robynp Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 For those who don't know my story, my ex broke up with me 3 1/2 weeks ago, quite unexpected. We talked for a few days after, went nc for a few days, talked daily for a week and then I went nc for a week. I contacted the ex yesterday on day 5 of nc. Last night we talked on the phone until 2:30 in the morning! We both apologized for everything and discussed the issues. Told me he still loved me. Also said he noticed he hadn't seen me online and planned to contact me last night had he not heard from me. The other interesting thing he said was basically how surprised he was that I didn't seem devastated, he then said that was his ego lol. So, apparently, this nc seems to have worked a little! Anyway, he asked me to get dinner with him, which I said I would. We are going on Saturday. He hasn't asked to get back together or anything. Thoughts???
RYKR Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 He probably has no plans with his male friends, figured you might be suckered into joining him. Don't get your hopes up and expect him to come back. He is just using you to boost his ego, until he finds his next prey. He was surprised because he was hoping that you would be begging his azz back, so when you didn't the infamous get together dinner is planned. Please don't be a sucker, use NC properly and what it is intended for.
Casadiego Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 Yeah, what RYKR said. He probably wants to be feel better about himself, have a laugh, get an ego boost by making you all hot and bothered for him. Don't expect to be coming back to you anytime soon; I'd suggest not going to the dinner and just dropping it (going NC) at least for a while.
northstar1 Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 Not to be a cynic, but from reading your posts, he broke up with you a few weeks ago because he said he didn't have the same feeling for you, and that you hadn't fixed things you said you would? So, in those two weeks, in which youv'e still stayed in touch, what has changed? You need to ask yourself why suddenly the change of heart?
Author robynp Posted September 11, 2009 Author Posted September 11, 2009 Maybe you all are right, maybe not. But I need to see for myself. He actually has been texting me a lot. We had a really heart to heart about our relationship and I told him that I was in therapy working on my anger and anxiety problems. He apologized for his things too. Maybe nothing will come of this, but I love him too much not to try.
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