Radically_Altered Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 I'm not really sure where I am right now after things seemed to end so suddenly with him I'm trying to get myself back on the bandwagon by re-activating my zoosk account... But looking at the hundreds of male faces on that site with their cheesy smiles and statements claiming that they're "Good, down to earth guys" just makes me feel hollow inside. I can't help but think to myself, that at the end of the day, the whole relationship/dating thing is the definition of absurdity. For me it's a bittersweet reminder of how miraculous it is that people get together and manage to stay together for the long term. I know this is an odd post, but sometimes being in pain makes me feel philosophical.
Exit Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Yup... there is a degree of absurdity to it all.
Taucher Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Sounds like you havent moved on enough yet to start thinking about dating. I am in the same position. Relationships seem pointless to me too. But one day, I think that they wont seem pointless. And then I will be ready. Your next relationship, and my next relationship, will be better than the most recent one, I am sure. Because we need to learn from this experience. Hang in there. One day you will meet someone and then having a relationship will seem like the best, most natural thing in the world. It's a collective amnesia that humans have and I think it is what drives us. You have made me all philosophical now too! Take care. T
Author Radically_Altered Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 You're absolutely right Taucher. I haven't moved on. Its still very very early days and that door hasn't been completely closed yet. Still in the process of NC and not intending to break that anytime soon. The thought of being with anyone right now just seems pointless. I like how you describe it as a "collective amnesia". That's so apt. I guess if it weren't for that there wouldn't be a future for the human race would there LOL!!! I think sometimes it helps to be philosophical about these things, as it actually makes you look at things from a distance rather than being totally absorbed in the pain of it all. Thanks for your comment and you take care too. Peace
phoenix1 Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 @radically - that's not an odd post at all. I know exactly what you mean. I got on a dating website, thinking maybe going out with someone else would help me move on. I too just look at all those smiling faces, and silly descriptions and just think, ughhhhh. Some guys have sent me messages and I can't even reply...I just don't care. I feel really cynical about relationships and men. I really need to just take my profile down. I'm obviously not moved on enough yet either....
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