goatboytone Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 Hey guys, you may or may not remember I was on here a month or two back freaking out because my girlfriend said she wanted some space from me. We were spending every day together at the time, at the start of our relationship she was completely into me, telling me she wanted to marry me and have kids with me, that I was the best guy she'd ever known basically. She'd just come out of an eight year relationship with a guy who didn't treat her very well. As I said though after a while she started to get more distant and said she wanted some breathing space, which although it hurt me, made sense at the same time, I kinda felt the same way. We went from spending every day together to seeing each other once every couple of days, this went on for a few weeks then there was a family holiday coming up for her so we ended up spending 10 days in a row together and things were feeling very forced on both our parts, I would feel her being emotionally distant and would tend to cling to her. We've been together about a year at this point. So she's just come back from 2 weeks in Cuba, the first week she rang me every other day telling me she was missing me way more than she thought and that being away made her realise how much she loved me, wanted to marry etc. But the last week I didn't hear a single thing from her and couldn't ring her. She's just got back to England and I rang her and she basically told me that she wants to end it with me, that she wasn't really ready to get with me so soon after an eight year relationship and that even though she thinks I am an amazing guy and still loves me she wants to be alone for a while. I don't understand how she can go from one extreme to another in just a week! I am totally deflated as I've been planning all these fun things for us to do together and have a room full of romantic presents for her. I love her so badly and even though we have difficulty when we spend every day together I just know that we can be so right for each other. She wants to meet tomorrow night to speak to me in person, it will be the first time I've seen her in 2 weeks and I just want to know how to approach the situation. Right now all I want to do is call her and tell her rationally that we can make it together. Please somebody give me some advice on what to say to her tomorrow when I see her. I really want this woman in my life always. Thank you.
Author goatboytone Posted September 12, 2009 Author Posted September 12, 2009 Please help guys. I love this woman more than anything in the world. Half of me is just excited to see her as its been 2 weeks and half of me is destroyed at the thought that she doesn't want me anymore. I can't stop crying,b ut I need to straighten out if I'm going to speak to her tonight.
NopeNah Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 I'd suggest postponing the meetup until you're in a better mindset to handle it. As far as the meetup.. Dress to the nines, do not bring up the relationship, keep it lite, almost as you're fine with or without her. You've got better things to do if the meeting doesn't seem to be going the way you want. There's no shame in folding your napkin up/place it on the table gently and walk the hell out!
Broseph Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Seems like she is everywhere, i mean this is classic mixed signals. What is there to talk about... I agree maybe postpone to gather yourself but if you are gonna go don't cry anymore and build your confidence if your going to go. Listen to upbeat songs, drink a beer to loosen up. Be yourself and don't try to force things, don't be emotional, don't be sad, don't beg, don't use all your cards up. Dont put too much pressure, one day wont make or break any couple. Anyways for god sakes man if your gonna do this get it together
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