whatwhit Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I am not trying to cause drama, however I've read a lot of posts, and majority of the time I hear the replied I hear your so young, your tooo young. Do ya'll people think just because someone is 20,21,22 they are too young to know what true love it...or they are incompatible to find they're soul mate...cause I think that you can. They're true emotions at these ages...the same for someone whose 30 or so and care about someone deeply.
Thaddeus Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I am not trying to cause drama, however I've read a lot of posts, and majority of the time I hear the replied I hear your so young, your tooo young. Do ya'll people think just because someone is 20,21,22 they are too young to know what true love it...or they are incompatible to find they're soul mate...cause I think that you can. They're true emotions at these ages...the same for someone whose 30 or so and care about someone deeply.Sure, they're true emotions, nobody's arguing that. But without the fertile ground of experience, those emotional flowers are planted in very thin soil. Your post actually shows it: You make note of a "soul mate." No such thing. That belongs in the land of fairytales and make-believe. 1
sweetjasmine Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I agree with Thaddeus here. The human brain doesn't finish fully developing until around age 22, and people don't usually finish figuring out who they are until their late 20s.
Angel1111 Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 It's not about whether someone young knows what true love is, it's about that stage of your life and how prepared you are to spend the remaining rest of your life with that person. Most people at that age don't have a handle on who they are, much less about who they want in their lives long-term. I mean, think about it. If you meet the love of your life at 18 or 20, and you live until your 85, that's a LOT of years to spend with the same person. Unless you can both grow together, the relationship will never last. But more importantly than that, the biggest problem is that young people, by nature, need to experience life in all forms - travelling, education, developing skills, meeting people, and learning about other cultures. This is how you cement your personality and form solid values and beliefs. And until you do that, you can't know who you are. And most people do not do this once they get serious about someone. If you put yourself in that 'marriage' cage too soon, by the time you're 30 or so, you'll start to wonder what you've missed, what you did and why you did it. This is particularly true for men, but women feel it, too. It's not to say that relationships that start when you're young can't last, it's just to say that the odds are very much against you - based on sheer numbers and statistics. It's the 'wrong place at the wrong time' scenario.
aerogurl87 Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 Your post actually shows it: You make note of a "soul mate." No such thing. That belongs in the land of fairytales and make-believe. I'd have to argue you on that one. I think soul mates may exist, but that doesn't mean they always manifest themselves in a romantic partner. I have a best friend who is also my ex boyfriend who I'd regard as being my soul mate. We get each other on an extremely deep level that no one else can match for either us, but romantically it's just not in the cards for us.
looking4 green grass Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I'm fairly certain my "soul mate" is my female best friend. It's not really a role I think any man can fill simply b/c they are a man and will never get me like she does. I do think that true love is true love at 21 or 30, but the ability to comprehend marriage and commitment like that isn't always there. I'm at the age where the first round of divorces is rampant and I have had very few friends stay with the men they married at 21/22, most either the week before our senior year of college or the weekend after (phew, what a wild wedding year that was!). Of those still together, I know 2 that are happy, and the rest stick it out for who knows what reason.They are miserable though. Who they were at 19 when they met these "soul mates" is not who they are now at 30, and what they want now is not what they wanted then.
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