Cannondale Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Hey, I just started seeing a new girl about a week ago, we ended up hitting it off really well and saw each other everyday last week. I did think it was a bit much too soon, but this is the first girl I've really been into in a while and I kinda just went with it. She told me earlier in the week she was glad we had met and hoped that a relationship would work out....then all of a sudden last night she said she was afraid of letting me get too close to her because she doesn't want to get hurt again, in addition to that she was in a pretty horrible mood all night. Normally I would probably just jet on the situation, but I do really like her and she is my equal on every level....I can tell she is a decent girl, so I guess I just don't if it's worth the trouble. Any input?
Hkizzle Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Some women are horrible at playing the game of love. Get a guy that's playing hot and cold and the girl will start to seek validation and chase him. Get a guy that's treating them well and they get scared. I think some women have zero idea of how to differentiate between a nice guy and a jerk. If they knew then they won't need to fear the nice guys and chase the jerks. In your case, you need to back off now. Don't even contact her till she contacts you. It's a hard thing to do but you need to get her to want you.
Author Cannondale Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 ^Right man, that's what I was thinking. She has been the one that has initiated most stuff...I even met her parents and some of her friends already and we made some plans to go to events a few weeks out. She was also saying she hasn't been this happy in a long time etc etc.... I'll take your advice though, we'll see what happens.
Author Cannondale Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 She still staying in contact everyday by calling or texting. I just don't know what gives...just sucks being in limbo like this.
Hkizzle Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Self control man. If she ain't ready she ain't ready. Throwing yourself at her is just going to backfire. You either do it right or you find someone else.
lordWilhelm Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 You've only been going out for a week. It's best to take things slowly and get to know each other better. She sounds somewhat conflicted; on the one hand she doesn't want things to progress too quickly but on the other hand she's seeking validation by initiating contact all the time. So, if you think she's worth it you should talk to her about it. Otherwise you could just take off.
loveslife Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 I think there are probably exceptions but in my experience it's unwise to trust the feelings of someone who wants to rush into a relationship.
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