blackhair Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I have being on here before and have tried to take all the advice that was being thrown around. Well, I'll get into what I'm trying to find out. I met my Ex last wkd for a coffee and all went well. I didn't bring up my true feelings for her, on the advice given, being that it might frighten her away. I felt that we were connecting onj a personal level and things didn't even appear awkward as I thought it might. After that meeting, I knew that I was still in love with her. Even after all the pain I have being through and I know she possibly went through a similar thing...I still love her. She texted me last night to see how things were going with me and we exchanged a few texts. My gut feeling is telling me that she still has feelings for me, but may be confused about the whole thing. It has beinmg 3 months since she broke it off. I would love to be able to have her back in my life again and I know it would mean starting fresh, but how do I do that? Should I tell her exactly how I feel or keep NC as much as possible and see if she comes to me with her side of the story. I'm playing it cool, but fear that she may think I have moved on and that I don't want to get back into a relationship with her! What do you guys think I should do?
Ronni_W Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I think...you could feel things out without spilling your emotional guts, which usually just comes off as needy and pathetic. You could tell her that you enjoyed seeing her last weekend. Then ASK what, if anything, she wants you to read into it that she texted you yesterday. That is, put it on HER to tell you where she is about all of it. And LISTEN to what she tells you. If she says she is "confused about the whole thing", ask her to please not drag you into her confused world. If she says she is "just being friendly", and you do NOT want that, tell her that you are not ready for that yet but you will let her know if/when that changes for you. Know what you want, set your own boundaries with her, and stick to it. Be assertive; don't be afraid to "lose her" because you've already done that; do NOT become her doormat. Are my suggestions. Good luck!
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