RedDevil66 Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 i tried to make an appointment with a therapist but they only had really early appointments, and i live 20 minutes from campus & my classes arent til reall late. he called me 3 x last night. i didnt pick up. i actually went to the library today and burst into tears just thinking about all of this. i cant believe hes moved on so fast. Sweetie, you need to get some therapy to work this through. People "move" on quick in order to ease their pain. Please try to get another appointment or read info on being codependent
Author EmptyPromises Posted September 22, 2009 Author Posted September 22, 2009 i did see a therapist today. he told me block his number and avoid him at all costs. i walked out of there feeling great - like i was actually going to move on! i blocked his number & told my guy friends about the situation & to tell me if they knew hed be in the same place as him so that i could avoid him. i get home. theres a facebook message from the girl bri ( the one he kissed this past weekend) i had no idea of his situation or your situation. all i knew was that he was single. i heard he had hooked up with a girl a few days before me at a previous party i was at so i had no idea about ur situation. now having heard about the **** hes done to you, i agree with you and i have been in ur situation. i feel bad about this but please don't target me because i took a pic with him and kissed him, while other girls simply went in a room with him and ****ed him. because apparently he is a pretty slutty guy and has been getting around alot recently, from what i have heard. i hooked up with him once. i was drunk. and new nothing of ur situation. i have no intentions of hooking up with him again, not because of you but because of the stories ive heard this week alone. i legit am srry for ur situation, but know that i dont deserve to be targeted for doing nothingggg compared to the actions of some of the girls ive heard about. i would appreciate it if u would stop talking about me, because we dont even know each other. i then asked her to call me. and she did. she explained everything & told me how she heard he had sex iwth a girl a couple of days before her . and then another girl the week before that. like WTF. we JUST BROKE UP. hes hooked up with not one but THREE other girls already? is that a joke? i am so upset i am soo disgusted URGH
Author EmptyPromises Posted September 22, 2009 Author Posted September 22, 2009 i aslo unblocked his number at this point text messaged him saying something along the lines of : i know you hooked up with girls. your disgusting. he goes : haha your retarded dont text me idk what to do!! do i leave his number blocked or leave it unblocked.
PinkToes Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Sweetie, please BLOCK his number, and do not give in to the temptation to check in with him. He is extremely toxic to you, and his words are poison. There is absolutely nothing positive that will come of talking to him, reading his texts, checking FB, communicating with other girls about him, etc. etc. Nothing. When's the last time you felt good about having any contact with him? I'll bet it's been awhile. And the idea that you should be strong enough to read his messages and ignore them is nonsense! People who are trying to quit drinking don't go into bars to sniff the beer; why would you make an already difficult situation even harder on yourself? He is poison. Toxic. Destructive. Cruel. Abusive. He has NOTHING to offer you, and every time you read his nasty words, you will continue to feel weaker and weaker. You have an inner strength; we all do. Please use that strength to do everything you can to block him from your life. Everything. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. It's probably really hard right now to keep the obsessive thoughts out of your head. I know it's hurtful and confusing. But that's why it's even more important to block him out; it is a concrete thing you can do, a real action you can take, no matter what your head is telling you. Take it one day at a time. Promise yourself that you'll do this for one day. Then tomorrow, make yourself the same promise again. The longer you do this, the easier it will become. You can tackle the rest later, when you're feeling stronger. For now, just cut off all contact, and keep that promise to yourself, one day at a time. You can do this; I know you can. You will be OK.
Author EmptyPromises Posted September 22, 2009 Author Posted September 22, 2009 aw you are so nice your message just made me cry! my therapist said the same thing. hes an addiction. i need to go cold turkey. its just that im thinking " what if he calls" "what if he texts"..as stupid as it sounds i want him to text and call me! i want him to be wanting me back to be saying hes sorry! the phone is mocking me right now that hes not calling. with the number blocked i wont know whether hes calling or not so it wont upset me. and i wont do stupid things like text him when im angry. my therapist said blocking someones number is a bigger slap in the face then just ignoring someone. i guess if someone were to block me id get the picture and realize okay he really does want me out of his life
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