jenniferlove Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 Hi...basically you should learn from this experience i just went through,i was going out with this guy who i was head over heels about, when i met him he had a girlfriend who he was near ending it with,he was with her for 2 years and love her! he met me and ended it and 2 weeks later started going out with me. He odviously wanted something new and exciting,because thats what me and him had...we got on sooo well...we were best friends and talked for hours and spent nearly everyday with eachother. and suddenly 8 months down the line,it started to become stressful..because we would argue over his ex and always seeing eachother. It Ended. i was unbelievably Heartbroken. and i never realized i loved him until i realized it was over. so i had never said i love you. He wanted to stay friends with me..and because thats all i could get,it was better than not having him in my life. (atleast thats what i thought) I found out he was seeing a girl 2 weeks after we ended...and ive never felt so replaced and ugly in my life. my friend actually knew her...and it hurt because she was everything he said he would never want...she was ditzy,slow,easy......she looked the total oppersite to me, and was 3 years younger(and yes it doesnt always make a difference,but in this case she looked young and acted it). Unfortuneatly this is the stupid part,one day he wanted to meet me..so i did,he came round mine and we went out after. I was so confused but he ended up cheating on her. and yes thats bad! but ever since then he would always come and take me out and spend all this time with me...so he carried on cheating. Until 2 months ago now...he had been cheating with me. Hes been with her a year and a bit and had been cheating on her for a year. And stupid me thought id get him back,but that never happened..and like i said..a year passed and he was still with her. so two months ago now i told him i cant talk to him anymore....because i want more. and i dont want to lie anymore! or be the other girl,because girls as much as it makes u feel better and loved...it gets u nowhere and u start to feel disgusting. so its been two months and he's tried getting through to me and told me he doesnt know what he's doing anymore. i havnt answered. this whole cheating thing and being the other girl is a BIG mistake....especially when it comes to getting over them...because its been a year and a bit and as much as i look moved on..and am seein someone else... im broken inside and still love him...and i dont know when its going to end. he tells me he wants a future with me...but how can i look at him the same!...now that i know he cheats,steps all over me and his whole lifes a lie! sooooo dont ever listen to it takes half the time to get over them...because it matters how much u loved that person. =(
jlr Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I'm sorry for your heartache. It sounds like a very confusing and painful situation. But breaking it off was the right thing to do. This person was using you. He was also using the other girl. And you wouldn't want him to get back with you, because then he'll just find another girl to cheat with. It seems like a cycle with him. You did the right thing. While it's not going to be easy, just know that you did the right thing. You're better off without that douchebag.
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