force myself to do it sometimes, but I rarely regret it because while I'm not an effusive extrovert, I'm far from a loner, and even light friendship makes my life fuller. This hasn't given me dates but if anything will, this will. Does that make sense? I just don't expect great guy to start randomly talking to me out of nowhere, esp. since there aren't all that many single people in my city. I've been trying online with no luck, so I won't necessarily recommend it.
Author spookie Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 Am I being too picky? Can it really be that in a year I have only met one person I'd want to date?
westernxer Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 For some reason I'm depressed as fcvk, but I really don't know why, so I don't know how to snap out of it. Too much free time thinking about your situation can do that.
Author spookie Posted September 14, 2009 Author Posted September 14, 2009 I went on an 8 mile run today to try to fight the depression away. I realized: -that my sense of humor is always the first thing to go. When I start feeling like this, I lose my ability to laugh, my ability to take things as anything except too seriously. -that I tend to start to reliving my past. But the past is, at best, bittersweet. The memories of joy are inherently intermixed with sadness. -I start thinking in terms of "nothing is as important as...", where the blank is usually something extremely sad. Nothing will ever be as important as having lost ___. So I fixate on this. I can spend days crying. However... there are lessons I've already learned, that I just need to keep reminding myself of. Maybe it's not possible to forget someone, or to stop loving them; but it's possible to experience love again. I won't forget the people I have loved, if I let myslelf stop mourning them for a while. So, I'm going to do that. Hopefully I will feel better soon.
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