Broseph Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Want to break no contact right now and tell her how much i miss her so much. I don't want to be weak, its just so hard cause i really do miss her. I want to know whats in her head. Its Saturday today and have lots of time on my hands. Going to take shower someone please talk me out of this!!!
NopeNah Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Don't do it! It's not going to work in your favor, only against it. She HAS to be the one to make contact from here forward. It's also up to you to not accept any "crumbs" of false hope from her. No words you can say will bring her back to you. If anything go for a drive and listen to some "hate" music! Always does the trick for me.
Unistudent Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Agreed! Be strong. Don't drink alcohol and drunk dial her. Don't do anything like that. I dont want to be a hypocrite... im not in NC yet so I don't really know how it feels (but im stuck in a house with her until next weekend)... and I very well may be posting the same message in a week or two.... but be strong brother! As Praying said... She HAS to be the one to make contact from here forward.... if there is any hope for the future that would be some contact from her (genuine contact). Don't hope on that though... just live your life... hang out with family/friends... play some games... go for a run... work out... etc... keep your mind busy. Again.. Stay strong!
phoenix1 Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Don't do it! I am now in day 18 of NC, and yeah, it sucks. I want to just hear his voice, tell him this and that....but the truth is every time I have broken NC, I have ended up feeling worse one way or another. If she's coming back you have to just let her on her own time. If she's not, well....that's the long sh*tty road of heartbreak we are all on right now.
logitech Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Well I guess since I saw my ex today that puts be back at square 1 for NC. It's ridiculous how hard it is but it's best we do it...
adamt Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Don't do it. I know how you feel. We have all been there or going through the same thing. Nothing good will come out of it. You will get depressed with the lack of reply or the replies you get back. You will hurt even more. Let her wonder how you are coping. Keep your self respect
Author Broseph Posted September 12, 2009 Author Posted September 12, 2009 Thanks for the support everyone, made it through the day so far and prob right about now its been a week NC. The last few days have been especially hard for me, I wish they didn't have to be. Anyways adamt - thanks man, yeah not sure she would no reply but any reply that wasn't...I am so foolish for leaving you would make me sad again logitech - hope your hockey final went well, you saw your ex but doesn't mean you failed or anything. Like many people have said sometimes you cant avoid NC. Phoenix - thanks for the advice and yeah your right, if shes not committed the way i want us then I dont need her here Praying4 daylight - great name and I take some strength from your wisdom, I admire the way you have handled yourself
phoenix1 Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Needed to get on here and read some of my own advice from yesterday. Just woke up, had a dream that he was in, always a cruel joke. Have really been in the denial/bargaining stage, thinking (because we have broken up before) that I just need to wait this out, be patient, etc. AND then I will have my love back. But I then had this cold, sinking feeling of reality that made me realize that it is OVER. That he is not to be part of my life anymore. It felt like a knife to my heart. I cannot imagine my life without him. So, I was very tempted to break NC. To send him an email and tell him all my feelings, how much I regret, how much I love him, etc etc. But I didn't. I wrote an email, poured my feelings out, and it's in my drafts. Where it will stay. That is not the answer. Possibly some day we will talk, and process some of these feelings - or maybe we never will. But the answer is not to share all these raw, vulnerable feelings right now. He knows how I feel, he knows I love him...as people have said, then if he wants to be with me, he knows where to find me. Sorry to hijack this thread a little, but trying to share what I'm doing to stay on track and get through those difficult moments. Because right now I am devastated....
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