ryepatch Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 just wondering if anybody else is thinking about this today. . . a lot of us have been with our partners more than eight years, so i figure we have stories about how we got through that time together. can't help thinking more than usual about my wife today. . . we were married nine days earlier, a beautiful full moon in a meadow in the woods, tiki torches, potluck, jugs of wine. four mixtapes of "our songs" that we made together playing on a boombox, six hours of music. we were staying with friends in philadelphia, looking for an apartment. . . our family and friends live in and around new york, and we didn't lose anybody but we knew some people who made it out of the building. all the cell phones were out, and my wife couldn't get in touch with her mother til the next day. we ended up moving to a small town in new england (long story). my wife and i are pacifists, and really feared for our country and were shocked to unwitness a war (and all the political changes) unfolding around us. . . all this as we were adjusting to being "husband" and "wife," and searching for jobs in a small, conservative town where we felt out of place. (we weren't able to afford a place in the liberal college towns on the other side of the mountains). (i'm not trying to start a political conversation here. . . that time was tough on everybody, no matter their beliefs, but very difficult for those of us on the left.) we got through that time together, and our marriage was defined by it. our 8th anniversary was last week, and now is the 8th anniversary of 9/11. . . it'll make me think of her as long as i live. the world was falling apart and we held on to each other so tightly. . . sorry if this depresses anyone, or brings up difficult memories. i just needed to share somewhere instead of contacting her. . . i feel overwhelmed with memories, i don't know how to think of my life without thinking of her. i don't know who i am. . . we became who we are together, through so many difficult times for us and the world, i always thought our love would see us through anything. tonight she's off partying, i know, it's her roommate's birthday. she left me for FUN? that's what it seems like.
quankanne Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 without meaning to lessen or disrespect that tragedy, 9/11 doesn't seem to have the same kind of impact on me that it does others ... because my grandmother died on the first anniversary of those attacks, *my* thoughts go to her and the blessing of a (finally) good relationship with her in her final years. sorry ...
LisaUk Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Hi Rye Yes, memories from this side of the pond to. My ex and I saw the second attack happen live on BBC TV as I was unwell at the time and had a hopspital appointment that day. I had a friend who was travelling to Washington that day, but thank God her conference was cancelled, I couldn't get hold of her on the phone for two days, was so scared. Yes it brought back memories of him today. I am there with you. My prayers for all those who lost a loved one that day.
Author ryepatch Posted September 12, 2009 Author Posted September 12, 2009 without meaning to lessen or disrespect that tragedy, 9/11 doesn't seem to have the same kind of impact on me that it does others ... because my grandmother died on the first anniversary of those attacks, *my* thoughts go to her and the blessing of a (finally) good relationship with her in her final years. sorry ... sorry to hear that. . . i'm glad you were able to have a good relationship with her towards the end. everyone will have a different association, of course. and most of us on here have lost our partner recently, so i figured it's a probably difficult day for some of us, not having our partner around to share those memories.
skinman Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 I remember this day well... It was 2 days later on the 13th that I had a massive heart attack while at work.. I spent a week in the hospital recovering and all that was on tv was coverage of 9-11... The real sad part was... my stbxw of 9 years at the time spent 15 minutes with me in the operating room..... That was it for the entire week... I should have seen the handwriting on the wall at that moment. I didnt though, we dragged it out for another 7 years.. The funny part of it all. my late ex wife (1st) came to visit me 4 times during the week........ This will always be a sad day in my life...... God bless those that were lost and the one's left behind...
tojaz Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 I saw the begining at work that day. Me and the exwife (not wife at the time) had met up at home for lunch. We just held each other and watched it all unfold. TOJAZ
silverfish Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 I remember being at home on my own with my boys - they were 1 & 4 yrs old at the time. I wanted to watch but I had to turn off because it was too much for them to understand. My neighbour came round to ask me why I thought it had happened - it struck me very strange to be asked that! My oldest son & I watched 'United 93' together a few days ago, and it's the 1st time we have really talked about it together. The way he spoke about it, and understood, and expressed his opinions, made me very proud of him.
soheartbroken Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 I was in high school at the time, and not with my now ex. But September 11th does happen me and the ex's anniversary (not 2001 however).
MrMayI Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 i was bartending at a country club. was single, and started drinking with one of the old men that didn't really play golf, but told his wife he did. we drank maker's mark and water and watched it all. i was born in brooklyn. my aunt was just outside of tower 1. it was so surreal. i went to a party that night and got laid. it was a unique day.
sumdude Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 I think you'll always remember where you were when it happened. I grew up half a mile from the Pentagon and had friends in the building who thankfully survived. We we're living about two miles from the Pentagon. Me and the ex wife had just come back from vacation, I had decided to take that day off too just because. When she saw it on the TV at first she thought it was a TV show or movie then realized it was really happening and got me out of bed.
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