GypsyRayne Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 I posted about my husband posting an ad on a gay personal site. Since I found out I have been looking for something. What? I don't know. I go in my bedroom and I feel dirty, like there is something there that I need to find. It is terrible. I look every where and can't find anything, but I just have a feeling something is there. Like if he was hiding this thing from me, what else is there? I want to know for sure if he has physically cheated on me. I need to see it. I know that several of you basically said my husband is gay or bi, but I want to know for sure. Hardheaded I guess. This feeling of missing something won't go away. Did anyone else feel like this when they discovered their spouse had betrayed them?
Chrome Barracuda Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 You want proof. for your peace of mind. it's understandable. I seen your other post and he was willing to do something horrendous to your marriage. I still believe that the opportunity hasnt showed itself but you still need to keep your eye open. it sucks but how can you trust him, if he's willing to lie about something this big!?
redtail Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Did anyone else feel like this when they discovered their spouse had betrayed them? Yes, of course. When there is any element of doubt, you question yourself into thinking that maybe it's all in your head. Proof, the "smoking gun" can provide much more resolve in your decisions and eliminate doubt. But I've read your other posts, you have a fair amount to go on now that indicate that your marriage is in trouble at best. There needs to be changes in the form of counseling and positive participation by your husband in order for things to move toward saving your marriage. And you need to have a heart to heart with yourself. What are you prepared to do to make your life and your future better? There will be tough decisions to make, stay strong.
RedDevil66 Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 I'm in the same boat right now. It's called being in the "crazies" I snooped on my BF and found stuff, but not real proof of cheating. I'm suppose to go to his house later on and I know I'm going to want to snoop through everything. We start couples therapy next week, so I hope to work some of these obsessive actions/thoughts I feel right now. By the way, I snooped on my ex and caught him on bi-sites. There were pictures of him in dog chains and his profile said he wanted anal sex. I confronted him, he told me I was nuts. I had a feeling he was molested as a child because he sister was raped for months by their butler. He denied it. That ended and 4 1/2 yrs later, he's still a sick SOB. All I can say is, hire a PI, snoop, do what you have to do to save your own life
Mr. Lucky Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Did anyone else feel like this when they discovered their spouse had betrayed them? There are some easy fixes with keyloggers and GPS trackers that will answer your questions once and for all. Do a search here and you'll get many ideas and pointers. Unfortunately for them, with technology they can run but they can't hide ... Mr. Lucky
RedDevil66 Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 There are some easy fixes with keyloggers and GPS trackers that will answer your questions once and for all. Do a search here and you'll get many ideas and pointers. Unfortunately for them, with technology they can run but they can't hide ... Mr. Lucky Yep, that is how I found all the info I got. Took 30 secs to download
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