sweet_niblets Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Hi guys, First post here, but I figured I’ll start off with a bang. It’ll be a bit long. I recently started a job 8 weeks ago and have somewhat developed an interest in this girl at work. The first day or two, I didn’t notice her and it was not until the third day that I took notice of her. Anyway since then, my crush on this girl has been growing, slightly I should say. On the first two weeks, she tried to initiate conversation but since I was still new, I was a bit shy so the convo’s didn’t go far. Second week, she startled me when she asked me why I was so timid on the day. I didn’t think much of it at the time, but I suppose it was something she noticed. Anyway, come third week we didn’t say hi or bye to each other, as I think she assumed I couldn’t be bothered getting to know her and gave up trying to know me (wasn’t true, I was just shy towards her). So on the fourth week, I decided to take it back to her and initiate the conversations (just general how was your day stuff). After a day or two, we always said hi and bye to each other from since on then, even if we don’t talk on the day, there’s always at least a hi or bye. The thing that gets me irked up at the moment is I can’t see what’s happening at the moment. On one particular lunch break, we spoke at length (5mins) in the presence of another co-worker (male) and she seemed interested in speaking to me than the other co-worker (whom she knows well, I’m not reading too much into this as since I was new I’m assuming she was still trying to know me). However as the day went on, when we went back to work, she gave me a gentle/playful nudge when I least expected it (I made her laugh beforehand). As her shift ended, she made an effort to say bye to me which I found very surprising as we were so far from each other, yelling across the room would’ve been silly. She appeared to be very happy when she said bye to me on the day as well, which was very odd. As the weeks go by, we’re starting to speak a bit more but restricted to short convo’s due to setup of our work environment. She’s has teased me and I tease back, whether be it through conversations or nudges. So for example I told her, her face was red (during a conversation) and she teased me back saying my face was red as well. She has a tendency to look into my eyes (to be honest, she looks at everyone in the eye when she talks, but I decided to see what would happen if I held my eye on her) and at the end of the convo, she locked onto my eyes and we held for 2 seconds then she looked away and tried to get the attention of another girl nearby (she looked happy/embarrassed after holding for those 2 seconds). Just this week gone by, I decided to myself since she has a boyfriend (I’ve heard they’ve been going out for at least 2 years) that I wanted to cut her out as I don’t want anything to do with her as I know nothing will happen as long as she’s out with him. I decided to ignore her at work. She was standing next to me and I didn’t look up or say hi to her, didn’t give her eye contact at all during the entire shift though I can tell she was looking at me from time to time. Even when I was working directly opposite of her (arms length), I still didn’t’ look up and say hi to her (I know she looked at me but I never gave her attention). End of the shift, it became apparent she noticed as when she left, she didn’t say bye to me at all but said bye to another girl standing right next to me. Did I mention she looked annoyed? I thought what I did was wrong (ignoring someone is never nice) so I decided to say hi to her again the next day and I suppose she seemed happy again. End of the day, I said bye to her very playfully and seemed very very happy for odd reason. What happened was basically as she walked past, I said bye Laura and she said bye Richard (however I said bye Laura very playfully, then just as I was about to turn back to go back to work she stopped turned around and looked at me and said Richard. I turned around looked at her and said Laura. Looked eyes briefly then she walked off again, then she turned around again as if checking to see if I was still looking at her, smiled at me then finally left. There are probably other smaller minor things that I’ve noticed but I can’t type anymore, but ever since I tried to ignore her that day and her noticing it and reacting in kind makes me think she’s noticing me more than usual (comparatively to the other guys). She even dresses a whole lot better than the other girls at work (I think she just likes dressing up to be honest). I’ve pretty much written and essay but this girl has been on my mind a lot and I want to get her out of my mind (simply because she has a bf and I’m not that type of guy). Her boyfriend studies medicine at Washington State (first year medicine) and she told me he flies back to see her every weekend (New York). After hearing that and the fact that he’s a good cook, I pretty much have concluded he’s quite the perfect guy already and I have no chance. My overall question, however, is really what exactly is she doing? She teases me, appears to get upset when I don’t give her attention and just a general odd bag of tricks, really. To me, she just seems to be an attention uh.. girl, since her boyfriend isn’t there often enough, she needs another guy to play with (why not the other guys at work or someone else for that matter?!). But I do have a thing for this girl and trying hard to rid of her, but as long as she continues on with these attention tricks, its very difficult. I really wonder if she’s interested in me on some degree, but won’t go anymore or just really being playful. I think of her like crazy when at home, at work, I just don't care for some odd reason. Thanks for the long read!
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