christys Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 I have been in a relationship for about 1 year. My MM told me he was in a sexless marriage. Him and his W have no children. He moved in with me, but right away I knew he was still seeing his W. He told me she would barely acknowledge him for years. I suspect that once she found out about me she changed her mind about him. He would not tell me the truth, but I am 99% sure he was seeing her. We only lived together for a short time. I asked him to leave and he did. We have had no contact for 2 weeks. Does anyone have any responses on what happens in this situation. I am afraid to get any further into our relationship until he is divorced and over his W. I wish now he had divorced before we became involved. I have known of women who treat their H's like this, and when the H finds a new woman and has decided to move on the W chnges her mind. IME this does'nt last long, maybe 2 weeks then the W is back to her same ways.
Thornton Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Imo you're better off without him... he's a cheater and he's lying to you as well as to his wife. If she's still pursuing him then I very much doubt if she "barely acknowledged" him... he was probably still banging her the whole time. If she wants him, then she's welcome to him... let him go, you deserve better.
RedDevil66 Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 what you were/are in the aphrodisiac in their marriage. My ex of 11 yrs left me for some woman, came back to me, then left again. They are unhappily married now and he's still cheating. Guess who's going to get the worst of it? you. Run while you have this wonderful chance
Quest Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Sounds like they are playing games with each other and you are caught in the cross-fire. But whatever is going on it doesn't sound like it's over between the two of them and you can only get hurt.
BeSteady Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 I have been in a relationship for about 1 year. My MM told me he was in a sexless marriage. Him and his W have no children. He moved in with me, but right away I knew he was still seeing his W. He told me she would barely acknowledge him for years. I suspect that once she found out about me she changed her mind about him. He would not tell me the truth, but I am 99% sure he was seeing her. We only lived together for a short time. I asked him to leave and he did. We have had no contact for 2 weeks. Does anyone have any responses on what happens in this situation. I am afraid to get any further into our relationship until he is divorced and over his W. I wish now he had divorced before we became involved. I have known of women who treat their H's like this, and when the H finds a new woman and has decided to move on the W chnges her mind. IME this does'nt last long, maybe 2 weeks then the W is back to her same ways. So what your saying the MM your with is not being faithful to you? I'm shocked too.
fooled once Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 He was probably lying to you the whole time Do not get any further involved until he is DIVORCED and has had time to heal after his divorce. If he hasn't contacted you in two weeks, I would assume he has ended the A with you. Or he is waiting for you to come begging to him.
GypsyRayne Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 When I was an OW, MM and I were coworkers, nothing more, he would talk about his W not being interested in sex. He told this to several people, not just me so I believe he was truthful about this. When he and I got together and she found out, he told her, she did change, she tried to do anything that would make him want to stay with her, instead of me. She did start wanting to have sex with him. Maybe she really didn't want to but it was an effort on her part to save her M. I don't know how long she kept this up, MM and I kept seeing eachother. I guess until she realized he was not going to stop, no matter what she did. So yes I think it is possible for the W to change, in that respect, for how long I don't know. But if he hasn't contacted you and if he doesn't, maybe she will have realized that this is important and keep it up.
bentnotbroken Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Or he was just lying and got busted and begged to go home....who knows. It's not like he has displayed honesty is it?
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