loveslife Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 She's had it for about a year and 4 months. Her first doctor tried to tell her that she didn't need to get tested after the deer tick bit her because Lyme Disease doesn't happen in SE Wisconsin So she was infected without treatment for a good four months. She got the bite at work, which means now workers comp is covering her, and they are trying to force her back to work. But her doctor doesn't want her back yet. It's been a horrible ordeal for her. It's very often misdiagnosed. A friend of mine is a big advocate for Lyme patients. According to her, there are many people walking around with inaccurate disgnoses. At least she got treated relatively quickly. I know people who had symptoms for a year or two before being diagnosed.
loveslife Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Thanks! Would it be wrong to message him and ask him if he has certain stuff? Like basics? Or should I just bring all new stuff? It's probably fine either way but it would be cute and romantic if you brought everything. But you don't have to lug an entire bottle of oil, for instance. Put some in a smaller container. Have fun with it.
Author dreamergrl Posted September 15, 2009 Author Posted September 15, 2009 It's very often misdiagnosed. A friend of mine is a big advocate for Lyme patients. According to her, there are many people walking around with inaccurate disgnoses. At least she got treated relatively quickly. I know people who had symptoms for a year or two before being diagnosed. Well my mom asked for the test 3 times before he'd give it to her. She wanted it regardless. It's pretty well known that deer ticks carry Lyme Disease down there. He should never have tried to tell her she couldn't get lyme disease.
carhill Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Thanks! Would it be wrong to message him and ask him if he has certain stuff? Like basics? Or should I just bring all new stuff? If you've offered to cook, IMO, it's best to bring what you need. You can make the dressing up at home. BTW, my stbx lived and died by her balsamic vinaigrette. Great choice. She'd toss in a few dried cranberries for interest. The best thing to remember is to keep things simple and comfortable. As I said prior, do what is best for you and comes easiest. You can experiment and impress later. At our home, the sharing of food and our *eewww LOL* cheap wine was a way of showing simple and open love for our guests. An offering of us. It is the same with my friends, with whom I often have dinner. In my circle, we rarely eat out, preferring to share our homes. After all, you can't get beer-butt chicken at Outback The food and wine sets the stage. You and your beau are the main course
Author dreamergrl Posted September 15, 2009 Author Posted September 15, 2009 1-800-dominos :lmao::lmao: It's probably fine either way but it would be cute and romantic if you brought everything. But you don't have to lug an entire bottle of oil, for instance. Put some in a smaller container. Have fun with it. Yeah, I might do that. I do want it to be extra nice, ya know, he was so nice to me all weekend. He did so much driving, and treated for everything.
loveslife Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Yeah, I might do that. I do want it to be extra nice, ya know, he was so nice to me all weekend. He did so much driving, and treated for everything. I am certain that the pleasure of your company will be reward enough for him.
loveslife Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Oil can be used for other things. You might need lube for later. I suggest bringing an entire bottle. Can never have too much. Oh shut up! She's being a good girl.
Author dreamergrl Posted September 15, 2009 Author Posted September 15, 2009 I am certain that the pleasure of your company will be reward enough for him. Awwww thanks! I'm very excited about this dinner date!
loveslife Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Awwww thanks! I'm very excited about this dinner date! I love cooking at home dinner dates. They're the best! Enjoy.
loveslife Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 BTW, my stbx lived and died by her balsamic vinaigrette. Great choice. She'd toss in a few dried cranberries for interest. In my circle, we rarely eat out, preferring to share our homes. After all, you can't get beer-butt chicken at Outback This reminded me. Capers are a nice touch to salads, too. Just go easy because they're salty. Carhill, in my book eating at home beats a restaurant any day. I really don't get the appeal of eating out.
aerogurl87 Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Congrats on two great dates Dreamer, but I gotta agree with everyone else, I'd be leary of any man who gave me a spare key after meeting me in person for 2 days. But if he tries to make you keep the key afterward (ex. you try and give it back and he says "no you keep it"), then throw the key at him and run very very far away.
carhill Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I usually used capers in fish sauce. Our guests really didn't like the tartness/saltiness. OP, here's a sample of what our guests typically had to choose from. That day it was Japanese. Note the simplicity; nothing fancy. Also, most items could be made in advance, save for the sushi. Now that you've got my appetite going with the decadent chicken and pasta marinara, I think I will make a special request of my hosts whom I'm visiting in CT this weekend. He's full-blooded Italian and cooks his mama's recipes. I'm going to need a confessional
loveslife Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I usually used capers in fish sauce. Our guests really didn't like the tartness/saltiness. OP, here's a sample of what our guests typically had to choose from. That day it was Japanese. Note the simplicity; nothing fancy. Also, most items could be made in advance, save for the sushi. OMG, capers in fish sauce and homemade sushi...... two of my favorite things.
carhill Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 LOL, salivating sufficiently to miss the wheelbarrow handles through the patio door OP, another thing that picture brings up is presentation. Let it reflect who you are accurately. IOW, don't put on the dog unless that dog is who you love putting on. My stbx loved presenting a meal and dressing a table and I loved executing. We were rare in our circle of friends in that regard. No matter, it was/is who we are. Be who you are. All these little things flow like streams to the river. What are capers? They're the pickled berries of the caper bush. I call them green salmon eggs. They're a bit salty, like caviar is, but of course a budd/fruit depending on how you look at them. Use in moderation.
Author dreamergrl Posted September 15, 2009 Author Posted September 15, 2009 So he emailed me and told me he accepted her as a friend because he figured it was someone I knew, because she was located in Wisconsin. I told him not to feel the need to keep her as a friend if it's weird. Well carhill, being me and doing things how I'd want to do it would be having candles and making it way romantic and sweet. However, I think that would be a bit over the top at this point. But seriously, part of who I am is being a girl that loves to put a smile on her SO's face. Not that he's my SO yet, but you get the picture. So doing something that pleases him is a reflection of who I am. It's still food that I enjoy, and the wine as well.
Star Gazer Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Dreamer, you're starting to worry me. You've known him 72 hours, and you're bending over backwards to impress this guy because he was gentlemanly to you over the weekend. Ease up, make it easy and comfortable for you - and make sure he knows it. Thing is, making a nice dinner for him so soon, combined with the key thing - as though you're there to have dinner ready for him by the time he gets home - sets you up to be in a subservient role.
Author dreamergrl Posted September 15, 2009 Author Posted September 15, 2009 Dreamer, you're starting to worry me. You've known him 72 hours, and you're bending over backwards to impress this guy because he was gentlemanly to you over the weekend. Ease up, make it easy and comfortable for you - and make sure he knows it. Thing is, making a nice dinner for him so soon, combined with the key thing - as though you're there to have dinner ready for him by the time he gets home - sets you up to be in a subservient role. I'm not bending over backwards. But yes, I do want to make a good impression. There's nothing wrong with that. Going there early is actually easier and less expensive for me, because I use the metro to get around. It gets me there quicker because if I wait, then arrival times space further out. I don't have to transfer as much. It lessens the travel time for me. I'd prefer to be able to have things just about ready. I'm not doing anything I don't want to do. And I enjoy doing stuff like this for people who treat me well.
Star Gazer Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Wow, a whole paragraph of justification. I guess we can only encourage you to slow down do much, you'll do what you want to do regardless. Just keep in mind, Dreamer: You do NOT know this guy. You don't. He doesn't "treat you well," he may in the future, but for now he's been on his best behavior over the past 72 hours. Don't trick yourself into thinking you're in an insta-relationship. GO SLOW.
Author dreamergrl Posted September 15, 2009 Author Posted September 15, 2009 Wow, a whole paragraph of justification. I guess we can only encourage you to slow down do much, you'll do what you want to do regardless. Just keep in mind, Dreamer: You do NOT know this guy. You don't. He doesn't "treat you well," he may in the future, but for now he's been on his best behavior over the past 72 hours. Don't trick yourself into thinking you're in an insta-relationship. GO SLOW. I'm very aware that it's not an R yet, but I see nothing wrong in putting forth some effort when he put forth quite a bit effort over the weekend.
carhill Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 OP, enjoy the *dinner* and feel good about giving of yourself. It's one night, not a lifetime. Lifetimes are made of thousands of one nights. Each one is different. Each one is valuable. IMO, that's the key. Remain in and relish the here and now and actively avoid projecting forward. I missed the part about dessert. Is he making dessert? Tiramisu was one of my stbx's favorites with her Italian dinners. A nice espresso and the decadent T. Creme Brulee was a close second. That one is really easy to make and it gives the man something manly to do; carmelizing the sugar with a flame.
Leia Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 I'm very aware that it's not an R yet, but I see nothing wrong in putting forth some effort when he put forth quite a bit effort over the weekend. There's nothing wrong in putting forth some effort in this but it does look like you're bending over backwards for this simple meal. Take it slow, DG.
Author dreamergrl Posted September 15, 2009 Author Posted September 15, 2009 DG, Do you actually KNOW how to cook? Yes I do OP, enjoy the *dinner* and feel good about giving of yourself. It's one night, not a lifetime. Lifetimes are made of thousands of one nights. Each one is different. Each one is valuable. IMO, that's the key. Remain in and relish the here and now and actively avoid projecting forward. I missed the part about dessert. Is he making dessert? Tiramisu was one of my stbx's favorites with her Italian dinners. A nice espresso and the decadent T. Creme Brulee was a close second. That one is really easy to make and it gives the man something manly to do; carmelizing the sugar with a flame. Very true Carhill. He's actually not big on sweets, and I normally never have room in my belly for dessert
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